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how can I win her back? Should i accept defeat ?
February 5, 2005
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Hi advice please form wise ones, I am 49 been married 17 years, known my wife 22 years. I thought the marriage was OK, last March she changed her work hours from midday to 9 pm, comes home at 10, I work 9 to 5.
Hardly see her, just found out before xmas she is having an affair with a man she works with, we have 2 children, hes married with 3 children, she says she loves himm and that we were finished ages ago (news to me) I feel totallt destroyed, I cant give her up, there seems to much to waste, the pain of this is endless, yet this is a woman who never kisses me (not in 10 years) we make love only when she wants, maybe twice a year, I put up with all this never strayed, am I just a fool to want to keep this alive or should I look for happiness elsewhere, that is if I ever become happy. i am on anti depressants now and dont feel much better, somedays i could end it all but friends say what about the kids, I am just surviving each day for them, its killing me inside. I have tried everthing to make her rethink, even suggested counselling, but i think she is set on a crazy life with this creep, she is 47 next week, is it all a midlife crisis???

February 5, 2005
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You're 49, forget it. If the kids is under 18, think about the kids.

You don't want your life to be any more complicated, for example, purchasing a hand-gun, strangle her, or drive off the cliff with the kids in the trunk.

Just sit down with her and give it a last try. Tell her, honey I love you, are you sure your love with that man is not an infatuation. You may share work emotions with him, but we share the kids and 17-years emotion. I want to grow old with you.

That is the best you can do. If she said sorry, forget her and find a gold digger and enjoy. After all, to the sound of your relationship, you don't love her as much as you think.

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