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Hi Sexychoclady
April 12, 2009
2:03 pm
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Thank you for your post. I'm sorry to hear about your friend. Chasing and obsession are so demoralizing and weakening. The worse we feel, the more desperate we become. You can only watch it happen, in some frustration and battle with codependent impulses.

Once we begin feeling better about ourselves, we don't want to jeopardize our self esteem. I hope your friend gets there. I have to be so vigilant. In my case, because I work with my friend, nothing can be done to jeopardize the professionalism we need at work. Those boundaries are helpful, when all else is challenged.

All the best to you!


April 12, 2009
3:02 pm
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I couldn’t agree more with the chasing and obsession being demoralizing and weakening. She is already on dating sites!!! She wants to meet someone to flaunt in front of him in hopes he will become jealous. She’s called him and texted him and he continues to ignore her which is making her even madder. I just don’t think he was as into her as she wished he was. His actions are speaking louder then all those words she continues to hold onto.

Yes vigilance is what you need to do especially since you work with him. It’s kind of a good wall that is built in to protect you from your codependent side slipping up.


~~Hope has a place, but not above reality~~

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