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hurting again :(
August 26, 2007
11:36 am
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lost soul
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I am really lost, i have been here many years ago talking about my unhappy marriage.Staying stuck with a husband whom have many affairs for my daughter.

Recently, I knew a guy from the internet & went out with him a few times. He has said no string tied and I have agreed but now I am finding myself thinking of him. We just met on friday spending a night together but then he has not log in to the Msn any more. does that means that he is justing having fun with me? not even as a friend? omg, it really hurts me badly. I am already a wounded person and why this has to happen to me again. I am so alone for 10 years and just trying to let myself out of the "prison" and just a short time I have to get hurt again 🙁

can someone just enlighten me, scold me also no problem, just let me wake up my bloody mind.......

August 26, 2007
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In the 10 years that you were alone, did you seek help to actually deal with the pain you have been through, as well as start to feel good about yourself? It sounds like there is definitely some co-dependency going on with you that needs to be addressed and dealt with. Are you in counseling of any sort? That is a great place to start, as well as post your feelings out here, you will find excellent feedback from most of the people out here.

Good luck to you!

August 26, 2007
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hi lost soul, I am sorry to hear you are hurting and that you are stuck. Before you get too involved with this new person, you may want to think about resolving the current situation that you are in. What would it take for you to leave this unhappy marriage? What are you willing to sacrifice to get yourself to a better place? What are you losing by staying in this situation? What are you gaining? What is the worst that can happen if you get unstuck?

August 26, 2007
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Lost- Sorry this has happened. I found that it is better if I spend a long time talking to someone on the phone and having casual encounters to be sure where they are coming from. I knew my husband for years plutonic before I married him, after being his neighbor. I knew he wasnt out for a one night stand but still he has treated me like garbage. You must have had bigger ambitions then to have met a man that hasnt even contacted you. Dont blame yourself. You didnt do anything wrong. Better to find out sooner than later that you may be dealing with the wrong man. Their are still plenty more men out there to choose from.

August 27, 2007
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Hi all, thanks for the reply... Yes, I am a codependent person.I have read about codenpendency and know that i am one.....

My husband has brought up the issue of divorce and I am quite prepare for it. I have waited for him to change & I think 10 years is enough. during these years, he has never take a day off to accompany me & my daughter.

As for the "guy" I think he is just out to have fun & it happened to be me. Nevermind,I think I will get over him quite soon as we are not really into the bf/gf relationship. It's just purely getting physical. Guess I am just being lonely for too long & want to get some attention but happen to be for a wrong reason. But anyway I do enjoy the time spended with him, I have no regret.....

September 3, 2007
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I was married to a man for 12 years that got enjoyment out of seeing me lose my self worth, and he did everything in his power to help me lose it. He found enjoyment over seeing me hurt. I could not understand this and yet I continued it for so long. I had two daughters and relied on him for the financial support. I was a stay at home mom. I ended it finally,....and I was scared!! I drank too much, I associated with the wrong people for awhile,....but I finally made it!!

I quit drinking, got my own feet on the ground,.....

he got almost everything in the divorce (he who has the money),..can get the best attorney,...

lived on my own for a few years and have now been happily married to a very nice and loving man for 16 years.

It can be done.

Best wishes to you on your new journey!
Jacque 🙂

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