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How do you tell a guy "honey your breath stinks"
April 26, 2007
3:23 am
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wannabe
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hey all

there is this guy in my neighbourhood, who has been saying hey and come over all the time. so I finaly came around and decided its alright to visit him.

friday I met him at the shop, uncombed hair, a red shirt. saturday I went to visit him, monday I passed him on my way to the stage, same attire, uncombed hair and the same red shirt. yesterday he requested I vist again, I went, abit of chit chat and I stood to leave, the guy wanted to kiss me "goodbye" OH! my GOD his breath stinks, I could not allow it.

he is cute, nothing much going on, but if he is to attempt the kissing again..... how do I tell him his breath stinks... and he doesnt have to put on the same clothes over and over and that he would actually look cuter with tidy hair !!!!!!!

ARGH!!!!!!!!

April 26, 2007
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Hi Wan... I am not sure whether to crack up or feel really bad. I dated a guy who had bad BO and breath. I never told him but I ended up breaking up with him. He was so sweet, charming, romantic but he stunk... His BO seemed to come from inside the body not hygiene he had bad teeth and he couldn't control that either. Sounds like your guy kind of neglects himself. Before you even consider telling him about his hygiene, figure out if you can trust him to pay any more attention to you than he does to himself. On the other hand you can just tell him the truth and hope he sees that you are coming from a caring place. All the best...

April 26, 2007
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Wasn't the hygeine thing on the Red Flags list?

April 26, 2007
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wannabe,

I think that you need to tell him. Try and be as tactful and polite as possible. I think that it will help him; maybe no one has cared enough to be honest.

I dated a guy for a few weeks who had an issue with this and said that he had tried several things and just couldn't correct the problem. Bad breath could be a sign of poor health, usually dental issues, but some folks just have chronic halatosis (I am sure I spelled that wrong). In the end, I just could handle this guy's breath. I felt shallow, but it was such a turn-off.

Cary

April 26, 2007
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Bad hygiene habits are ingrained in people from the time there were very small, and I believe not that many people change (for better) in their lifetime. I think it gets worse when they are getting older, not to mention it looks less cute when they are older. Wrinkly shirt on a young guy looks still OK, wrinkly shirt on a guy with a wrinkled face does not. So if you are looking for an ongoing project - good luck! Otherwise drop him and look for a guy whose mama bathed him everyday and brushed his teeth and combed his hair and changed him into clean clothes everyday when he was a baby.

April 26, 2007
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am really not into the guy, but I dont mind having a positive impact in him by being honest with him.

Lord give me the courage !

April 26, 2007
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wannabe,

That's really positive. I didn't think you were into him at all from what you wrote. If he doesn't hear it from you, he will eventually hear it, but with more consequences.

April 26, 2007
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Just say "hey,(baby, or big guy) you wanna kiss?, I'll kiss you if you go brush your teeth". 😉

"I may even go out with you if you shower, comb your hair and put on clean clothes".

Unkempt and uncleanliness.....Thats just pure laziness. If he's too lazy to do that then I would wonder what else he's too lazy to do. Whats his house look like? Whats his work habits like?
Be careful. The best predictor future behaviour is past behavior.

April 26, 2007
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Wannabe, I admire you for your courage. I think he is into you though. Be careful he doesn't feel like your telling him he need a shower is a sign that you may actually want to kiss him...All the best.

April 26, 2007
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You can tell him the truth in a loving way; esp. if you tell him that as a good friend you want nothing but the best for him. That's what I do with my friends. I believe Honesty with friends is a sign of true friendship.

You many also ask him why...did he eat something on that day that caused that bad breath? Some food can cause that. Does he groom himself, comb his hair, or was he merely having a bad hair & mood day?

Take your time. I would give him a chance to clear & prove him self. If this is his lifestyle, I would walk away.

Good luck Wannabe!!

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