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How did I become codependent?
January 23, 2007
11:45 pm
suzie q
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I am the one who was controlling, I was the one who's self worth and self esteem varied depending on how he treated me. I was the one who felt guilty when I did something for myself. I was the one who was depressed. I was the one who couldn't express what was wrong with me. How did I become codependent?
I used to be happy with myself. I felt beautiful and attractive. I enjoyed hanging out with friends and having a social life. Because he didn't like to be around groups of people, I slowly started to avoid them. His anger caused me to retreat into a separate life. I forgot who I was, and when I became controlling and needed his help to feel better, he left and filed for divorce. Now, I am struggling to repair myself. I am the one who can't sleep because I have regrets for having a mental condition. How dare he destroy me then dump me. I am struggling as you can tell, and I need advise. Anything you have to say, I am all ears.

January 23, 2007
11:59 pm
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When we love sacrificially, then we chance getting sacrificed. If you were healthy once, you can get back there. It sounds like you are angry, and that is okay. Eventually, you will have to forgive and move past the anger because it hurts you, not him. I am not an expert by any means. I have also martyred myself only to be abandoned. On one hand, I don't have any regrets because I loved as hard as I could. Love isn't something you can force someone to return.

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