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How do I find a coda meeting?
October 17, 2005
3:09 pm
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ronzo
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Never knew a coda meeting existed until i started conversing with you guys. I live in Pittsburgh and need help. I have noone to talk to and need to express my feelings. I need the courage to fight or flight from a man I believe is an alcoholic. When he is unhappy he turns to booze, then he turns to me with all of his frustrations.
He is not drinking excessively, but everyday after work because he does not like his job and he has insecurities about our relationship. He does not drink on days off and can even stop after one drink. His mood is severly affected after a few drinks. I am becoming bitter and resentful and feel as though I am wasting my time wishing he would get better. I wrecked my last relationship...maybe this is paybacks. I kept feeling I deserved this as punishment.

October 17, 2005
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ronzo,

you do not deserve to suffer or be mistreated or punished ever. no matterwhat. you don't have to stay in this relationship because of how your last relationship ended. A relationship takes two people. You are only responsible for your part. Why do you say you 'wrecked your last relationship'?

Have you tried to do a search on google for coda meetings?

October 17, 2005
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Don't blame yourself! Learn about coda, then learn about how to heal yourself first!

I think you can google in coda.com and find it there. Search the web, sorry have to make it short here.

Welcome to this awesome site!

~Sew~

October 17, 2005
3:18 pm
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http://www.coda.org/United_Sta....._list.html

This is a web site with a list of contacts by state.

October 17, 2005
3:38 pm
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I had trouble finding a site in my state. A friend found a contact for me. I think she called everyone. Hospitals, aa meeting contacts, alanon meeting contacts, churches. If you cant find one, I have also been going to alanon meetings. They also, at the meetings can help you find a meeting. I have found that coda meetings are not as popular as the alanon meetings. Going to either one will be good for you.Good luck Neely

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