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How do I get out of this depression??- RW
August 31, 2006
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Im not quite sure what is going on with me lately. I dont feel sad or anything but I have absolutly no energy. I am so tired all of the time I know that pregnancy has something to do with it Im 24 weeks along but its getting really bad. I can get a full nites sleep and still feel exausted my house is a mess my husband is working a double today and tomarow and I would love nothing more for him to come home to a clean house. Its getting so bad that I dont even want to leave the house anymore. It seems like I am always eating. My doc was unhappy with me cause I gained 6 pounds last month she told me that I needed to go on a diet. Which really made me feel bad. I just dont know how to get out of this. What ever it is i have to do it by myself cause other than my hubby I dont have any help and hubby is at work a lot. Please Please help me. I am tired of being tired

August 31, 2006
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you may not have real physical help but we are all here for you RW. My sis is preggers now and has been very depressed as well. When you are pregnant, Ihave noticed that it zaps your energy level and the thing is, being tired in and of itself can make u feel depressed. As for your doctor, they sound like an ass. Although you do need to be healthy, it is very strange gaining weight from the baby and can cause depression. Sounds like they could have been a lot more sympathetic. I know this sounds very strange, but something that has been helping my sis a lot is that I bought her a bunch of coloring books and every time she gets down and wants to gorge and eat, she colors instead. It keeps her focused on the eventual outcome of being pregnant and helps her to see how much fun it is going to be to have a baby. Its hard to do that when the baby is just making you fat so you may want to try it. It always puts a smile on her face. Plus, I have been sending her a lot of romance novels and she loves them. Hope this helps.

August 31, 2006
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thank you loverbee. I just realised a few more factors in this. My husband has 2 jobs now which means I see him even less. My ex step father gets sentenced today and I just found out that my mom is comming down for the birh of the baby. and that my reall dad is an ass to the core. Come to think about it I guess I am emotionaly down too.

August 31, 2006
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(((((((Julie))))))) Poor sweetheart - what a lot of big issues you are facing besides the tiredness of pregnancy. You are a hero to me, in the way you adore & care for your boys & hubby, and manage to encourage & cheer people on this site, despite your own problems.

Are you eating properly? Good protein, calcium, iron, vitamins, to help you and your growing little one???

How's the bipolar behaving itself? Are you taking lithium? And above all - tell us at least 3 or 4 ways you are taking care of yourself & giving yourself some of the comfort & little luxuries you deserve ... like a nice warm bath, or a cosy daytime doze with soft music playing ... or some fun like playing with crayons or chalks, as has been suggested here.

Never forget to nurture lovely little Julie! (the child inside who needs it!) I wish I could just cuddle you up & cook you a meal & treat you like a princess!

Blessings from your weird & often-depressed, but warm-hearted, well-meaning cyber-auntie Gazelle. xxx

August 31, 2006
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YaY I have a cyber auntie. Unfortunatly I havent been eating well. We havent had much money for anything but bills so I eat what ever we have. I did have a good breakfast and lunch today though. Lastnight I made oatmeal wheat bread so this morning I made it into french toast and it was pretty good. and for lunch I had a bowl of multigrain cherios. I am getting so tired of macaroni and cheese. We eat that about 4 times a week cause its cheep and our family gave us a huge box of it. oh that and ramen. YUCKY. I havent been remembering to take my prenatils I know that I need to but I never remember. I am not on any medications for my bipolar disorder most of them run a high risk that I am not willing to take. I am doing better now than I was when I was on them anyway. I just feel so lonely

August 31, 2006
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I have been taking naps but thats about all. The only time I get to myself is when my boys are in bed.

August 31, 2006
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RW-

Hunny, oh dear, you have so much going on. You are pregnant, you have your boys, you have the sentencing, money worries, your husband is away a lot, and you are not eating. On top of that, you are not on your meds now. So, it is natural you are down at the moment. Do you think it will pass once things settle down, you can get back on your meds, and of course, you realize that this has got to be an extra hard time with the sentencing stuff going on?

