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How to reclaim Self-Confidence?
April 14, 2007
2:36 pm
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Follow up from my thread from Lib Brew...so that more folks can see it since this thread gets more viewable than the other one. (My thread upstairs: Yes u can think, chapter 15, Codep no more/Melody's book)

Beattie in her book "Codep no more" lists an inventory of some suggestions that can help us as codep to reclaim our lost self-confidence & mental abilities:

- Treat our minds to peace. detach, get calm. If we're facing a big decision, get peaceful 1st then decide.

- Ask God to help us think.

- Quit abusing our minds. Worry & obsession constitute mental abuse. Stop doing those things.

- Feed our minds. Give our minds info such as alcoholism, relationships...then let them sort thru things which would help us to come up with answers and solutions.

- Feed our minds healthy thoughts. Induge in activities that uplift our thoughts and give us a positive chagre, a meditation book.

- Strech our mind. Many of us become so concerned about our problems and other's problems that we stop reading newspapers, watching documentaries, reading books etc. Get interested in the world around us. Learn something new.

- Quit saying bad things about our minds. Stop telling yourself things like: "I can't make good decisions," "I'm really not very smart," Start instead, to say good & positive things about yourslef.

- Use our mind. Make decisions. Formulate opinions. Express them. Create! Think things thru, but don't worry & Obsess. Letting people make our decisions for us means wer're getting rescued, which means we're feeling like victims.

April 14, 2007
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thanks for the food for thought. I need it. I never realized I had such a lack of self-confidence until now. Now realize that my inability to make a decision without anothers guidance/approval shows that I don't value myself very much. This post helps to guide me back in the right direction for positive thinking and gaining confidence. Hugs to you Ras.

April 14, 2007
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AMEN! thanks for that Ras!

I have been doing those things all day and today has been great for a day that started out so panicky. A little strange feeling good about myself and letting things just be and being calm, but I am worth it and only I can do it.

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