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how do i trust him again
April 11, 2001
9:44 am
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riki
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about two years ago i met this guy and we pretty much clicked. we went together for over a year and we broke up because he cheated on me and made me out to be the one who was just accusing him. well i was very hurt. i was left in a very serious state of depression. he ended up with this girl who was his ex before i met him. we still kept in touch and started to kick it every now and then. still i was hurt repeatedly because i would believe everything he would say. eventually we got back together and he asked for my forgiveness. i accpeted but i still couldnt forget that hurt that i still felt. days later after we agreed to get back together the girl ended up pregnant. another down fall for me and for us. i still stayed with him through everything even when she
had an abortion because he chose to be with me. he has pleaded with me that he loves me and he wants no one else but me and he would not do anything to hurt our relationship again. its been over a year now since we been back together, why do i still play all of the past in my mind. why is it still so hard to trust him? why do i still feel sometimes that he is cheating on me again with the same girl?

April 11, 2001
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Um......I'm sorry to say this but I really laughed out loud reading what you wrote because I couldn't believe that you actually asked this question at the end of everything you said! Both questions.... Are you really hearing yourself here?

All I can say to you is - you much love pain. Because that's all this guy is going to give to you and you do keep coming back for more, don't you? Honey - he cheats on you and is untrustworthy because THAT'S WHO HE IS!!!! You're looking at a snake trying to squint and see a harmless little bunny rabbit and it ain't happenin'.

Charmers will always plead and beg and then kick you right in the gut because you're stupid enough to believe them. They totally disrespect someone they can manipulate and he's manipulated the heck outa you. He probably laughs behind your back about it all. Sorry to be so harsh here, but you need to get Away from this Dude. Nothing but trouble.

Do not listen to words, girlfriend....you need to read Actions. They always talk. So read what you just wrote as far as actions are concerned and what do you see? A snake, right? If you don't, then there's no point in you asking for advice here or anywhere else because you are contributing majorly to your own demise and there is nothing anyone can do for you because - you won't help yourself.

April 17, 2001
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Hi riki please read book from Richard Carlson,Ph.D and Kristine Carlson they hepl me to make my brain in good way,we have same problems but everythings is up to us.

April 17, 2001
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ups sorry the tittle is Don't sweat the small stuff in love.bye now

April 22, 2001
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Hi riki

I would like to say to you that first of all you are not the alone in what you've gone though. There are many women and men who have gone through similar situations. I myself am married and has been for several years. Had what I thought was a well grounded and loving relationship with my husband we had a comfortable life (financially, house,cars,kids,dog the whole nine..) however he wanted to persue a business venture which meant that he would become exposed to allot of women. Me being a Business Major along with experience help to build this "family business" which was an upscale classy restaurant & lounge. However after this business had taken off and he was floating on (cloud 9) and was flossing from wall to wall. He all of a sudden no longer needed me. And started to have an affair with one of the staff members. He finally admitted to the affair after I found out about a cruise he had taken her on. I put him out and filed for divorce. He convinced me that he did not what a divorce and loved only me and had gotten caught up in himself. Now don't get me wrong I loved my husband but had given up on our marriage and I wanted it to be over. It wasn't about money, I have money nor was it about just having a man I had options. He was going to have to do more than just talk. So.. He closed the business. I took a chance on us again it's been exactly 1 year and now our relationship is stronger than ever it is absolutely beautiful. He leave work everyday and pick up the kids. Have dinner ready most of the time when I get home. We spend quality time together as a family, take romatic walks & trips. My whole point is, life is about taking chances and when you truly love someone and they hurt you the wounds are deep. riki you are not weak nor stupid you're in love. It'll take a while for you to forget because I haven't forgotten. But you must forgive him I mean true forgiveness in order for the two of you to move on with your life. It is up to you to take a chance. Wish me luck as I wish you all the luck...god bless ...

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