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HOW!!!!!!!!! do you Let Go
December 18, 2003
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I have read these 3 "little" words everywhere. But my question is HOW!!!!!!!! I need suggestions cuz whatever it is I am doing is not working. I am tired of hearing " Just Let GO" please give me some suggestions. Thanks for letting me vent.

December 18, 2003
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Start with a big piece of paper. Make a list of all reasons to leave. Make a list of all reasons to stay.

All the bad stuff....every single one....when I did that a while ago I had 82 things on the bad list.

Then read it over and over. It may effect how you feel about him/her.
It might be a start in seeing things in a clear light.

December 18, 2003
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What do you want to let go?

Maybe you have to take a closer look at what is making you unhappy. What captures you, and doesn't let you loose? If you look closely, yet *carefully* and are honest yet *kind* to yourself you'll propably learn a lot about yourself. You need to find out what's bugging you. It propably points at something that you need or something that you are afraid of. If you don't understand that, and you'll desperately try to "just let go" - it will feel like trying not to notice this fluffy pink zebra in the aerobic-class. Yust not as funny

December 18, 2003
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Letting GoTo "let go" does not mean to stop caring, it means I can't do it for someone else.

To "let go" is not to cut myself off, it's the realization I can't control another.

To "let go" is not to enable, but to allow learning from natural consequences.

To "let go" is to admit powerlessness, which means the outcome is not in my hands.

To "let go" is not to try to change or blame another, it's to make the most of myself.

To "let go" is not to care for, but to care about.

To "let go" is not to fix, but to be supportive.

To "let go" is not to judge, but to allow another to be a human being.

To "let go" is not to be in the middle arranging the outcomes, but to allow others to affect
their own destinies.

To "let go" is not to be protective, it's to permit another to face reality.

To "let go" is not to deny, but to accept.

To "let go" it not to nag, scold or argue, but instead to search out my own shortcomings,
and correct them.

To "let go" is not to adjust everything to my desires but to take each day as it comes, and
cherish myself in it.

To "let go" is not to criticize and regulate anybody but to try to become what I dream I can be.

To "let go" is not to regret the past, but to grow and live for the future.

To "let go" is to fear less and love
more.

December 18, 2003
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Oh, I really like this Harryho. think I'm gonna print and put in a few key places around my house.

This is just really cool. I needed this. It's answered many questions going through my head.

My ex monster violates or screws up, I report. And what happens, if anything, happens. I will have tended to my responsibility. They can attend to theirs or not attend. that would be their choice.

and other things.

Way cool.

free

December 19, 2003
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Getting lighter
Becoming a healer is about letting go of the unnecessary ‘stuff’ that may or may not have served you at one time, but which definitely serves you no longer – except to keep you in a state of attachment. Attachment equals need, which equals fear. How's that for a new wrinkle on an old (long-hanging) suit?
For a moment, picture yourself standing at the foot of a grand, cascading staircase. One of your goals – that of becoming a healer – awaits you at the top. Your first step is to learn a technique. You throw yourself into this technique, mastering it, maybe even becoming a teacher. You now own this first step. It's okay to love it, but be careful not to fall in love with it. Because if you do, you'll sit down, grab a blanket and pillow, move in, and make this step the centre of the rest of your life. But what does that mean about the remainder of your journey up the staircase? It stops. Now is the time to bless your first steps... and continue upward

December 19, 2003
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Thank you all for your input and ideas. I need to ask abit more. I know to let go doens't mean not to care it is just when I continue to care in a detached way the arguement is: if you care you won't give up on me/us. Same arguement is used when I say the outcome is out of my hands. to let go is not to be in the middle I try not to be in the middle and let others affect their own destinies but again the arguement: if you care about me/us you will help me be a better man and work on us. I am trying not to deny the reality any longer but the arguments keep coming. I am tired of the debate.
This much I have learned about me: I have a need to be needed (attachment=need=fear) I am afraid of making the wrong decision,again, not trusting the facts before me. Because of past transgressions I do not trust the person I am trying to detach from.
Thanks for listening.

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