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Holiday support/chat/share/keep each other company...etc. thread
November 25, 2007
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(((everybody!)))

"This movie is about cats flying " It's a mock movie trailer. Cute.
I just now stumbled apon it as I was searching youtube for something entirely different but since we have so many cat lovers here I thought you might have a lettle fun watching it :

November 25, 2007
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I just posted on "Crazy Mothers" and I should have posted it here, because our holiday get togethers have already started, witht the "cold war" scenario between my daughter's mother-in-law and us. It's just awful for me. I feel awful when this rejection happens, and she feels gleeful. She talks to everyone but us. She has NO reason to dislike us, except for the fact of competion as parents and grandparents. We have NEVER acted in anyway disparaging toward her. But this behavior happens evertime we are at family gatherings. Please read my other post and give me any advice you may have. I am so tired of this,...and as I said in my other post, I feel like slugging her. I know,...I'm 56, in rather good shape, and that would accomplish nothing. She would probably welcome it so she could make me look bad. I guess I should just ignore her as my husband tells me to. If you all could meet her, you would understand what I'm talking about. Remember this kind of stuff when we were kids? I will await your advice. She influences my daughter also, which makes it even more difficult to deal with.

November 25, 2007
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I think that it is good that you posted in BOTH threads. More chances of getting related answers.

It sounds like she may have jealousy issues. "competition" as you stated in the "mothers" thread.

((hugs) I am a loss for advice here, but she seems to want to put a damper on your fun.
Does she not want you to attend family holiday functions?

November 25, 2007
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I have decided that i need to take a break from this site for a little while at least.

I hope this thread does what it was intended to do in the meant time.

November 25, 2007
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Yes, I think she would be very happy if I just disappeared. I'm the other grandma,.......I'm NOT going to do that. In the meantime,....it get uncomfortable at these gatherings,....and I think that's exactly what she's trying to do.
Thank you for your input Codi. See you later.

November 27, 2007
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There is always someone trying to spoil the party.
Is it possible to make friends with her?

December 3, 2007
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Hey,
I got a great smelling candle at my alanon meeting. I don't know what the scent is but it smells just like christmas.....heavenly...

December 3, 2007
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Auesome, Razor. What does Christmas smell like? 🙂

I found some candles that were marked down they look like thick stick candy canes and smell like cinimon sticks.
I bought a few of them for just $1.
One of them is burning right now as soft music with nature sounds play in the background. (I'm not ready for the Christmas stuff yet). It's the only light in here, other than myComputer Monitor monitor.

Aren't we lucky!!!

December 4, 2007
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candles. that is christmas to me. soft pretty light. enjoy

December 4, 2007
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Hey Folks!

I just now found what I feel is just an excellent article in dealing with the holidays:

http://www.joy2meu.com/should_.....ave_to.htm

(Hope the link goes thru OK)

December 4, 2007
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ps.....in keeping with the most current post...."Trapp" candles are just absoutely wonderful!!!!!!

🙂

December 5, 2007
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What are "Trapp" candles,truth?

December 6, 2007
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Codi,

Thery are candles which have.....something like 20 times more perfume than most.

Even the box smells great!!!!!

(I keep one unlit on my nightstand.)

Kind of hard to find in regular retail shops. I bought some on ebay.

December 6, 2007
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I saw some of those candles at ebay. After the holidays, I plan to pick some of them up, if i can afford them (pathetic isn't it).

Hope to have them go with my new organized and freshly painted apartment. My Holiday gift to myself.

🙂

December 6, 2007
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Codi,

It isn't pathetic and don't think that way... believe someday soon that you will be able to buy all of the candles you want.

Tell us about the redo at your apartment.

Cary

December 6, 2007
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I was doing better until.... Last night was on the phone to my daughter who wanted to know what I and J** wanted for Christmas when he beeped in to tell me that he wanted to spend Christmas with us, but he could not afford to buy any of us any presents.

What kind of person deliberately delivers these knives through the heart.

We hung up, I tried to call him back, but he would not answer his phone. I finally left a message for him to not contact me any more, just to settle on the house, then leave me alone. He called twice before 8am telling me how much he loved me.

Any comments?

I've had a pretty bad day after that.

December 6, 2007
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I should clarify that we have been together for 6 years. We have always been very generous to each other and each other's families. Not that it's the things, but his statement that he has no intention of recognizing our relationship in this way.

It's not the gifts I am interested in, but the pain of his statement of withholding.

December 6, 2007
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Sorry, I know that's off the subject - I'm having a bad moment.

December 6, 2007
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Oh Samanatha!

Why wouldn't he answer the phone when you called him back?

Just like my ex..hoarding their money. Isn't it pathetic?

And what is it with that comment..not buying gifts? Yes, I know you weren't looking for a gift, perse, but it is the thought!

December 6, 2007
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Right before he hung up he told me I was harassing him.

December 8, 2007
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*bump*

Oh! I just remembered!
I just spurged on a scented candle in a glass jar with a lid. It says that the lid keeps the candle burning evenly and keeps the edges of the jar from looking burnt.
It was in the clearance bin for $6:00!!! I think that is a lot for a candle in the clearence bin, but It seemed to have lots of scent (I selected the cinimon spice scent), and since we were talking candles with lots of scent, I thought I would give this one a try. I sorta wish I had picked the vanilla, but only for the color, lol,

They would make nice gifts for co worker grab bag or friends, but, alas, I am living in the jungle.

LOL. (that;s not really funny, but...:))

December 8, 2007
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Holiday support needed, I am not looking forwrd to spending it alone like Thanksgiving that is for sure. I dread xmas music and cringe when I see happy little shoppers with their happy little loved ones.... tried doing it today just to walk around, didnt buy anything and was totally annoyed by everyone and everything..

December 8, 2007
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(((Semantha)))
I couldn't find your first thread Samantha, but as I recall, you were married to this guy and this is HIS daughter too, right?

If so, he should have the decency to scrape up something for his daughter. He needs to sacrifice for this. No doubt there is something that he can sacirfice...was there a girlfriend? He can start there.
The child should not be affected by his indescretion! It is not right to involve the children in such things, it is hard enough on her that the two of you are not together. He should manipulate you by using her.

I hope I remember things correctly, forgive me if I am confused.

sorry for what he is doing to you, dear

December 8, 2007
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(((meet)))everyone is not as happy as they seem, lol.

That's what this thread is for. We are here.

I was planning to go to an event this evening, but it is so far away, that I am thinking of skipping it.
It is the holiday boat parade. I wanted to see what all of the hub-bub is all about. I really thought I would make a day of it, but I just don't want to take the trip. I think I saw part of it once, and wasn't that enthralled.

I like the holidays, even though I am alone. I guess it took some time,and going to some things alone that I would never have enjoyed if I wanted company. It was the kind of family I was in. I even found a way to enjoy my days in shelter.
I went to local events that i would never have seen if I was still up north.

I have enjoyed my time on my own. I just wish I had a decent job so I could get the bills paid and take better advantage of the local ammenities.

Well, the library is on the water, and i love to read.
🙂

December 9, 2007
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My great smelling candle does not burn properly so I had to melt it dowm in order to smell it at all.
I still have to buy christmas for my daughter and 5 yr old grandson. He has everything so..????? She works out everyday and could use new clothes but buying clothes for someone else is not my thing.

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