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How do I get my boss to treat me right?
April 16, 2007
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I get project dumped on me, and am never appreciated for taking them on. What gives? How do I stop this cycle of madness?

April 16, 2007
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bump.

April 16, 2007
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second, and last bump. Apparently this is not very interesting.

April 16, 2007
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Hi Artist!

Do you like/love your job? People who work efficiently get more than their fair share of crapadula, in my experience.

Start looking for something more fulfilling, is my advice. I am!

H.

April 16, 2007
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artist, would it help if we brainstormed with others on how to confront this with your boss? Then if he still doe not respect you, then yes it might be time to move on.

April 16, 2007
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Yes that would help. I'm so mad though from all the stuff she's done in the past, that I'm like a pressure cooker. When I do try and speak to her, the ridiculousness of what I'm about to say infuriates me. Like I have to ASK her to treat me well?

How do I begin brainstorming?

April 16, 2007
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to brainstorm, I just think of as many ideas as possible without dismissing anything. Even impossible ideas have value because they can inspire ideas that can work.

I think your options are:

1- confront boss directly (but in a positive, nonconfrontational way, ie: Boss, I just completed this project. I wasn't sure if you were happy with my work, what did you think?)
2- manipulate boss into the behavior you want
3- care less about what your boss wants
4- look for a job that gives you what you need.

April 16, 2007
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hi artist2,

I can help on this topic, this is one area of my life I am good at. I need to know a little more background though.

For me, I know that I do a great job at work, and I know it would be difficult for my job to replace me very easily. Yes, there are so many people looking for jobs and they are competitive, but a bird in the hand is worth 2 in the bush. So I am able to ask for what I need. I kinda know their game and my company is pretty slick with stuff. I have never worked for free for them, when they wanted me to work longer, I told them I wouldnt do it without overtime pay.

I did research looked at how much I should be making according the US Dept of Labor Stats, other companies, etc, and I looked at all the work I was doing and asked for a raise.

It sounds like you are taking on more than you can. Perhaps they know that you will just keep giving in. Maybe just saying I do not have the resources to complete this right now. I am working on this and this and this... Maybe priortize, or tell your boss, I am working on these things already, should I put them on hold to complete this project?

It is a matter of posture. They need you too.
b

April 17, 2007
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I know something about this too, sadly. It can make you miserable. First, document everything and keep it in a safe place. If need be, get an employment lawyer. Disengage emotionally. Your job is just a job. It is not YOU. Speak in a monotone to keep things from escalating. When you are in a totally safe zone (can't be fired, have a lawyer, have documentation), that is the time to confront or present you case to someone above. Be careful of Human Resources. They work for the employer. Keep the matter private, or colleagues may be afraid to be around you or may disclose your info. Just remember to disengage. This kind of stress is very intense.

April 17, 2007
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I think we spend too much of our day working to stay in a bad job. I bust my rear to be a stellar employee and I vote with my feet. When I interview for a job, I am interviewing them as much as they are interviewing me. Not every job is a good fit.

Artist, do you love what you do?

bonni

April 17, 2007
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(((((artist))))) Been there and left the jobs. Not the best option at the time but I just couldn´t handle them. I think I bit more than I could chew at times and was naive at other times. One boss of mine was an absent one. The boss was selling the business and wasn´t interested if the "projects" were all done as long as there was a facelift, showcase... What can I say? Do the best you can, don´t blow your top, cover your you know what... I hope as a codep that I´m growing, that´s my priority cuz the rest shpuld come behind. You´ve got great help here. All the best.

(((P&L))) So worried about you, missed you, hugs!!

April 18, 2007
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Thanks, Sini-

I posted an update "P&L update to GG and others" or something like that. I am usually too sick to sit at the computer, but will try to check AAC more.

Hope u r well. Thank you for your concern.

(((((((Sini))))))

P&L

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