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Hi Bel
February 26, 2003
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HUGS>>>>>More Hugs
Missing the Bell of the Ball...Hope you are feeling fine....just wondering:)

February 27, 2003
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Still wondering 🙂

February 27, 2003
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Hello Mj, Thanks for asking how I am doing. At the moment were in a crisis at home with my son. It seems he is on the verge of a nervous breakdown and the good thing about that is he is asking for help. We did go to the hospital and they almost admitted him but are sending him to a extensive therapy group which he would go 5 days a week from 9am until noon. He is also on meds so hopefully things will be getting better soon. Were all praying even my son to God that he guides in the right direction and gives us all strenghth to deal with whatever comes our way.

I will post more when I can.

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Bel

February 27, 2003
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Hugs BEL...all my love....and support.

February 27, 2003
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My prayers are with you and your family bel. So wonderful he reached out for help.

Peace to you...

February 27, 2003
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God, Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.

The Al-Anon Promises....if we willingly surrender ourselves to the spiritual discipline of the twelve steps, our lives will be transformed.

February 27, 2003
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Bel,

It is so strange that I kept thinking about you today...and then I see this thread.

Even though this was a hard way to get help, at least your son is on the way to getting some help. I hope that you and your family weather this storm without too much damage.

Hang in there. It may be hard, but if it gets the results your son needs, it is well worth the struggle.

((((((((HUGS to Bel))))))))

Jenny

February 27, 2003
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Hello MJ, SFB and Been,
Thank you all for your responses and hugs and concerns. We have to take things one day at a time and it is hard. I do listen everytime my son talks and he is talking more now than in his whole lifetime it seems! But I dont care as long as he talks it gets things off of his shoulders and mind and gives him some release of stress. The kids are senseing something is wrong and were just telling them daddy is sick and needs alot of quiet time right now, I dont know what else to tell them. What scares me is my son talks of commiting sucide and that stresses me so much. He says he loves us but that we would be better off without him. He is really down on himself right now and its such a delicate situation it seems like a timebomb ready to explode.

February 27, 2003
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We're here for you, Bel

February 27, 2003
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Good evening Bel,
Just hope that you are surviving.
It is so hard dealing with our children's pain at any age...and especially in your circumstance when you are right in the middle of it.
I care.....and am thinking of you.

February 28, 2003
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hi bel
sorry to hear about your son, hope he feels better soon. sending you strength ang hugs, stay strong, hope things look up for you and your family soon, your a great woman,
(((((hugs)))))
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February 28, 2003
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Thank you all for your concern. My days are very hard right now, I just got off of the phone with my son and he made me cry, it seems that is all we do lately. He does not want to live and wants to go somewhere and just end his life. It breaks my heart to hear him talk like that. We cry together and I hate to leave him alone his girlfriend and I have been taking turns staying with him. He is taking his meds so that is a good thing but he is not eating or sleeping much but he does lay around in bed alot and takes cat naps. He says he has no desire to live or try to get better because it will all be in vain. He starts his extensive class on monday so I pray he will be better once that is started. When were all home with him he is a little better but if he is home alone he starts to get paranoid.

February 28, 2003
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Hugs Bel...Monday is a long time to have to go until he starts his treatment....The stress you must be going through....

Compassionate hug....and support....
and Prayer

February 28, 2003
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Bel, I am so sorry that you are having to go through this with your son. It would be so hard to see your child suffering like this and feel so helpless. He doesn't know it right now, but he is so blessed to have you in his corner. This weekend will probably be very hard, but I really hope and pray that when he starts this extensive class on Monday that he will see hope of some kind. You need to take care of yourself too through all of this. My prayers are with you Bel. Love, TS

March 3, 2003
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Hi Bel. I keep seeing where you have posted too and I just wanted to see how you are doing. It sounds like things have been kind of rough for you too. Are you ok? You are so caring in your posts to everyone and that is what makes this site such a good place to come. I hope that you are having a good day. Love, TS

March 3, 2003
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My son is doing better Thank God. He is taking his meds, sleeping a little better and eating again and talking. He has apoligized to me, his GF and the kids on how he has abused us all in the past and wants to make up for it. He started his extensive class this morning from 9am to 12 and I pray he continues to go to it. He has lost so much weight his clothes are getting big on him, he is 6ft and tall dark and handsome! I wish I could lose weight too!
We all went to breakfast on Sunday morning and it was really nice. We are all going to start taking walks in the evening as a family, he told me he wants me to be more active and healthy and wants me to join them. IM really proud of him right now as he is trying to fight this depression of his. Thats it for now just wanted to keep you posted to how were doing.

