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how to make an exit? P&L
August 25, 2006
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How does one make justify a safe exit when leaving could affect innocent people? That is, my getting out of the toxic situation will leave some with less resources than they expected, but I absolutely cannot fight for it or I will be gone along with the resources. Help.

August 26, 2006
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Oh P&L you're such a fixer.

Let it go.

Justify it by saying this is something you have to do, and that you are very sorry for any negative impact it may have on others.

Just like that.

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August 26, 2006
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Thanks free! Some think I should not concede no matter what or they will know they can stomp on me and make me the scapegoat and blame me, although I have lots of documentation, which they refuse to see. Leaving will hurt me and others. Staying will hurt me. I just can't stay in the impossible situation. I want to stay and fight for what is mine, but I want to move on, and get out in one piece. The innocent people...well, I care way too much about them. Who cares about me? When push comes to shove, when I go down, so do they, and I doubt they want that. They choose to be followers, yet I had every reason to believe I could lead. Little did I know I would be in the middle of such a damaging mess due to a group of wrongdoers ready to bring me down for some strange reason, I dont need to know more about. Never concede, never concede in business. Well, maybe you want to concede when your career may be on the line. My pride is not worth it. Since when is walking away from a toxic relationship, even if you are right and have documented all, being a coward. I did not personalize it. I am trying to get away from those who did and who will stop at nothing to cover things up, but my people and me will suffer severely. Help. No options feel right now.

August 26, 2006
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(((P&L)))

August 26, 2006
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Since when is walking away being a coward?

Sometimes it is the most courageous act of all.

You know what the right thing to do is P&L. You're smart.

You know if you should stay or if you should leave.

You do.

Make the decision and stick to it. If it ends up being the wrong decision due to circumstances you did not forsee, well then that means you made a mistake.

Bummer.

It happens.

You say you are sorry and mean it.

You learn from it.

And you move on.

THAT'S courage. Find it P&L. Take the leap, one way or the other. No more wishy-washy.

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August 26, 2006
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I want to go. I don't want to hurt anyone in the process.

August 26, 2006
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and I don't want them to think they can do it again...

August 27, 2006
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I don't think I can exit. I think I have to go on record as fighting for my rights and the innocent people's rights, and the right thing to do until the bitter end, even if it kills me. PLEASE REPLY!

August 27, 2006
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How will it kill you P&L?

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August 27, 2006
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p&l do you consider yourself young or older?if you are young you have the rest of your life to move on.if you are older you have the rest of your life to move on.look at martha stewart she even made a comeback and your situation cant be that bad.

August 27, 2006
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What the heck IS going on P&L? How come you don't say? Are you involved in some study of aliens or something? Biological warfare? What is it?

It's hard to know what to say P&L kuz it's hard to grasp the seriousness of the situation without knowing what's going on.

But I can say this: you've got to make a decision one way or the other. This flip-flopping is gonna give you a heart attack!

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August 27, 2006
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PC

I am a lot younger than Martha Stewart, but that was a good point, Thanks!

Free- No, it is not aliens, and I am not paranoid. I wrote about it the I give up thread. I have told my story as much as I can. The rest is confidential for obvious reason. There are just somethings when one is the middle of a situation, you don't want traced back on the internet. So, if people cannot trust the seriousness or grasp what I am saying, I completely understand.

The flip flopping is gonna give me a heart attack. I agree. How do I make a decision when there is no answer? All options are no good. It is an impossible situation. How does one decide in such a dilemma? I have gone over the pros and cons. I have sought outside consult. I cannot decide. I am hoping it comes to me somehow before it is too late...although, I am not sure what will make it too late.

August 27, 2006
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P&L, I am confused. I thought you had made your mind up to leave???? You are going to make yourself very sick if you don't do something soon!!!! I think a lot of people here care for you, but are not sure of advice due to the complexities of your situation. You have support here!

Please take care and keep us inform. I am not consistent in prayer, yet I have prayed for you everyday this week. Be strong!!! (((P&L)))

August 27, 2006
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P&L, you have to take care of yourself first! If you need to leave to help yourself, be a little selfish and do that. You are the most important person here, you have to look out for #1! (((P&L)))

August 27, 2006
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I agree, confused as heck...P&L, your life seems to be in limbo and your getting sick from it...make your move girl and take care.

August 27, 2006
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Hi P&L

I din't mean to imply that you are paranoid, just wondering if you were working on something highly classified.

P&L you're looking for an answer that isn't there.

You're looking for a third option that isn't there.

You've gotta decide one way or the other, stick with it, and get through it, if you want things to change.

Otherwise, if you do nothing, then nothing will happen. It really IS that simple.

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August 27, 2006
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Here's one technique I heard about for making a decision. (read till the end, I'm not being flippant.)

Flip a coin. Heads is Option A, Tails is Option B. After you flip the coin and see which option comes up, does your stomach drop and you think - oh no, that's the wrong thing to do. Or do you give a little jolt of energy and think Yes! I knew that was the right one.

Then go for the option that your gut spoke the truth about.

Good luck, P&L.

regards, kroika

August 27, 2006
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thank you everyone. gg, that was really sweet of you.

the rest of you, are incredible supportive. Thank you.

August 27, 2006
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I think the decision I have made recently is to go from a person who is in the "front lines" and a leader to hiding, withdrawing, and just folding my cards. I can't do it anymore. I will say this on my other post.

August 27, 2006
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I could do it, but not under these conditions.

August 28, 2006
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I just think you are a heck of alot stronger than you give yourself credit for.

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August 28, 2006
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thanks free! I wrote on my other thread what I am going to do now.

Everyone here has been so wonderful to me. Hugs, P&L

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