Let me preface this with I have an anger control problem that has finally put my husband over the edge. We have been married for 6 1/2 years and have a 4 yr. old, 2 yr old and he has a 16 yr old and a 12 yr old. He is now asking for a divorce because of my harsh and disrespectful words that I say to him no matter who is around, including the kids. He say he doesn't love me anymore and that if we don't get divorced that it will only be for the children. This is something that has abeen a problem for years, but I am only now acknowledging it. I now get it and see that I need to change. I contacted a counselor and went 2 times now but found out it will cost us $600 in deductible and then 50% from there. We are not wealthy and I don't know what to do. I am in total control of my anger right now and I plan to for the rest of my life, but my husband refuses to beleive me. Which I can understand. What has been really hard here for me is that I am taking 100% of the responsibility for my anger problem, that he keeps reminding me I have, but he is not taking any responsibility for his part in our problems. Does anyone have any advice on what I can do to continue to control myself in situations where I am feeling hurt and vulnerable and not react with anger. Also should I stay in a marriage where my husband says he doesn't think he could love me again even if I change.