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Homosexual and needing help to come to terms
September 25, 2000
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matt benedicts
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Hi, I am a 35 yr old who is having difficulty coming to terms with my sexuality. I've been told that therapy will help but I don't know the best way to go about it. I've been influenced over the years by my Catholic upbringing. I'm told that I'm dysfunctional and intrinsically evil. I have an abusive father and fear coming out to anyone. As a result I end up having anonymous sex and leave myself wide open for other abusive situations. I have contemplated suicide on several occasions. I'm also afraid to approach a counsellor about this. Can anyone suggest what I should do?

September 25, 2000
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intrinsically evil? no u're not!.. really. dont beleive in that.

September 26, 2000
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Matt,

As a preacher, I have learned to live by these words "No matter what you do, God forgives and sets free." Go to God in prayer, He knows what is best for you and He can help you. As for this thing about being evil, you're not evil at all, you are a worthwhile human being just like the next person. As Jesus told Peter "Let not your heart be troubled, you believe in God." Go to God, it will be all right. God bless you.

September 28, 2000
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Thank you for your replies- however, going to God doesn't change. I've spent years doing that!! It's to no avail and I'm not all right as you said I would be. I still have feelings and when I'm out there looking for love I feel even more rejection and end up hating myself even more. But there is a way out ................
Thanks for trying.

September 28, 2000
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hello matt if you accept who you are and what you do with your own life this is all that matters, you are not doing any thing that needs forgiving! expressing yourself and living your life to the fullest, and any one who doesnt accept your choices or way you choose to live then there not worth it and they dont deserve such a beautiful human being as a friend or family oh yes thats write and going to talk to a counsellor is a great idea if the first one doesn't work out then try another and so on till you find one your comfortable with never give up matt look at your homosexuality in a positive way, not all of us are blessed with it! love from lucinda

September 29, 2000
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matt are you there i thought you could let us know how you were today

September 29, 2000
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Accepting your self when society makes it wrong or others make it wrong is tough, are you in an environment that supports your life style, gay people are some of the most fun people I know, some of the Catholic religion is tough to recover from, and strange most of the folk are gay. Life is hard enough with out beating your self up, so live, and live safely, celebrate and find a gay church!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

September 29, 2000
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Matt,
I know that it must be hard to deal with this issue, however those who are truly there for you won't care about your sexual preferences. I have a gay friend who might be able to help you out if you're interested. He's a really sweet guy and he's been through a lot. My e-mail is [email protected] let me know if you're interested and i'll hook you up.
just hang in there cause things may seem bad know but it always gets better
Love ya,
christina

October 2, 2000
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Hello,
Thanks for all your support and care. It seems as if a few of the cuds have lifeted for a while. Your respones are very positive. I suppose I know all this in my head - it's a matter of believing it and getting it from my head to my heart. I'm actually living in Ireland and outside of the cities there is very little support and a questionable acceptance. ANyway - I'll keep going on for another while and thanks again,
Matt

October 3, 2000
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Matt before you came into this life perhaps one of your life lessons was to learn from this experience, ask yourself, what is the meaning of this experience with my sexuality and what can i do to find peace in it.
You are a spiritual being living a physical experience, first and foremost, you are connected to all of us and to god. Nothing about you is evil, but on the contrary, everything about you is godly and divine.
Place your faith in your highest purpose and be good to yourself and others, only love will flow with such intentions, do not let others define you or hold you down, use this as a spring board towards the heights of who you truly are. God bless

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