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HURTS_SO_BAD TAKES ONE GIANT LEAP BACKWARDS.....ARRRGGGH
February 9, 2005
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HI Hurts,,, how are you today?

February 9, 2005
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starryslp - I'm doing okay so far, but then it's still morning 🙂

I still think about the jerk and of course he hasn't written....but I feel myself getting numb again....hopefully it will stick this time.

I think the CODA meetings are really going to help me.

How have you been?

February 9, 2005
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Hurts, why do you expect him to call? If he's with another woman what good would it do you if he did call? You're better off if he doesn't call. You'll only feel more pain if you hear his voice. You need to start healing and let go of this man. Think about how you want to be treated by a man. Think about how he mistreaated you. Focus on what you do want and it will come to you.

February 9, 2005
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There are no coda in my area.

I am stressing a bit....going back to Ohio in 2 weeks, and my ex wants to see me...part of me wants to see him, but I know I shouldn't.

February 9, 2005
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kathygy - I guess it's because he kept telling me he missed me. False hope I gues. He was obviously toying with my emotions. Why? I'm not sure. Pretty dumb if he's that attached to the other woman.

Starryslp - DON'T go see your ex. It'll just create more pain.

February 10, 2005
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Hi Hurts- How are you today? I always come to this thread to see how you are doing. I am sorry that you're still having such a difficult time. Its not easy to LET GO, especially when they throw you some endearing word, or something you want to hear that FOOLS you to think they still care. I know exactly how you feel.

If you haven't already read the thread written by over the edge, date 9/28/04 ADDICTIVE RELATIONSHIPS, please read it. I keep reading it and it really really makes sense. There is no BS.

I don't know if you realize that codependency and love addiction are inter-related. Also, childhood issues or traumas play a TREMENDOUS role on why we get involved in toxic/non nurturing/non caring/loveless/distructive etc. relationships.

Yesterday I had a session with my therapist and we spoke at length about my post traumatic stress disorder. I suffered alot of trauma in my life. Those issues have really never been dealt with. Just on the surface. Unless I deal with them in-depth and put it behind me, it will be difficult to break the pattern. As you have read from my threads I keep repeating the same thing over and over again. For a long time I had no clue as to why. Thank God that I finally SAW THE LIGHT. As I said many times, I am not out of the woods. It will take a long time to heal. I have to be patient with myself and accept myself for the REAL me, no pretenses to make someone else happy. Yesterday I really broke down with him over the phone, i said YOU NOR ANYONE ELSE CAN TAKE AWAY THE PAIN THAT I HAVE FOR WHAT HAPPENED TO ME IN THE PAST. I HAVE TO GIVE MYSELF THE NURTURING, CARE AND LOVE TO MYSELF. HEAL. I felt such a relief saying this to him. I have always told him that he was not my SAVIOR. Quite the contrary. Do I still keep making mistakes? Yes. It cannot change over night. I have to be patient with myself and not beat myself over my mistakes. If i am not gentle and caring to myself who will be? Certainly not him. Yes he is caring and attentive when he feels he is loosing control of me. He knows to switch tactics when one doesn't work. It is up to me to see HIS PATTERN and me taking my control back. Just doing something about the e-mail and mail from him gave me some control back (i posted in the other thread). I refuse to sit at the computer like a beggar and wait for his "nothing better to do time" to e-mail me or be on line. He certainly didn't like it. He made sure to come on line to check if i really did block him from sending e-mail. TOO DAMN BAD.

My therapist told me that I am way too harsh and i beat myself unmercifully for things I feel are distructive. Yes I must be conscious of what I do but be gentle with myself. I've had enough punishment and abuse most of my life. I don't need more.

I have faith in myself that my life will turn around.

Hurts, please please I am not trying to lecture you or try to convince you to do what worked for me. I wrote alot about myself in the hope that maybe it can help you. THERE IS HOPE. It is discouraging when we don't see quick results. Its like trying to loose weight and we don't see the numbers on that scale go down. It took a while to put that weight on didn't it?

I am in no way promoting Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous. It is run by lay people like ourselves and it is based on the 12 Step Program of AA. There is nothing invested for me other than a suggestion for you to perhaps seek help by attending a meeting and see if anything applies to you. There is a web site on line that you can look up and might help you decide if you want to attend a meeting. The web site is:
http://www.slaafws.org/contact.html
I hate to see you suffer so much. I only want to be of help and encourage you that you CAN DO IT.

