
5:48 pm

September 24, 2010

I am due to have a baby in 4 weeks. My babies dad is an alcoholic. He has emotionally destroyed me. He has never phsically hurt me. I am needing to stay away from him. But I just cant seem to stay away. I realise that it is not a good relationship at all. He has been in and out of jail also. How does a person find the courage to just stay away. The dad sure talks the talk but I believe it is always just his way to get me to go back to him. I need serious help to stay away. But I am totally not string enough:(
6:08 pm

September 29, 2010

Verysickofit,
You must truly make your life about you and your baby and what is best for both of you in EVERY way.
You can read through the threads here and find people complaining about their alcoholic/abusive partners. Yet they continue to stay with them or go back again and again.
Why? Because WE are as sick as the sick people we're with. And as long as we're talking about THEM, we're not working on OURSELVES.
So, that is the first step: work on yourself. Read Codependent No More and Women Who Love Too Much, go to Alanon, and begin therapy. Keep the focus on you and your baby. You have wasted enough time on HIM.
Now is YOUR time to walk the walk - for yourself and your baby. Start building a new support system for yourself now so you can raise your baby in a healthy environment. This child is innocent and deserves the very best!
Take responsibility today! Welcome to the board. You'll find support here.
Mary
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