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How do you manage flashbacks in public???
May 24, 2007
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What I have done is the same thing I do when I have an anxiety attack in public. I tell myself that everything is really ok. If I am with someone I trust, I tell them what is happening and I may need their help getting about.

I don't have flashbacks like I used to anymore and I can usually see reality through them enough to at least get somewhere safe. Gotta ride it out, man, the wreakage of the past, I hear you!

Sometimes, "everything is really ok" ends up being a mantra for me until it passes.

May 24, 2007
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Pom, thank you. I have been having these for the past 3 weeks and it's still frightening to me. It's too surreal. I wrote a thread dealing with flashbacks and migraines. I didn't realize just how much I am holding in until this time. Everything is so graphic and real. It's frightening. Thank you for the tip.

May 24, 2007
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Hey Fanta,

I just read your other thread about the migraines. My heart goes out to you, but that will not really help you.

I have an idea... Since these are flashbacks and not REALITY at this time, is there any way that you might be conscious enough to visualize/insert your adult self into the "scene" and get your child self out of there during these terrible scenes you're having? Maybe it could also be someone else you might look up to that comes into the scene, or a witness that was actually there, rise up and defend you during the beatings? Like you get to determine the ending in your own head... maybe like making your own version of a movie?

If you can do this, it may help to give you a sense of control over the flashbacks and a feeling of resolution about the whole thing. You don't have to be a victim anymore. I know your head is telling you otherwise, but perhaps, as others here have mentioned, your head may be giving you an opportunity to step in and step up for yourself this time. Maybe this is why it is an ongoing thing...???

Just trying to help. Thoughts of courage and peace to you.
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