Please forgive me if I somehow said too much and its overbearing for you somehow.

No matter what you decide to do, i am not judgemental of you in any shape or form. I know you WILL BE WELL.

LOVE, SUPPORT AND MANY HUGS
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February 10, 2005
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Alegab -

It's good to hear from you. I've missed talking to you. You and I share a common thread more than you know.

I've been doing fairly good this week. My pain from not hearing from him is getting less and less. I sent him a text message on the 8th and here it is the 10th and my cell still shows it as not being received. So I'm not sure what's going on. He may be in an area where the connection is bad -- which is possible. I know one other time it took like 2 days before the message finally went through. But it's been 15 days so far and I haven't heard anything. So I'm thinking that after the email I sent him telling him what I thought he was doing as far as I was concerned was probably enough to make him think twice about stringing me along. I was pretty straightforward and told him that I was his "Plan B" in case the other girl didn't work out, and I also told him I thought that the fact he still misses me should tell him that perhaps this new girl wasn't really enough to keep him satisfied. But I also told him that I was not willing to share, so since he wasn't sure when he wanted to see me, I made the assumption that this new girl was his choice. I wished him well and told him that the next move was up to him. Apparently his "move" was to not contact me anymore.

It hurts, but at least I was able to tell him that I know what he was doing and he wasn't fooling me. That makes me feel a little more in control. I told him I still loved him, and that I thought he made a big mistake.....but that's as far as I went. I didn't ask him to give me another chance or anything....I just told him what I felt in my heart.

Sigh......I really think going to that CODA meeting helped. It gave me a new focus. The focus being on me, and learning to really love myself and talking about my fears, my low self-esteem. I'm more confident today than I have been in a long time that I will survive this and if I never hear from him again - I will be okay and eventually I will find someone who truly loves me.

Enough about me. How are you doing Alegab? You really do sound like you're getting stronger. I am very happy for you. You have been through so much...it's amazing to me that you're still such a compassionate and warm person. Some people may have turned into cold hearted souls had they had your experiences.

I'll keep you in my prayers. You hang in there 🙂

February 11, 2005
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Dear Hurts (et al)

I just read something good in Dr. Phil's book:

You cannot lock me into a bond with you, where you become part of my very being and part of what I think, feel, and do every day. I will not bond with you through hatred, anger or resentment. I will not bond with you through fear. I will not allow you to drag me into your dark world. By forgiving you, I am releasing me, not you. You must live with yourself every day. You must live with the darkness in your heart. But I do not, and I will not.

I have that pasted on my computer so I can read it every day. Hope you can get something out of it, too.

WE DESERVE HAPPINESS!!!!!

Love to all

February 11, 2005
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msguud - thanks. I will print this out and read it everyday until it sinks in!

I'm doing a little better today....Day 16 and as of right now anyway, I have no desire to write him. I hope it lasts 🙂

February 11, 2005
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Hurts- Congratulations, i didn't realize that its been 16 days!!!!
Wow that is fantastic. Pat yourself on the back. It will get easier as they say.

Msguud- What you posted is so fantastic. I WILL MAKE SURE TO PRINT THAT. Thank you for sharing.

I have the following to share, i got it from the place I go to physical therapy.

The Courage to be Myself
I have the Courage to

Embrace my strengths~ Get excited about life ~Enjoy giving and receiving ~Face and transform my fears~ Ask for help and support when I need it~ Spring free of the supper woman trap ~Trust myself~ Make my own decisions and choices~ Befriend myself~ Complete unfinished business~ Realize that I have emotional and practical rights~ Talk nicely to myself as I do to my plants~ Communicate lovingly with understanding as my goal~ Honor my own needs~ Give myself credit for my accomplishments~ Love the little girl within me~ Overcome my addiction to approval~ Grant myself permission to play~ Quit being a responsible sponge~ Feel all of my feelings and act on them appropriately~ Nurture others because I want to not because I have to~ Choose what is right for me~ Insist on being paid fairly for what you do~ Set limits and boundaries and stick by them~ Say “Yes” only when I really mean it~ Have realistic expectations~ Take risks and accept change~ Grow through challenges~ Be totally honest with myself~ Correct erroneous beliefs and assumptions~ Respect my vulnerabilities~ Heal old and current wounds~ Savor the mystery of my spirit~ Wave good bye to guilt~ Plant “flowers” not “weed” thoughts in my mind~ Treat myself with respect and teach others to do the same~ Fill my own cup first, then nourish others from the overflow~ Own my own excellence~ Plan for the future but live in the present~ Value my intuition and wisdom~ Know that I am lovable~ Celebrate the differences between men and women~ Develop healthy, supportive relationships~ Make forgiveness a priority~ Accept myself just as I am now.

