Avatar
Please consider registering
guest
sp_LogInOut Log In sp_Registration Register
Register | Lost password?
Advanced Search
Forum Scope


Match



Forum Options



Minimum search word length is 3 characters - maximum search word length is 84 characters
sp_TopicIcon
How do I deal with a Broken Heart?
February 20, 2001
1:59 pm
Avatar
brknhrt
New Member
Members
Forum Posts: -1
Member Since:
September 24, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

After dating a girl for over three years, and thinking this was the right person for me.....I was dumped for another guy. I have never felt so bad in my life. I have no idea how to deal with this. I can't watch TV, I can't listen to the radio. I try to keep myself busy with friends, but that doesn't work either. When I am with my friends, I am a drag for them, so I'm sure they don't want me around either. What do I do? How long does this last? Please help me! Any good books to read?

February 20, 2001
3:47 pm
Avatar
Frustrated
New Member
Members
Forum Posts: -1
Member Since:
September 24, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

Listen to me, I am a guy too. Don't beat yourself up, you just trustred the wrong girl. I have gone through that and I was devastated but you gotta remember thats part of life. We fall down but we must get up. Don't let it stress you just think to yourself "her loss." Eventually she'll see that no other guy can treat her nearly as good as you did and she'll wanna come back. But when she does don't let her back. As for your friends it's not that they don't want you around. They're probably more sympathetic than anything believe me I know I too have stood in your place. I thought my friends didn't want me around but when I talked to them I found they were more sympathetic. If they are truloy your friends then it hurts them to see you hurt and they will try to help you. Be strong! It's gonna be alright!

February 20, 2001
7:23 pm
Avatar
Helenof Troy
New Member
Members
Forum Posts: -1
Member Since:
September 24, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

brknhrt...time heals all wounds. I am healing my own right now. Different situation but still..it hurts like HELL. Think of it as surgery. Recovery takes awhile but you'll be good as new and MUCH wiser, better than before. You know..I hated the saying.."it wasn't meant to be" but think about it..there's probably another women who is much...and I mean MUCH MORE WORTHY of you than this one. And frustrated is right when he says "DON'T LET HER BACK IN YOUR LIFE" after doing something like that to you. RESPECT YOURSELF!! YOUR DIGNITY!!! You will never be able to hold that trust for her again and "trust" is a solid foundation for ANY relationship. Let HER pay for the major mistake of ruining probably the best thing that ever happened to her. But MOST important is get yourself on track...go to the gym..I find that working out is a great esteem booster and EGO TOO!! Get yourself together and believe me...SUCCESS IS THE BEST REVENGE! I wish you well with all of my "sewn together too" but strong heart!!

February 21, 2001
7:22 pm
Avatar
Bernie
New Member
Members
Forum Posts: -1
Member Since:
September 29, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline
February 21, 2001
7:29 pm
Avatar
Bernie
New Member
Members
Forum Posts: -1
Member Since:
September 29, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

I have had my heart broken many times, and the last time it happened, I found out that it wasn´t just the heartbreakers fault. I read the book
"Women who love too much" by Robyn Norwood. It helped. It made me see my own behavior, how I always run into the same troubles. I have struggled with my last heartache for two years, I´m about to get over it now and it won´t happen so easily to me again. Look after yourself, do the things you enjoy, talk to your friends about it, get it out.

February 23, 2001
5:25 pm
Avatar
janes
New Member
Members
Forum Posts: -1
Member Since:
September 24, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

Bernie's right....do what you can...for you.

Molly has a good book to recomend about relationships...Relationship Rescue?

Mayb e you should read it first.

February 24, 2001
5:22 pm
Avatar
gingerleigh
New Member
Members
Forum Posts: -1
Member Since:
September 30, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

Having gone through an awful divorce very very recently (November), I can tell you that it DOES get better. The best advice that I can offer I guess is what is working for me. Remove yourself from the situation if you can. Have as little contact with her as possible. If you shared a place together, move. Don't hang out with her, even in groups. Stay away. What Frustrated says is true in many cases... the partner often realizes that they messed up and then they come back to you, but for yourself and your own esteem, don't let her back in your life in that way. Be your own person, allow yourself to grow and figure out what you really want in a partner.

I promise, the pain does go away. Just a few months ago, I thought I would never feel human or happy again, but that feeling passes. You'll relapse occasionally, but each time will be less than the time before. Good luck, my friend. Things will be OK.

Forum Timezone: UTC -8
Most Users Ever Online: 247
Currently Online:
31
Guest(s)
Currently Browsing this Page:
1 Guest(s)
Top Posters:
onedaythiswillpass: 1134
zarathustra: 562
StronginHim77: 453
free: 433
2013ways: 431
curious64: 408
Member Stats:
Guest Posters: 49
Members: 110929
Moderators: 5
Admins: 3
Forum Stats:
Groups: 8
Forums: 74
Topics: 38539
Posts: 714213
Newest Members:
stanley, LarteyWellnessGroup, dr ado spell caster, Leslie Ann Satin, overmyhead201, delight1080
Moderators: arochaIB: 1, devadmin: 9, Tincho: 0, Donn Gruta: 0, Germain Palacios: 0
Administrators: admin: 21, ShiningLight: 572, emily430: 29

Copyright © 2019 MH Sub I, LLC. All rights reserved. Terms of Use | Privacy Policy | Cookie Policy | Health Disclaimer