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Hi Horsefly, it's Katz
February 16, 2010
12:52 pm
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Hi Horsefly,

It's been a long time since I have posted and I just wanted to let you know that I am around and hope that you will be OK and feel better

I have been through some bad times lately myself. The guy I thought was absolutely wonderful (I knew him for over 40 years) and was planning on marrying dumped me abruptly one night on the spur of the moment for someone 24 years younger than him. For sex. It sent me into a tailspin and I needed to take a leave from work because I got so depressed I couldn't stop crying. I had to see a lot of doctors to get better.

How is Sister? Pippin is fine, but I am down to only 1 cat now, maybe I need to change my screen name to katndog.

I think about you often and I always sympathize withyou because I know for myself how bad your pain is. Please know that I am rooting for you. We all survive somehow, although sometimes I just don't know how we do it.

Love,
Katz

February 16, 2010
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Hi, Katz!

I am one of the "older birds" around here who remembers you well. Gosh, I am sorry to learn what that man did to you. The pain had to be devastating. Betrayal always is.

I am sure that Horsefly will be glad to see you back on the threads. She has been going through hell, physically, emotionally and financially. Sometimes, I wonder how she finds the strength to press on. Seems to be no end to her struggles.

Again, as good as it is to see you back on AAC, I am truly sorry that you suffered such a terrible blow.

- Ma Strong

February 16, 2010
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Hi Ma,

Thanks so much for your response. Maybe you remember I almost choked to death and you helped me through the subsequent emotional trauma. The guy who saved my life that night is the same one who dumped me. Funny how life works. The breakup was such a suprise to me because we weren't even fighting. He took me out to dinner one night and we got talking about commitment and he decided to bail on me. Two weeks earlier he had asked me to marry him. I still don't get it and it has been 5 months. Don't worry - it's been no contact except twice. What hurts a lot is that I have been separated from his family. I had grown very close to his mother and brothers, as well as his grown children and little grandkids. I miss them so much, but as we all know, blood is thicker than water. But no one approves of his decision and he has lied about his association with this other girl because he is embarassed by her age. Oh well - I just need to move on.

I hope you are well and that your foreclosure issues go away. I need to figure out a way to retire because my job is contributing to my depression. Like I said in my post to Horsefly, we all manage, but sometimes I just don't know how.

Best wishes,
Katz

February 17, 2010
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this is off....be on this forum for years....not just since last year..we can email each other Now? that Nappy is long gone....
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Katz!!!!!!! It is really you. Oh my dear friend.....I was elated and my then my stomach sunk........I am so sorry this has happened to you . I know this is very painful and just plain devastating for you. This must of just blew a hole in your heart. How horrible. I just don't know what to say really, about this right now.

So butterfly ears (pips) will help comfort you . I know my spoiled rotten sister does me most of the time. She and I are finally feeling at home at our new place after it took awhile......like Ma said I have still had a real hard time........but I seen to be finding just being stable and slowing down has helped........I have just plain ass been through too much and striving to be normal ....well forget that. I will have to create what is normal now.

(((((Ma)) You are such a friend and I just love you. I still do have little miracles all the time or I know I would not still be here.

Katz, I am concerned about you so much. This is one of the wort case of sudden heartbreak I have heard. Please know I am here for you, I have be in and out but lately have decided I needed to stick close to this site, kinda like I find comfort here again. I was lost for awhile , just my mind was overloaded.

I will never forget that story about the deer outside of the cabin? Anyway it helped me get through a terrible time. Wasn't that when your mom died or ? Trying to remember.

Anyway, I am making you a carrot cake just for you. I just wish I could take the pain away for you or do something.......but I am here and love you very much......((((Katz)))) Hope to hear from you soon. horsefly

February 17, 2010
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Katzndog

I don't know your story very well. But i understand how you feel with he sudden ending of a relationship. Being blindsided. I too was blindsided. Of course my wound is still fresh. Only been 5 weeks today but who is counting.

I have the same issue with his family too. We were very close.

I have no contact with him.

I wish you peace on your journey to feeling better

(((katz)))

February 17, 2010
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Hi Horsefly,

Thanks so much for your kind words. I know I will be OK eventually, but I need more time. I slid into a clinical depression after a while and it started to be less and less about the guy and more about my job, which I hate, and the rest of things in my life.

Yes, I remember the deer outside. I believe it was when I was taking care of my aunt. I am glad it helped you. My Aunt passed away in 2008 after 3 months in a nursing home - I moved down to Florida temporarily to help her. She was like a mother to me and not a day goes by that I don't miss her.

Horsefly, how did you know that carrot cake is my favorite? I don't remember telling you. Thank you so much for the cake, your love and your support. I love you too.

{{{Horsefly}}}

Saddoxie,

I know it hurts. Please try to take care of yourself. I made sure I excercised and did at least one thing productive every day. I also saw my doctor and a counselor to help me ge through this. And I keep telling myself that I will be OK. Sometimes that works better than others, but I will always keep trying.

{{{Saddoxie}}}

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