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how do i do the no contact thing?
September 14, 2005
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seeing/talking to my ex is making me crazylady because i miss him and am going through this big glorious memorial service for him in my heart and BAM! there he freaking is all the time to pick up our son. calling me to work out times to see him, calling me to ask if our son wants to talk to him and i have no other alternitive to seeing him and i thought it wasnt affecting me. but i asked him not to call untill i brought our son to his home in a few days and i am all anxiety ridden and missing him and not wanting him to call but waiting for him to call... does that make any sence? how do i do the no contact thing when i cant do the no contact thing? any ideas?

September 14, 2005
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It makes all kinds of sense to me...I am on day 9 of not talking to my soon to be ex and it has been hell but getting easier and it does. My children have cell phones so they can talk to him on those so I have no reason to speak to him and I do get healthier everyday. Hang in there and keep posting and it does get better. Keep busy!

September 14, 2005
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remember he is an "ex" for a reason!!! is your son old enough to
pick up the phone and call you on his own...otherwise, keep everything to a business level with him. Start with just one day of no contact and see how it goes...you can do this!!!!

September 14, 2005
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Be polite firm, short, to the point with your ex. Keep it to a minimum. Have him call at a certain time when your son can pick up the phone so you do not have to deal with him. If you have caller ID this works great and call your son to the phone for pick up. The less you have to deal with him, the less he gets off your mind. When you heal completely, it will be second nature to not give this a thought. If you are still struggling with anger, read this book Forgiveness is a Choice: Step by Step Process for Resolving Anger and Restoring Hope by Robert Enright. I got it at the library. It helps me with my no contact, the anger and resent I feel for my breakup.

September 15, 2005
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thanks taj for the book recomendation. the problem here is that my son is only three and the ex wants to see him but his work scedual is weird and so its a big mysetery till the end of the day wether or not he will be coming to see our son. then he calls, usually to say he wont, and i have to talk with him all the damn time it feels like! maybe i am making excuses, i guess i could let it go to voicemail and i DO have caller ID. ALSO he's paying for a storage unit that has all my stuff in it and i need to call him and....you know what? i AM making excuses and i see it now that its in writing. this is hard...

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