You must eat. I hope you and husband can budget more money for food. Can you and he spend less money on something else so you can have more food?

You are a brave, kind, smart young lady who just has a few obstacles and you are a real survivor. You have the beautiful boys, and you love children and will have another soon! Soon, you will back on your meds and the sentencing stuff will be over. Thing will be better then.

Lots of hugs,
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August 31, 2006
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Thank you P&L It just seems like all I want to do is to sleep. My hubby just left and im so down im crying. Im mad that I cant seem to get enough energy to clean the house and that I am all the time hungry. My doc really hurt my heart when she told me that I needed to go on a diet but since then all I can think about is food. I went through the first 4 months of this pregnancy not being able to eat so I feel like why should I deprive myself now. I dont know I am just so frustraited with everything. I just wish that I had someone that could comeover and talk to me.

August 31, 2006
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is anyone there????

August 31, 2006
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I guess not

August 31, 2006
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I am here RW. Back and forth. I know you are suffering. What can I say to help you feel better? I wish I could say something. I am at a loss right now. You must eat. Why would your doc tell you to go on a diet when you are pregnant? Are you not eating because you are on a diet or you cannot afford food?

August 31, 2006
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I do eat but its really not very much its just so depressing to hear my doctor say that. I know that I am 40 pounds over weight but most of that is baby and my boobs. My doctor doesnt realise that I have gained 3 bra sizes since I have become pregnant Im still the same around 36 but now im an G and that acounts for a lot of weight. I did gain 6 pounds in the last month but its only 6 its not like I gained 26 or anything like that.

August 31, 2006
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hmmm, I am not experienced enough with weight gain to advise you.

hang in there hunny. we all care about u. Late nights are the worst.

September 1, 2006
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RW, I understand how you are feeling. I too wish I could come and take you away for lunch, a walk, and of course a shopping trip. Do you have any close friends who would watch your boys and let you get out for a few hours? I think you need to get out of the house, take your boys to a park, etc. I don't know what else to suggest, but I do care.

September 1, 2006
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depression is very hard on a person, been there, done that. The only thing that helped me was a kind, understanding, counselor who helped me to find the root cause of the depression and then helped me plan strategies to resolve my issues.

Good luck to you! I wish I could come there and help you out. One thing I found that really helped me was getting out and doing things. I had to force myself out of bed many days, and then I had to force myself to leave the house. When I didn't leave, I soon found myself right back in bed and all depressed and crying again.

Take care of you!

September 1, 2006
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Thank you all very much. My only fiend has some anger issues of her own. SHe wouldnt get angry at my boys or anything but it doesnt take much to set her off. Infact today is her birthday. I would love to take her out but my hubby has the car all day cause of work. He works a double today. It has been a very long time that I have been out of the house on my own with out my boys for more than just a very few minutes. I think the last time I actualy went shoping for me was last janurary lol thats been a while. Anyway I had one of my headaches today so I took 1 vicodine then that didnt take care of it so I took another well my stomach didnt apreciate that I ended up throwing up. I hate that. But now I know that I can only take one. I got about 4 hours of intrupted sleep lastnight probably the reason for my headache but this morning after my hubby went to work I gave my boys some cereal and put on some cartoons and snoozed a little in my chair. I just wish that I could get rid of this yucky feeling that the vicodine gave me. Unlike some people I dont like how it makes me feel but sometimes its the only thing that will get rid of my headaches. I just wish on days like this that I had someone to help me, but I never get out so I never meet anyone. Arrrg its frustraiting.