Please be well and continue your great work Hurts. Thanks again Msguud.

Alegab

February 11, 2005
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Hurts- I guess I had to prove the last thing to myself and now i've hit rock bottom. There is no denying of anything. I'VE HEARD EVERYTHING I NEEDED TO HEAR. ITS OVER. NOW I MUST START DEALING WITH THE WITHDRAWAL.

He called me this afternoon and I was in a store. He said his day was totally impossible, that's all he had been saying lately. He was also calling me back to give me some suggestions about my younger daughter because she is not doing well in school. I told him i couldn't write anything at the moment. He said he had alot of catching up to do and didn't know when he'd leave the office but would try to call me back. I said if you don't, have a nice week end. He said you too, talk to you soon. Something was bothering me terribly. I took a chance and i called his home, yeah right he had alot to do, it was only about 45 minutes after his call to me and he was already home. He was surprised but said nothing. He just said, i just walked in the door can you call me back in one minute. So I did. He started to give me the suggestions but that was not the reason I was really calling him. I wanted to hear the last thing with my own ears and hear his reaction and answer. I said to him, i don't know if i should tell you this, he said what is it. I started to play with him and kept saying i don't know if i should, maybe you'll be hurt, maybe you'll never see me again. I said i'll tell you monday. He said please don't leave me in suspense tell me now. I said ok, you promise not to get mad?
He said no. I told him that I was invited to go out for a drink with the guy I was suppose to see two weeks ago. He started to say, do you realize that if you go your defenses will be down and you are so vulnerable right now anything can happen. I said, nothing will happen i am in charge. He said, no your not. Not in the state you're in. Anyway to make a long story short I wanted him to answer me directly with what i wanted to hear. I said you told me that if i met someone that would make me happy you'd be happy for me. He said in a whisper yes I did and I guess I have to put my selfishness aside. I do want you exclusively for myself. He said I care for you very much. I said, if i go with this guy will you still see me? He said I guess i will have to deal with it. That is all I had to hear. What that meant to me is, ok do what you want as long as you still please me in my needs, you all know what i am talking about. The last thing he said was, please please be careful. He had to hang up right away because his wife was coming. At some point in the conversation i said, remember when you said all men are interested in is getting into a woman's pants, he said I didn't say that about me.
Yeah right. That's all he tried to do the first time he met me.

I will not give him any type of explanation for anything, I will pray to God and use all the tools I know to have no contact with him. IT IS OVER. Maybe in a couple of weeks, I will speak my mind to him in a letter, it won't be in a lady like manner either. He talked about being vulnerable and being taken advantage of? How dare him, him being a psychologist knew damn well how fragile, vulnerable and weak I was. He took full advantage of me knowing all this. HE IS A REAL BASTARD. Believe me he will pay for this. God will take care of him.

Please keep me in your prayers.

Thank you.

Love,
Alegab

February 11, 2005
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Alegab - Even though it will hurt alot for awhile - I am proud of you for deciding to move on and let him go. You are doing absolutely the right thing. He does not deserve you. I think he's a total jerk. All he wanted was satisfaction for himself. He would probably keep seeing you, no matter how many men you were dating.....as long as he still got his needs met. He obviously was just using you. I know that's not what you want to hear, but there's really no other explanation...especially since he kept telling you he'd never leave his wife.

You never answered me when I asked about your hubby. Is there a chance for you two to make this marriage work? I know from past experiences, if you want to truly see if a relationship will work or not - you cannot have some other guy in the wings waiting. Your focus has to be on just one man at a time. Otherwise the feelings get all confused...you start comparing the two and it will drive you crazy.

