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How to deal with someone who has a terminal illness
March 8, 2001
9:08 am

i know a girl on internet, who has advanced cancer in her backbone and doctors have told her that shes not going to live long.
she says she doesnt want to die.
she says she likes me. today she said she wants me to be by her side when she dies.
i thought to try not to let her remember death, but now i dont know how to deal with her.
do u tell her the things straight and tell her to face the facts or do u pretend that the problem doesnt exist and tell her to 'forget' about it and that shes going to live.
she started crying today and shes cried before. what should be done to ease her pain? to help her face death or to help her forget the thing?
i like her too, shes very cute etc.
she said she's becoming fond of me and that it scares her.
what to do and how to deal with her so that she stays happy?

March 8, 2001
11:43 pm
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Dying people need thier friends more than ever. Don't worry about what to say-the important thind is simply that you care.Take a loving interest in how they feel, but don't pry into feelings or problems.If they feel like talking,listen carefully.Show understanding if they share strong feelings.You may be able to cheer a dying person by sharing news about your own life or friends. Feel free to laugh,the person needs fun and humor.Don't let silence bother you,just spending time with them shows caring

March 9, 2001
5:20 pm
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As a minister, I believe that you should tell her about the love of Jesus. Let her know that He loves her and that he cares. Also tell her that because God is on her side, she need not fear, but have faith. See faith is "the substance of things hoped for and the evidence of things not seen." Let her know that by faith a brighter day is coming and that she is not going to die but live a long prosperous life.

God Bless U,

PG Lova

PS If she does go, which I pray she doesn't, just remember that in His word, God specifically said "Whosoever believeth in me though he be dead,yet shall he live!"

I'm going to pray for her and if you'd like to pray with me or talk e-mail me at [email protected] and invite her to do the same.

March 10, 2001
11:30 pm

thanks pg and counslr for ur help and thoughts.
she had an operation 2 months ago for removing the tumor but still the doctors said she would die if the cells grew back again.
she had a few days back. she was in a lot of pain and couldnt sleep. in the test, they stuck up probes in her back and after the anesthesia wore off it was very painful.
atleast i hope the results are positive. i'm trying to give her love and support and i will try to tell her about god (she beleives in him). like pg said.

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