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January 16, 2006
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i think my bf is cheating on me. he has becoming very distance. i am very worried. do i ask him if there is another woman? he cheats on me before but i stayed with him and forgave him. im very upset because i know it in my heart and i love him. He says he loves me but he must not right? he said he was not before when he really was because i caught him. i have no family and few friends to talk to. should i just break away from him to not get hurt again? thank you if you answer.

January 16, 2006
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I think you need to confront him by saying something like,

"I feel like you've been distant with me lately, and I'm wondering if there is something wrong that I should know about. I'm starting to feel the way that I did, the last time I felt you were with someone else, and I just want you to be honest with me."

If you feel that there is a distance forming bewteen you, you deserve to know why. It could be something completely differrent than cheating, so I would give him the chance to offer any other reasons for the distance. Good luck with this.

January 16, 2006
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well, if he told you before, he will tell you again.

can't hurt to ask - at least it will get that out of the way.

there is no way to judge if he loves you or not. he may - but still be compelled to cheat. he may not be ready for commitment - even if he does love you.

i would say that you need to look at what YOU can do to make YOU happy....and figure out what your boundaries are...and what the consequences are if he admits to cheating.

if he says he isn't - you need to decide if you will believe him or continue to mistrust him. trust is hard to regain once it's lost.

go over it in your head - decide what you want to do if the answer is yes, and what you want to do if the asnwer is no - then ask him.

playing detective sucks - so if you find yourself compelled to do that - you may want to consider moving on - cuz there is more to life than trying to see if your partner is cheating on you - such a waste of your time and energy - when you could be with someone that loves you and you trust.

January 16, 2006
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I agree with Shaney...he may have some other reason for being distant. Maybe he has something else going on in his life, and doesn't know how to tell you about it. I would ask him if he is okay, and tell him you have noticed that he isn't acting like himself lately. I wouldn't jump to any conclusions just yet unless you have more evidence of cheating. Talk to him.

January 16, 2006
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shaney has a good point - make sure when you talk to him - explain which behaviour is bothering you and why - don't do finger pointing type blame, which can make him defensive and make him look like he is lying - instead tell him how the distance makes you feel....let him explain why.

if you say "I think you are cheating because....", he may be quick to react and it may not go so well.

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