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Holiday support/chat/share/keep each other company...etc. thread
December 24, 2007
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Okay, well, I'm here.....

I have this movie on tv...its a Christmas thing with animals, and I think Richard Pryor is one of the voices....

I gotta put the next load of laundry in...

I'm here....where is everybody?

December 24, 2007
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Its 11:45 and Santa is in New York City..."start spreading the news!!!!"

December 25, 2007
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Merry Christmas, Codi and everyone!

I am home now from spending Christmas Eve with wonderful friends. I worked from 8 am to 6 pm today at the gallery...then rushed over to my friends house. Where do you live? Temp here was 51 during the day but going down to about 41.

December 25, 2007
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Here in the sub-tropics its 64 degrees,red blond.

It is said that Christmas day will begin at around 59 degrees then warm up to 70 degrees.

Hope you had a nice evening with friends.

December 25, 2007
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Merry Christmas Codi!!

December 25, 2007
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Same to you, Friendma. ((hugs))

We got through the EVE. I enjoyed it.

Thanks all for the company!

Gee, its my last day off...bummer.

December 25, 2007
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how am I suppose to stay focused in a positive way when all I can do is cry I hate myself I cant do this anymore please make it go away

December 25, 2007
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You are in mourning this Christmas season, MeetMe.
I know its no consolation, but been there done that.

Since I started this thread, I will recommend acknowlegement of the Savior who's birth we Christians celebrate today.

Then I recommend that, after you look into that -- and I will give you links if you want some-- is to LEARN something this Christmas season. (or Holiday Season, if you must use that terminology.)

Believe me, for all the suffering you do, there is a portion of live you sacirfice. And life is short.
We are a spoiled breed. We want what we want, including a mate that is clearly not a mate for us.

Know you are a good and wonderful person, Meet. I would bet that "he" is not worthy of you.

You are worthy of life and love. Dont' let "him" steal that from you.

God bless you in the coming year, MeetMe.

This too shall pass.

Talk to us as much as you want.

I am truly sorry if my responses are not what you need or are looking for.

I am trying to relay the Joy of the Lord, and His promisses.

JOY TO THE WORLD!

December 25, 2007
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Merry Christmas, everyone!

I slept late (to noon) - That was one of my Christmas gifts to myself. I plan to give myself little gifts like that all day...and maybe until Friday afternoon...when I have to go back to work. Of course, my brat cats may have other things planned for me, as well.

December 25, 2007
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As we approach the end of Christmas celebration, I realize that this thread is not really necessary. People just started threads of their own.
I will not be so co-dependent as to do this again. It was a "desire to help" coda thing that made me do this.

I will remind everyone that the origional 12 steps of AA included The "Higher Power" that was the God of Abriham, Issaic and Jacob...in more recent lingo...the God of the Bible...who's Birth we celebrate onn theis day in my country. If people here don't like the truth, so be it, bann me!
But you all are caught in self absorbed poor me in this world thinking...you dont' have the truth.

people can support you all they can, but you are still teetering at the edge.
Get the truth and be set free.

Enough wasted time.

God be with you and teach you the truth.

Merry CHRIST - mas!
Good night!

December 25, 2007
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today, the last day of my little vacation, went SO fast. SO FAST.
the short nap i took lead me into the dark of night.

I'm alone, and I wish i had another day off. I wish I had Christmas to live over again.

I am so so sorry for those who felt the holiday was a bad thing.

I don't understand it/
Well, it's over

December 26, 2007
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Now it's time to plan for the ringing in of the new year -- which I plan to do by tossing out more old stuff - organizing and simplifying...and creating goals...and a goals journal a section to "Control Journal"

This program that I got as a trial for two weeks has tabs for givng reasons to achieve the goals and why we put it off. It also incraments for achieving the goal by a cerain date! I can't afford to buy the thing, so everything is getting transferred to paper and put into my control journal.
One more listen to of the old personal power tapes that I have in my closit (cause a lot of that stuff is ther and its a 30 day thing to get the year started!-- and the antiprocrastination tapes that I....etc etc...

"i am going to accomplish something fantastic in 2008!"

"DO SOMETHING GREAT IN 2008!"
that might need tweeking, but it sounds good!
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December 30, 2007
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"the holidays" are not over yet; and no one else needs this thread, I sure do. so I wll share with myself here.

When I went back to work this week I wished everyone a "Merry Christmas" EVERYONE remined me that Christmas is over. I then reminded them that this is "Christmas Week" and that it only began at Midnight on the 24th.

They just became their old grumpy, controlling selves and I laughted at them. The new "in recovery Codependent" is not going to let them end the holiday season, no matter how money minded they are.
I gave 110 percdnt to this job and these jerks stabbed me in the back.
And I am not going to describe why I will not "bend over" areound them
(or stand when I am on the phone,lol, there is safety when your butt is in the seat...just a joke, I got "screwed" sitting down too, lol)

Now they want to define me? Now they want to act like I get all unnerved as a part of who I am? NO. I told off the guy I had just complained about right in front of the supervisor. I told him to find someone else to talk to. he followed me around so I stopped right in front of the Mgr. Then I told him that it had nothing to do with "moodieness" I told him that the only reason I spoke to him was to correct him or just to try to be polite on the job. But he has taken advantage that and now its over.
come the new "job" we all have its back to 110 percent as I look at the possibility of moving on.

The super just smiled, and then told him that I was serious and that if I complain about him they will probably have to fire him...probably?

