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how to deal with this???
October 11, 2008
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my gal has gotton herself into trouble with the law & was charged in court.. for fighting with another gal.... I was very stressful & don't really know to to deal with this issue...sometime i just wish that i will never wake up from my sleep..

October 11, 2008
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your gf needs to deal with this herself....it happened, and not sure how "you" want to deal with this???

October 11, 2008
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Lost soul

There comes a time in all our lives that the stress of everyday life leaves us feeling like not facing it at all.

Your gal was charged in court, what kind of punishment did she receive for this fight? What are her future plans to help herself work on her anger issues?

Sounds like a lot of stress, talking about it helps release that stress, keep posting.

Atalose

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October 11, 2008
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Camer

Is my gal, means my daughter.. nit my gf... anyway thanks for reponding.

atalose

The punishment is either imprisonment for a year or fine with 5K..... but we are hopping for a probation for her. the next hearing will be in mid Nov. Anyway, my gal is very rebellious... she has given me lots of heartache despite all the love & care I have given her since she is a baby. When she was about 4 years old, her dad starts to have extra marital affairs ... because of her, I stayed in a loveless marriage so that she can have a "complete family" But see, what has happened to me . I am the one who is been punished... 5K is lot of money to me. Franking I don't even have the money...
Everymonth , my income is just nice to pay for the whole family's expenses plus mine.

Life is tough...............

October 11, 2008
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Anyway, to add on, my gal doesn't give a shit how I feel.

she will promise something now & forget about it later............

I always says , it's my BAD karma that I have to suffer in this life................................................

Life is meaningless............

October 11, 2008
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Lost soul,

No you don’t have to suffer in life, suffering is optional even at the hands of our children.

How old is your daughter?

Atalose

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October 11, 2008
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The consequences may do her good and turn her around. I would keep my wallet closed, my hands tied and let her straighten this out on her own.

AND take the legal consequences for her poor actions.

It's called "tough love."

- Ma Strong

October 12, 2008
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my gal is 16 this year.... yes, this is the last time i am standing by her side & give her the supports, court hearing will be mid nov. I hope i will mean what I have just said because I am always soft hearted that's why people always take me for grunted.....

anyway, thanks all for the response & advises, I really appreciated... 😀

October 12, 2008
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Lost soul,

It’s admirable you are standing by her side once again and I think it’s more important for you to have someone standing by YOUR side with all this. Have you thought about counseling for you to better prepare yourself on handing this events with your daughter?

As important as it is to you to stand by her side it’s equally important for you to give yourself that same attention and priority.

Keeping you and your daughter in my thoughts…

Atalose

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October 12, 2008
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(((Lost Soul)))

This sounds very difficult and I am sorry that things are working out this way for you. You are an important and worthwhile person, who deserves a happy and fulfilling life.

Your daughter needs to work through her own issues and you can stand by her by supporting her in solving her own problems. 16 is a tough age for both the teen and the parents, especially when they are rebellious.

I would advise you to seek counseling for both of you. But especially you. A good counselor will be able to give you the support you need to take care of your self. Once you take care of yourself, then you will be in a better position to support your daughter.

Sending you strength and love,
Chelonia

October 15, 2008
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thank you atalose & chelonia mydas
for the thoughts & kind words given to me...

Yes, as a mum , I have my duty to stand by her & give her the supports & try to guide her to the right direction but it's up to her if she is taking this chance to turn over a new leaf....

I just hope that the probation & curfew enforce by the goven will do her good....

I hope to be looking at the brightside of live.

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