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How Can I Sever Emotional Ties With a Toxic Person?
July 28, 2007
9:25 am
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I have a need to have someone in my life who has been very destructive. It doesnt seem to matter how much destruction he has caused. I know he is bad news. I know he wont change. I know I am better off without him. All he brings is pain and misery.

The question is what is it about me that cant let go?? Physically I am letting to, divorce in progress, selling off houses, not writting. But emotionally I spend too much time getting upset thinking about him. Its one of those situations that no matter what I say and no matter what I do the situation does not change. If I am nice it is an invitation for him to run all over me, If I am indifferent it is an invitation for him to retaliate. If I ignore him he will still write insincere letters and call non stop.

But I cannot allow myself for whatever sick reason to go on with my life without him.

Years of counseling have been ineffective.

July 28, 2007
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I replied to you on the "Damned if I contact damned if I don't" thread.

(((Destiny)))))

- Ma Strong

July 28, 2007
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Forgive me for my lapses in memory, but are the woman whose husband set someone on fire?

Just wanted to make sure before I responded in detail.

Sad

July 28, 2007
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Sad -in the 5 years I have known him he has never laid a hand on me. He was on perscription drugs and drinking alcohol. He was unreliable, disorganized and bizarre. Mean, insulting, rude. I wish I could find a way to disconnect from him

July 28, 2007
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Ma- Thank you

July 28, 2007
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Sad-sorry I misread your post. My husband was convicted of assault with a deadly weapon. Yes he chased a man 1/2 mile down the road. Reached in his pocket and lit a flare. Then he burned the man on the lower lip, on his side and back leaving small circular second degree burns.

That is why I posted here. Cause I want to sever the EMOTIONAL ties to him.

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