Anyway. Everyone is wishing me "Happy New Year". I told them to enjoy their days off and the "ringing in of the new year." and that i will wish them a "happy new year" when I see them next week.
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December 30, 2007
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Oh, and I sort of took the week off.
Yes I was at work, but I didn't care that they might let me get production because there were so few of us. The operative word here is "might" so why bother. I got paid my base pay for 6 hours a day (except when I was 5 minutes late and so what. I wasn't going to listen to those manipulative controlling downer of a meeting that that manipulative dishonest self-absorbed manager vomits at us every day. If the Company doesn't care why should I.
I revied two books and quietly did the best I could "under the circomstances". I got enough production to prove that, so...;)

and Next week will start this hellish new scheduel. Why should I kill myself now. I deserve a vacation after 3 years, and they killed the holiday. THIS is when we make money. But this mgr cleverly pulled what ever he could in order to get everybody bailing out and going to HIS new program.

Not me...I took the time to...um...VACATE (detatch,LOL.)

December 30, 2007
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Hi Codi, it's Shep!

Yikes!

You go!!!!

Merry Christmas Holidays!

Oh yes, oh yes.

Shep

December 31, 2007
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I have too much paper clutter and I am replacing a piece of furniture, providing it didnt' get ruined outside overnight. So I am putting the list here:

I have about 8 hours to complete this I will keep going if I have the energy;

1) vacuum the cleared area for the desk.
2). start laundry and walk to corner store to get more laundry detergent if needed (too expensive there)
3) after clothes in dryer return to put clothes last laundry away, and bring in the piece.
Polish the piece and all furniture in the bedroom.
Take care of paper clutter - counter, bags, boxes and etc.

Eventually move piece to another aream, maybe.

Move all computer stuff to cleaned piece.

All the corner clutter in at least one box. to sort and put away.

Pm eat and rest, maybe...I think organizing and perging may be a good way to ring in the new year...

Or perhaps finish my control journal and goal thingy.

There's more, but I think It will take all day to get this done, but just for my reference:

The "problem" letters need doing.
The closet needs organizing
1/3 of clothes need purging.
Need to replace walking shoes.
All Laundry clean and put away.

Bookcase...oyevey.

All cyber and computer files...

I think I need a drink. LOL.

December 31, 2007
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OOPS, that was supposed to go in the "Letting go of clutter..." thread, lol.

Well, I'd best get back to working on this.

See ya next year...if I don't stop by later today, that is. 😀

December 31, 2007
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Okay, here goes.
I went through my messages, and lo-and-behold, there is a message from this "friend".
This "friend" has apparently not called me for at least a year. I have initiated all of the calls. For the last two years, we have gone to one of the local attractions on Christmas and/or New Year because we were able to get local discounts and it cost very litte. We were both dealing with recent unemployemet and little cash. Last year I paid. She dosen't even remember going, of course i asked her to remember something important to me and she seems to have conveniently forgotton that too.
Anyway, where would we be without each other was the theme when I called her to talk to a "friend".
Her ship came in in the form of reverse mortgage and retirement...like she wasn't expecting that when she acted like her world was going to end they would forclose. Okay, maybe she did hold off untill I pushed her to do it.

Now she still complains. she wanted to start a business -- for 4 years-- Christmas was coming and I called to encourage her to begin...it would be both of us. i never heard from her. Or about the next attraction visit which is farther away and more expensive and she wanted to treat ME to.
I never called again. I vent on line. I talk to myself, and try to get answers on my own. What can I expect from people who lie as a way of "getting along".
So, I get this message, and what does it say? I need your address so I can send you a Christmas card.
If you are calling me, why do you need to send me a card?
You never sent me a card before, I have known you for 5 years.
And sure enough I got the card!
and what does it say?
We need to get together soon.

Of course, this from a perosn who is retired now and has no local family, and few living friends left.
Hey, last time we spoke she was making new ones.
Why call me?
Cause she doesn't like to do anything alone.
That's all.

December 31, 2007
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Dear God; What a void. It has never been like this. i felt positive on the holidays. I looked forward to a future and thought I had or could find the tools to make it happen.

I didn't know that I would be sabataged so much. I didn't know that I would want to die before I was 100.
It all feels empty no matter what I do.
I will trust and wait and work and pray. Thats all I can do.
One day at a time
One moment at a time.
I am moving so much more slowly now.
My body doesn't want to do anything.
I dont' want to do anything except to go back in time and...say "yes" this time.
🙁

December 31, 2007
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;(

December 31, 2007
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And Iforgot to get laundry detergent.
Darn.

December 31, 2007
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hey folks~ Please let's sing along:

Should old acquaintance be forgot and never brought to mind

Shold old acquaintance be forgot and the days of olde lang zine.

For olde lang zine my dear for alde lang zine

we'll tak a cup of kindness yet for all lang zine.

December 31, 2007
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Ol lang zine always made me cry.

doesn't it make you sad to hear that song?

December 31, 2007
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No in fact it makes me laugh. Come one turn on the radio they have some nice music. Or better try Delilah Radio she is an upbeat!!!!

You go girl!!!

December 31, 2007
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I am glad you are feeling a bit better than me.

I need the polarity tonight.

I have two christmas movies to watch.
But I want to reminisce...
And go back in time.
*sigh* I wish I had another chance to ...
I dont' know.

Should auld aquaintance be forgot--and never brought to mind...NOT.
But I would like to be involved with life and have something to show for having lived.

Ol lang zine.

Nope. it still makes me cry.

How about "the sun will come out tomarrow...eh...I think I'll put on some music.
LOL

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