I will pray for you to have the strength to stay away from J for good this time and remember the Serenity Prayer and say it often whenever you feel weak: God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change;
the courage to change the things I can; and the wisdom to know the difference. Amen.

Lots of Hugs,
Hurts

February 12, 2005
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Hi Hurts- Thank you for your response to me. I know I answered about my husband to someone but I don't know if it was you and in what post it was.

I'll try to condense it. We have been marrried almost 21 years. As an addict (which I didn't know at the time) i met and married him within 8 months. I had blinders on to want to look beyond that he didn't abuse me (like other guys had done). I didn't look that I didn't really have a future with him financially. He was a jack of all trades master of none. I put him through school and I owned a home and it was all set up for him. The co-dependent in me was desparate to get married and i'd give anything to get it. Don't get me wrong, he is a wonderful as a person. But.... he is not able to fulfill me emotionally, never was never will. We were in marriage counseling for a while recently and he suddenly decided to stop because he felt it was a waste, it didn't help and there was no sense in it. We have big issues,needs not being met, financial, child rearing, common interests etc. He knows I am an addict but is in denial. I've been sort ofclear to him about it. He doesn't want to know and see. I gave him a book to read so he could perhaps understand, he read about 6 pages and put it aside. I truely believe he loves me in his own way. If i left him he would be distraught. To tell you the truth I think i would never leave him either, i would just try to live with it. Of course, my addiction must come to a stop whether I stay with him or not. It is not healthy and it distroys me.

My focus right now is to TAKE CARE OF ME, BETTER MYSELF. I insisted that my daughters go to therapy with me (besides me going on my own). I don't want them to be anything like me.

My ending didn't last very long. Last night very late at night i unblocked him from my buddy list and there he was. He said he was worried sick about me, tried every way to leave me a message but of course he couldn't because i had him blocked. He took the chance and even talked to me on the phone while his wife was sleeping. This morning he called me again "furious" because I set him up yesterday with the story of me going out with another guy. I told him I am an addict and I am with him because in some "sick way" he is fulfilling some unhealthy need. I also told him you are also an addict. He didn't say yes or no, but when i try to say something he said I know what an addict is. We argued back and forth. I told him lets not talk to each other until you come back from Paris (he is going the 18th) and think this through. He said, why can't we talk until I go away and then think while I am away. I told him a little about myself that I am in therapy for my addiction, i didn't tell him i attend meetings. We came to no conclusion whatsoever because his wife was coming and he had to go. One thing I did say was how cruel he is that he cannot understand how hurt and left out I feel when he goes away (he travels every chance they get). He said I make him feel guilty. I said I don't make you feel anything, i am just telling you the truth of how I feel and i am entitled to my feelings whether you want to accept it or not.

I am not going to beat myself up over this. I HAVE FAITH THAT IT WILL END AND HOPEFULLY REAL SOON. I cannot keep distroying myself.

How are you doing? Do you feel any better? I hope so.

Please take care and thank you for being here for me. I am here for you and all if i can be of any help. Right now i feel totally useless.

(((((((((hugs))))))))))
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February 13, 2005
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Hi SD- I am posting what I posted in the other thread in the hope that you will read how I feel. I know that you come into this site.

I read and re read your post. Thank you for offering your thoughts on what is going on. The only thing that you don't understand (and I am not blaming you for that) i that this is part of the behavior Addicts have. I am re enacting my childhood behvior of doing almost anything to have my mother love me, be caring, be nurturing etc. Its not about J, J represents my mother. In Love addiction one tends to repeat the behavior that was done in childhood. The behavior that I am doing is normal in addiction. Its fooling myself into believing that if I do this and it doesn't work then i'll try that and it still won't work. Its desparation. You are correct in saying that everyone here can offer suggestions and try to help me but it is up to me to face the reality, which sometimes I do and sometimes I loose sight of. I AM THE ONLY ONE THAT CAN CHANGE MY LIFE AROUND. Just as it didn't take me a short time to be the way I am I know i cannot change that my behavior over night either. A very experienced and long time woman in recovery offers me some great advice that has worked for her and i always feel better after talking to her. I guess its difficult for people that have not gone through this personally to understand the dynamics of this disease. One must walk in the shoes of the person going through a particular situation. I know your intent is not to be harsh or hurtful.
I have continued in this relationship because in a very sick way he served my need of getting the "crumbs" of little affection, calling me, giving me false attention etc. I am working very hard on myself to let go of this sick behavior. I am NOT going to allow him to put his guilt on me. He refuses to face up to his addiction and in order to relieve his guilt and not face his problems he tries to put it on me. I didn't force him the other night to call me, i was not physically there to put his hand on that phone and dial my number. He chose to. Then he has the audacity to say "do you know what problems it could have caused me if she picked up the phone and heard me on the phone?" He does not owe me one iota for going away on his trips, yet he said I MADE HIM FEEL GUILTY. He has no clue that is natural for me to feel abandoned (again childhood issues) when he goes away and has fun and i am left behid. All he is interested in is having his cake and eating it too. Yes I have partaken in this "whatever you call it" but i never was hurtful to him. He has.

