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July 13, 2007
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I've heard so many people who have found this site by accident.

I was looking for some help and understanding while my husband was in the hospital recovering from a suicide attempt. I 've been on it ever since and I have made friends with many people here.

July 13, 2007
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I found it doing a google search for free online support groups

July 13, 2007
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Hi Ladies,

I was researching co-dependency. What a life saver it has been!!

Happy 13th!

July 13, 2007
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Nothing Changes until something changes.....

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I have been reading the threads for over 3 months. I have commented on several threads and feel like a loner still. Is there a welcoming commitee? Just joking. All my life I have felt like I don't really fit in anywhere. I'd like too. What are the unwritten rules to become part of all youre loving support?

Great Question Tiger T!

I was doing a search for counseling. Found this site and having never did the chat or blogs read for a while. Thought you might enjoy how little I have progressed!

July 13, 2007
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Searching on codependece. Surprised to find people´s postings as hits.

Glad I found this place...

July 13, 2007
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MJ,
You've been an inspiration and a help to me. I'm glad you stuck with it.

July 13, 2007
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mj ~ funny, but when I see your name I feel like you belong here and for a long time already. I felt like I don't fit in anywhere until I was able to fully embrace myself the way I am. I guess self-confidence follows self-acceptance and then also acceptance of not everyone being absolutely thrilled with us - and that's all OK - because it means just this, not that we don't belong.

My friend was talking about his unhappy relationship with his almost ex wife and he said that he is probably codependent. Boy, he is - now with his girlfriend instead of his wife. But anyhow, I wanted to check what codependency is and I found this site and all kinds of info with links which opened my eyes on Narcissism.

July 13, 2007
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I stumbled through the door doing a search on codependency.

What a find this place is- I've received so much support and I don't know what I would do without AAC.

I read for a whole year before I got up the courage to post.

July 13, 2007
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I found searching for online therapy when I was feeling down on life. I feel like a loner too but then I remember - Hey I am a loner. MJ I like your sense of humor. I've always felt I didn't fit in even if people tell me otherwise although some people do feel like kindred spirits.

July 13, 2007
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(((((All)))))

We all belong at this wonderful site.

I am glad that I found this site and all the wonderful kindred spirits(love that term Ned)! You like my sense of humor! Thanks 🙂

Tiger T, Thank You for your kind comment. Dr. Dyer says inspiration means in spirit. I hope to be in spirit more than in ego.

Matteo, I appreciate your wisdom. I want self acceptance.

I was reading some of the old threads today and seeing all the names that have appeared throughout the years. I was so thrilled when SC expressed a need for donations and all that could sent in to help. That is what this place is. Not professional advice, but a place to feel safe and welcomed. Glad you all are here.

July 13, 2007
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"Glad you all are here."

Ditto mj!

July 13, 2007
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Hi all

I was googling codependency and this was near the top of the list- it's the best site I've found and so many honest people just trying to get answers. I wish I had more time to respond to everyone's threads, but can only write on a few posts. Mostly I read, but have gained incredible insight here.
I wish I could recommend it in person to others, including family members, who go through codependency issues, but I don't dare, because I don't want anyone to recognize who I am.

July 14, 2007
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Hi all

I found this site after searching codependecy. Have been coming here over two years. I have learned so much. This is the first online support group I have ever participated in, and I truly value everyone here.

I love to read the posts, and try to respond to newcomers and people who seem terribly distressed. We are in this together, and I feel like I belong, which is sometimes not how I feel in the "real world".

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July 14, 2007
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I was seaching for an internet counseling site and this is what popped up. Years ago, I found a site where you actually get hooked up with a counselor. YOu write to her/him and then you get a response. You actually had to pay a fee of twenty five dollars for each communication. I did it once and then realized it was of no help. This site is so much better. I am very thankful that I found it. It has been a life saver.

Desert Moon, I know how you feel about telling others. I am the same way. I am dying to tell people. I did tell one person but it is because I know she never goes near a computer. I did not give her specifics only that I communicate with others regarding personal issues.

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July 14, 2007
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I USED to have AOL service and needed an online coda site...but at the time, this site (aac) never came up under AOL....it wasn't until i switched to MSN....that I found this wonderful site & love it!

July 15, 2007
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hi there, i can't actually remember the moment i found this site but i'm pretty sure i was just googling for online support. i was desperately sad over a break up. like i'd rather be dead sad and i found this. it was a huge, huge, huge help. after things got better, i stopped coming and then recently, i needed help with something and started writing on here again. it has been immensely helpful. i have told a couple of people that i visit an online support group. i can specifically think of two girlfriends who i don't think are ever online or have used it. i want to tell everyone too but i don't just in case they recognize me.

July 15, 2007
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Just browsing around on the internet!

July 15, 2007
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I found it by researching codependency. I had never heard of it before, and since I had gone to a few Al Anon mtgs the word kept coming up.

What an eye opener. This site has been a life saver and I have learned so much.

I've been here several years now and I am still learning- I am a work in progress- and always will be!

SD

July 15, 2007
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hi I found this sight when i was down on my luck in 2000! i've been poping in since and my luck is a roller coster ride!

mj i feel that you have been on this site for as long as i have been here, u fit in! i still feel like i'm on the edge too!

July 15, 2007
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((((Lewis))))

Today I was reading and I learned that the ego wants us to be separated. I have made the decision to feel unified with others. I hope that everyone here feels welcome and loved.

July 15, 2007
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separated from what? hi ((((MJ)))))

I always try to welcome others, I was told by someone once that if some one as a barrier, it is their barrier not yours.

July 15, 2007
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I'm thinking it was searching for info on counseling/co-dependency that brought me here as well.

At first I felt incredibly self-conscious and vulnerable to others' opinions. I remember "fleeing" any thread that seemed argumentative.

I've been drawn to so many people for different reasons, but I think the REAL base is with those who are striving their utmost to be honest. With themselves....in their relationships. And wanting to heal....and recognize WHY things are the way they are, so, I guess that is also the honesty thing....discovering what my own reality is, not what I WANT it to seem like, but what REALLY happens with me.

July 15, 2007
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I Googled "Domestic Violence."

July 15, 2007
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Googled "codependence". Now I'm getting paranoid that I've writen too much on here and my ex could all too easily find my posts and recognize me, so perhaps I'd be best to stay quiet for a while.

July 15, 2007
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I'll try to explain it Lewis.

Our ego is the idea we have of ourself. When I made that statement above, it was a statement about myself. I have been reading "Your Sacred Self" by Dr. Wayne Dyer. On pg. 166, he talks about how are ego teaches separateness.

I could really identify with this and how I had shared how I continually feel. I applied what I learned by reading and made the statement.

"And when you know that you are not separate, when the idea of yourself has shattered, you will experience a new kind of peace," states Dyer."No longer will you have to compete or be better than anyone. No longer will you need to accumulate, achieve, or seek outer honors. You will have left behind an idea that you had cultivated most of your life. Rather than view yourself as distinct from God and everyone else, you will experience your life as connected rather than separate."

Now knowing this makes me feel lost better about life.

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