Hugs to all...
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Bel

March 3, 2003
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Hello TS,
I guess I posted over you or something. Things are better for my son so that makes things better for me. I know we have a long road but IM willing to make it however long it takes. I love my son so much and will always try and be there for him.

How are you doing and holding up?
I hope all is okay for you and your family.

Always
Bel

March 3, 2003
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Hi again Bel. Somehow our posts just arrived at different times. Great minds think alike, huh? 🙂

I am so glad that things are looking brighter for your son and your family. I think a family walk sounds wonderful. I am ready for the time change to come so we have more light in the evening hours. My husband has walked with me a few times. He starts off talking about work, which I don't mind too much, but then by the time we are finished his focus has usually changed and he is talking about other things. We don't get to walk very often together, but hopefully when the spring and summer come that will change. You sound much happier. I am so glad for you.

My family and I are doing pretty good. Life is never dull with teenagers and a husband who travels. Mom just kind of feels used sometimes. I am sure that you know how that feels. At least the sun is shining here today and it is warmer. It is 55 outside right now and that is awesome. Last week we had snow and temperatures in the teens. Thanks for talking. Love, TS

March 3, 2003
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Bel,

I'm so glad that your son is starting to do better. My husband also became very verbally abusive as he was building up to a major depressive episode. Men do express their pain differently.

I hope that all goes well for him today. He sounds like he maybe had to get totally burned out before he could climb out of the hole he had dug for himself. He has the right idea: medication, rest at first, then exercise and eating.

Keep up the positive reinforcement. Just a side note: make sure that you and his gf take some time to yourselves. At least you two can tag team. It can be very difficult to hang around your son's black cloud for too long. Just like someone who has to take care of a handicapped relative, you two also need to take breaks.

Take care, and let us know how you are doing too! I hear a lot about your son but not much about you!! You're a very caring Mom!!

Jenny

March 3, 2003
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Bel, I am so glad that your son is improving. Hugs to You and all your family.

March 5, 2003
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Bel, how are things going today? Let us know. We care.

Jenny

March 5, 2003
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Hello Jenny,
Thank you for asking how things are going.

Yesterday morning was awful with my son have an anger episode and me leaving for work upset. He did go to his class and called me on break more or less saying he was sorry although not saying the actual words. I know he will have his ups and downs and he is really trying so we will just have to deal with things one day at a time.

Today he did not go to his class as he said he is very tired. We went out to breakfast just he and I which is very rare for us and just talked and ate of course it was so good. He was sharing things from the class with me. He is still trying to do good but I notice he gets stressed really easy and if something unexpected happens.

His girlfriend and I have gotten closer through all of this and IM glad she was there through it all otherwise I dont think I could have handled it all on my own.

How have you been? Are you okay?
And your family?

Take Care
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Bel

March 5, 2003
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Hi Bel, I am sorry that your son is having such a hard time. Just keep encouraging him to go to his class though. I'm glad that you had the time at breakfast with him. You sound like a really good mother to him. Take time to do some good things for yourself too through all of this. It is always good to see when you have posted on here.

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Hi TS,
Thank you for asking about me. My son continues to make progress but I know it will be a long road. IM kind of a lazy person lately so I am taking time for myself. I relax when I play games on my computer or talk to friends or go spend time with my mom or my sister. I feel guilty when I go spend money on myself I dont know why. Shopping makes me happy and just being in a department store tends to lift my spirts too but I really dont have money to shop so I just window shop most of the time.

How are you doing? Are things getting any better? It amazes me how people who are going through such bad times can find the strenth to encourage others.

Hugs to you (((((((TS)))))))))
Take Care
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Bel

March 6, 2003
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Hi Bel,

I'm glad to hear that your son is making some progress. I know what you mean when he gets so upset that things are not as he predicted. My husband does the same thing. He used to be able to take a lot of responsibility and stress. Now he freaks out as soon as any stress is upon him.

I am glad though to see that, for the most part, he is getting himself together. Going to the classes hopefully will make a difference.

And you seem much more hopeful also. Try to give yourself little treats now and then, though. You do deserve it, after all that's happened!

Jenny

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