I am not trying to convince you or anyone else of my feelings, my issues, my addiction or anything else. This is me. You owe me nothing to try to understand me.

I must deal with the "little girl" in me and help her heal in order to go on with my life.

Thanks again for your response. I hope you are doing ok. I apologize for not remember exactly what is going on with you. Its not out of selfishness, its just that right now I am in the middle of a "hurricane".

Be well,
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Hello,

Well tomorrow is Valentine's Day - which is making it a bit difficult NOT to think about my ex. I want to send him a Valentine's card, but why should I really? He won't even read it. It's been 17 or 18 days (i've lost count) and I haven't heard a word from him.

All things considered, I am feeling okay with it. I think I am ready to move on. A few weeks ago, I would have been in tears that I hadn't heard from him, but now, I'm just sorta numb.

I hope I'll survive tomorrow without crying....being Valentine's Day....it just might depress me....but we'll see.

Hope everyone is doing well and I hope everyone has a nice Valentine's Day.

Hugs,
Hurts

February 13, 2005
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Dear Hurts - I'm with you on the Valentine's day. Oh, pee on it. Who cares. It's just another day. You're 18 days? I'm 26 days I think. I also lost count. It will be a month on the 17th. Let's face it, if they loved us or wanted us that bad, they'd be calling....... so why can't we just suck it up and forget about it. It's hard, I know. I'm crying also. But, we have to continue on and hope for the best in life. Man, I feel so hurt and used. Oh, well, I hope you have a good day tomorrow. Once that stupid Valentines day is over with - HAHAHA.

Take care Ms. Hurts. Let's look after ourselves tomorrow and not think about anything else, okay?

WE ARE WORTH IT!!!!!!!!!!

February 14, 2005
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msguud - You are absolutely correct! We are worth it. And we can move on to a better place!

Let's try something different today and NOT think about them. What goes around comes around.....and they will one day realize what they have lost.

Have a good day!

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Hurts

February 14, 2005
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I can't believe Valentine's Day would be my downfall. I have written that stupid jerk 3 - YES - 3 emails and he hasn't responded to one of them.

Am I totally out of my mind? Why am I so hell bound to keep giving him the chance to reject me? What is wrong with me? It's not as if I didn't have anyone to wish me a happy Valentine's Day. One of the guys I went out with send me candy....called to wish me a good day. But was that good enough for me? Nope. I want the guy I obviously can't have. I must really be a glutton for punishment. Why do I feel like that?

Help!

February 14, 2005
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I remember asking myself the same question ...why do I give someone the chance to reject me? REjection made me feel unworthy...until I realized I felt that way anyway!!
It all goes back too, for me anyway, I can only speak for myself, I tried to find my significance in this man that I loved. That if I could just have him, everything would be ok, and I would be happy. And not only is that an untruth, but it put the emphasis on soemthing that would fail if I did that.
Part of this is learning to know that you can be happy without him. And it is confusing at first, but rejection is painful. Eventually it won't hurt anymore...because you may develop enough self love for yourself that it won't matter...again this is what I had to do, and I also had to learn that my self-worth is not dependent on whether someone approves of me or not. Another good book to read, is:
In Search of Significance. So be good to yurself, and don't beat yourself up over this.