September 2, 2006
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RW, Ive always had you in my thoughts as you are so sweet to me and people here! Hope youre doing better! Its odd how not eating properly can lead to weight gain - that should probably be one of your priorities so you dont feel worse physically and have your self esteem go down too. If youre in pain, hopefully you can get by with minor medication (tyleno?) before the pain gets bad. Cleaning is not a priority but if yu can, talk yourself into doing some of the cleaning and you probably will feel so good about it. Do try to see some friends, even acquaintaces, choose ones that are able to be support you. Being and feeling alone can lead us to a burn out, and you cant expect all your support to come from your husband. Thats what I can say for now. Had computer problems, couldnt log in.

BTW, I was working on the song below from Barbra Streisand with a student - what about offering it to your hubby?

Can't Help Lovin' That Man

Oh listen sister,
I love my mister man,
And i can't tell you why
There is no reason why i should love that man,
It mus' be somethin' that de angels have planned.
Fish gotta swim, birds gotta fly,
I gotta love one man till i die.
Can't help lovin' that man of mine.
Tell me he's lazy, tell me he's slow,
Tell me i'm crazy, maybe i know.
Can't help lovin' that man of mine
When he goes away, that's a rainy day,
And when he comes back that day is fine,
The sun will shine!
He can come home as late as can be,
Home without him ain't no home to me,
Can't help lovin' that man of mine.

(((RW)))

September 2, 2006
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😮 RW, maybe we can change those negative words in the song, I dont want you to get in trouble. Do you know that Barbra Streisand changed some songs in this album (The Concert) Im working with? She gets aways with it because shes BS!

Oh listen sister, I love my mister man, And i can't tell you why There is no reason why i shouldnt love that man, It mus' be somethin' that the angels have planned. Fish gotta swim, birds gotta fly, I gotta love one man till i die. Can't help lovin' that man of mine. Tell me he's wild, tell me he's smooth, Tell me i'm crazy, thats who I choose. Can't help lovin' that man of mine When he goes away, that's a rainy day, And when he comes back that day is fine, The sun will shine! He can come to me as early as can be, Home without him ain't no home to me, Can't help lovin' that man of mine.

September 2, 2006
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Dear Random.

You know how you are just the tiredest you've ever been and you don't feel like doing anything, someone always tells you that doing regular exercise will give you energy???

I'm pretty sure it's true. The whole body movement of a nice walk can always improve things.

I don't know where you live, but I know you are in an apartment, right? Is it a big deal to gather the children and go out for a walk? Is it safe? Is it far to a park?

As everyone else encourages you to take care of yourself, please try to stay active in a pleasant way as well as with child care and housework. Sometimes the walk is uplifting and freeing.

September 2, 2006
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Our neighbors are mostly all pothead drinkers. The ones that are not I dont know. Its not a good neighborh hood. I dont even let my children go out and play with the others cause they will teach my children realy bad habits like peeing behind cars and that sort of thing. I want to smack most of the parents out there for how they behave. There are fights at least once a month. We really dont belong here. I did get out of the house today we got my youngest a pair of shoes I let him pick out of a bunch that I selected so he chose thomas the train that lights up. Last week my oldest picked out his shoes he picked spiderman that lights up. They both love there shoes and it got me out of the house. Right now I am making a loaf of bread for my sis inlaw. In a little while we are going to go over there and pick some blackberries so that I can make a cobbler out of them. I am feeling better today. thank you all for carring so much

September 7, 2006
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Im still very down I just wish I could break this

September 8, 2006
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(((((RW)))))

September 8, 2006
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(((RW)))

It sucks that you cant take meds for depression. On the other hand, sometimes the meds suck. I hope your struggle stay limited to household chores and taking care of the boys and hubbie. Theres alot more to life than tahe eyes can see but, bein depressed myself, I know its almost impossible to see that. Our minds are centuries ahead and oura bodies and daily life styles dont follow. I gather your church could be your best option for holding on. Im praying for us!

September 8, 2006
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I think one of my problems is that I am bipolar and I have been off of my medications but I havent had an up in months its just been the down. I really dont want to do meds until baby is born But atleast I think I know what it is now thank you everyone.

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(((RW)))

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