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How do you deal with OCPD co-worker?
May 7, 2007
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I've started a new assignment in a new beautiful company with wonderful folks. The stumbling block is...the coach who is giving me training is a young girl who manifests OCPD (Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder), which makes me so overwhelmed. She is very fond of too many details, perfectionism, too much high standard, too much orderliness, excessive doing this task and that task.

My tasks are divided between the office and the kitchen. I don't mind to do any of them. I enjoy both!!! However, when it comes to my duties and tasks in the kitchen, I have to do a darn BIG number of responsiblities which would make me overwhelmed & distracted.

I explained to my supervisor today that the workload is a lot and I feel that the job is a lot, esp the thing that has to do with the kitchen stuff where I have to check out the beverages in the fridge and make an inventory for any shortages, check out the coffee container throughout the day and see if I need to refill a new coffee filter, load the dishwasher, dry the dishes, unload the dishes, wash the 2 coffee machines 3X a week with hot water making sure that no traces of soap is left in them and so on and so forth which does not seem to be finishing.

All this while I will be busy working hard in the office finishing all those bureautique tasks, running bank errands for the company, doing the complicated filing system, replacing the receptionist during the small break in the morning and the lunch hour break.

Honestly, I ENJOY doing the bureautique tasks a lot being a responsible hard-working person. Even the kitchen duties are fun. However, according to the tasks explained to me by this young female coach...kitchen duties seem to be a lot for someone who is focusing on a lot of tasks in the office, while having to hop into the kitchen throughout the day to check that everything is OK in the kitchen.

My supervisor told me today that there are not so many tasks in the kitchen. I told her that my coach gave me so many details about the kitchen duties.

Tomorrow I am having a meeting with my supervisor in her office 1st thing in the morning.

How can I handle this challenge? What is the best way to deal with OCPD co-worker, esp. since she is a real nice person?

Thanks, Ras~

May 7, 2007
8:56 pm
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Pls folks I'm heading to bed so soon.
I would appreciate/hope a feedback b4 I go to bed!!!

May 7, 2007
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(((Ras)))

Why do we codeps seem to feel we need to do the undoable? From what you say, you cant do it all to the expectations of your trainer. Maybe its ideal that you managed, but not possible. On top having a boss besides the trainer may be confusing as to what the priorities really are.

I dont think you can impose your idea of how the office is to be run, but you can say what you can do. Just remember to be positive. Youre being trained to do it all but thats not to say you will have to do it all or a 100% well.

As I see it, youll get brownies points for washing the coffee pot squeeky clean, cherry cake points for making a good hot coffee and real points for answering the phone nicely and correctly. So if you can, try to brush off any criticism from the trainer. You need to stay in a good mood to work in the office.

(((((Ras)))))

May 7, 2007
9:01 pm
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Just state as factually as possible what you believe your duties to be. Your supervosr will probably give you a better idea of what is expected.

May 7, 2007
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Ras

Has your boss actually been diagnosed by anyone else as OCPD? If she is really young, it might be that she is trying to do a good job by following all company policies and state or city health regulations.

I know that in the jobs that I have had, I have been trained the proper way, and after I learn that, I figure out the shortcuts.

May 7, 2007
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Thanks Sini, much appreciated hon!
Let's see how the meeting with the supervisor goes!
(((Sini))))

May 8, 2007
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Thanks folks for your encouragement and support.

Well, I've had a meeting with the supervisor this morning and she was surprised to all what that clerk had given to me. She told me that I was NOT replacing her. I was merely helping out and she was going on absence leave to have a surgical operation at her risk.

She narrowed down my task which I noted down. Everything is streamlined, makes sense and even fun to do. The co-workers are really nice and cooperarative.

Thanks folks again for your love and support!

May 8, 2007
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I also found out that that co-worker is co-dep. She reminded me of myself when I was young. I was very serious, perfectionist and had some OCPD traits. She is 26 years old. I wish I could tell her about some coda meetings in her areas ASA she recovers from her surgery. I promised to keep her in my prayers and we exchanged each other's phone.

May 8, 2007
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Ras~~~

Take it slow honey... I know you know what I mean!

We, being on the road to recovery and all can see these things. However, when we were just beginning our journey, could you imagine someone telling us (a new acquaintance to boot) what was wrong with us? Let alone telling us where to find a CODA meeting? I don't know about you, but I know I couldn't.

I just don't want you to get hurt Ras.
(Sorry, me being co-dependent)

Hugs to you,

Isis

May 9, 2007
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Isis...I think if this girl is wise...she will appreciate it. When I was his age or even younger, I wish I've had someone wise or with role model in my life.

This is my take anyway!

May 10, 2007
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In any case...I won't mention something like...I think you're codep or stuff like that. Well, the hospital is far from where I live. But, we can go out shopping and just chat amicably with each other without turning it into something serious. Just enjoying each other's company...may be an ice-cream in a coffee shop on a terrace outside esp with this lovely summery time we're having right now.

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