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on my way -

thanks for your thoughts. I just feel like such a wimpy, needy and weak person right now. I'm sure glad tomorrow is my CODA meeting. Boy do I need it.

Now I've got the extra burden of the possibility that he'll write me back and telling me to move on. Somehow, that would make me feel worse than not hearing anything at all.

When will this end?

February 14, 2005
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Dear Hurts - yes, you set yourself up for that one. Don't feel like a wimp, tho. You went with your feelings, but remember to keep yourself in mind when you want to do it again. I am wanting so so bad to call him, but in three days it will be a month, and he hasn't called me to see how I am doing, so there you go, there's my answer. Why set myself up for him to say something I don't want to hear? I'm hurting enough, I don't need to hurt more. Silence is better than him getting another stab at me. I hope you can see it that way, too, for your sake.

On My Way: Nice to hear from you again. I agree with everything you said. I'm going to look for that book.

Alegab: You take care of yourself, too. I think we are all on our way to acceptance? I hope so. I'm forcing myself to be strong, but yes, I admit it, I still hurt. But I do know that one day it will go away.

Let's all try to love OURSELVES, and not look for jerks to make us "happy". We can make ourselves happy, can't we? COME ON GIRLS - WE CAN DO IT!!!!!!

I care about all of you, and I know you all care, because we keep in touch. Sorry for babbling on and on.......

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msguud - I do see that it's better not to set myself up. Even though I already hurt, if I keep giving him opportunities to have to write me and tell me something I don't want to hear, that will hurt way more.

Somedays it's just so hard not to write. I keep thinking that maybe things will be different if I write....but deep down I know he won't write back. I've lost him. I know that. I guess I'm just having a hard time accepting that he's gone.

And again, he left me with no closure. After I sent him that email after we talked - he didn't even have the courtesy to write and give me his thoughts or tell me I was right....nothing......just this damn silence.

I know one of these days the hurt will go away and I'll probably never give him a second thought.....but until that time comes - I'm hurting really bad - I'm sad - angry - depressed and just generally feeling lousy.

I'm certainly glad today is over with. Let's hope that all of us will have a better Valentine's Day next year.

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Hurts

February 15, 2005
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In that book is a chapter on rejection, why we do it, why others do it to us, and why we allow it, and also a chapter on approval addiction. It is also based on finding self-worth in the only person who sees us as completely worthy and that is God. This book is awesome..full of insight and information!!

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Hi Friends:

How to break your addiction to a person Addiction-breaking aphorisms

1.You can live without him/her (probably better) 2. Love is not enough (to make a a good relationship) 3. Limerence is not enough. 4. A love relationship is mutual and helps each partner feel better about himself, not worse. 5. Guilt is not reason enough to stay. 6. You don’t have to love someone to be addicted to him. 7. Just because you’re jealous doesn’t mean you love him, you can be jealous of someone you can’t stand. 8. What you see is what you get. So stop hanging on to the BELIEF you can change the other person. 9. Love doesn’t necessarily last forever. 10. You can’t always work it out, no matter how much you may want to. 11. Some people die of bad relationships. Do you want to be one of them? 12. If someone says “I don’t want to be tied down,” “I’m not ready for a relationship,” “I’m not going to leave my spouse.” Etc. BELIEVE HIM. 13. Half a loaf isn’t better than none. 14. He/she doesn’t have to love you. 15. It doesn’t have to get better 16. The pain of ending it won’t last forever. In fact, it won’t last nearly as long as the pain of not ending it. 17. If it will be the same way five or ten years from now, do you want it? 18. There will be anxiety, loneliness, depression when you end it, but these feelings will last for only a limited amount of time and then will stop. 19. You won’t be alone forever; that’s thinking in Infant Time. 20. It’s never too late to make a change; the longer you wait, the more time wasted. 21. The intensity of your withdrawal symptoms does not indicate the strength of your love, but the strength of your addiction. 22. You are a whole and valuable person apart from that relationship. 23. When you feel inadequate, incomplete, or worthless apart from him/her, childhood feelings are taking over. 24. He/she is not the “one and only.” 25. If you end this bad relationship, you will be opening your life to new possibilities.

Have a nice day.
Alegab

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Wow Alegab - thanks for that insight. I've copied it and am going to read it over and over. hope you are okay today...

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