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January 31, 2001
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Tez,
Okay, here it is...you start!

February 1, 2001
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As I whirled around the dance floor, I could feel myself become one with my partner. The music of the spheres filled my ears. I was no longer a separate being, but at one with the whirling universe. Suddenly, I became conscious of two beautiful eyes watching me. She was dancing with another man, yet it felt as if she was in my arms. Her blond hair swirled as she turned and undulated to the rhythm of the music, divine. The image of her filled my head and I yearned to hold her more intimately in another dance; a dance so sublime that words cannot describe. What was happening to me? Was I not already dancing with a beautiful woman? Had cupid once again guided his shaft with deadly accuracy straight to my heart?

Oh damm, now I will have to deal with my 'family of origin' and 'codependency' issues before I fall into this 'romantic' trap and generate much self-inflicted pain! šŸ™‚

February 1, 2001
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Tez,
what issues? You said beautiful eyes that were watching you. Honey, if she was into the man she was dancing with, the last thing she would be doing is watching you! And were you one with your partner, or was she the vechicle for you to be one with yourself (it would be a bit odd to swirl around the dance floor by one'self, would it not)? If you felt a divine intimacy with your partner you would not be conscious of any other woman. Somehow I think you are pulling my leg!

February 1, 2001
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I don't care if he was pulling your leg or not, it was good, I'm gonna go take a shower. I'm into the sublime dance, do we know if Tez is a scorpio, talk about passion! I thought I was tired.

February 1, 2001
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Hummm, if I remember correctly, Tez, you're an Aquarian, eh? And yes, Molly, it was a bit on the warm side.Had to step out into the snow for a few. But I prefer to think of sultriness as being a dark woman with intense eyes that melt through the man's icy exterior and turn him into a quivering mass/mess--not afraid to ask for a dance!
That's me...I tend to think less about passion and do more...which can often get me into trouble. Also have the tendency to be bit of a Xena: romantic warrior.

February 2, 2001
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How unromantic of you wanting to cognitively explore my boring childhood issues!:)

You said, "If you felt a divine intimacy with your partner you would not be conscious of any other woman." Your right, I wasn't at the time - until my partner very jealously brought it to my attention. Maybe it was my partner who wasn't in the 'divine rapture' of the dance. šŸ™‚

"Somehow I think you are pulling my leg!" Well... the incident is both recent and true... sorry. The recounting is of course in the Barbara Cartland style of writing that I thought you ladies would like.

The blonde lady in question has for some time, for reasons unbeknown to me, been making overtures in many ways that have caught the attentions of both my partner and myself.

I do feel a very powerful 'romantic' attraction for the seductive lady in question. However, I very 'unromantically' dismiss this thought from my mind - as it consistently reoccurs - as being the emotional cravings of the inner child seeking reunification with a long lost 'mommy'. Now, in my opinion, that's maturity and sound rational judgement. Cognitions reigning supreme over emotions(romance). Happy Warrioring. šŸ™‚

Molly:

Sorry... I'm a GEMINI!!!! Watch out you'all! I'm trying to control the reins of a team of wild horses. Those bloody emotions.... When will they ever learn!

February 2, 2001
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aquarians are forever unavailable...hehe
umm, Tez, I was wondering if you knew you made a freudian slip there in your first post, where you state "Had cupid once again guided his SHAFT with deadly accuracy straight to my heart?" Shaft, being the operative word........hehe
ok, im bad.

February 2, 2001
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whoooowheee this post is sizzlin'

February 2, 2001
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Born under the sign of the twins, sometimes you get to be the child, and sometimes the man, and may the best you win. Seduction and attention is always intriguing, heck I am greatful for construction workers, and the occasional whistle, know what I mean. I must be lacking something, hmmmmmmm šŸ™‚

February 2, 2001
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Tez,
Ah the twins...that explains a great deal. I have life lessons with Gemini's. My father is one (thought that would make you feel good!). No, it is true...in my experience the Gemini male is deeply attracted to the woman who is all about passion, the lustiness of life. They crave that and yet are unable to let themselves go totally into the feeling. It's almost as if they are afraid they will never return. Passion would swallow them up--pulling them into the dark unknown. Because the other side of the Gemini is the one who thinks about everything, much like an Aquarian. Living life in the head. You say she has been sending signals to you. Is it possible that you have been sending signals to her in a detached sort of way. You know...prove to me how much you want me sort of way. Come on darlin', the blond hair thing goes a little beyond Barbara Cartland writing (for the record, I don't read or like those kind of books...I write a little more directly, cleanly...as my bf says, linear). Also, your partner may be picking up on your supressed feelings/emotions. As a friend of mine often says, "you can't see the forest for the trees". Maybe your physical being is responding to a spiritual call of sorts...if there is nothing there, you would have gotten your fill of looking a long time ago. Is it possible you need to explore, not childhood issues, but rather present issues...like maybe the two of you could be happy in a permanent tango. My granmama used to tell me there is a perfect fit for every puzzle piece. Exploration is a part of experience. There are many other catchy phrases I could say, but I think you get the point.

Molly,
It's all in the hips, my dear. Move as if you feel it. Life is like making love. You have to be present for every touch and know where you are at every second. If you don't you miss out on the applause.

Brenda,
yeah, the shaft thing reminds me of the whole "search for the grail" idea. You know, man in search of his other half....

February 3, 2001
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Aquarians are forever unattainable? So that's what went wrong.

I did marry a Scorpio tho'.

that's fun.

Having a scorpio daughter is not.

Me....a virgo.

February 3, 2001
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Scorpio's are the saints and the sinners of the Zodiac. They may be hard to understand or really get to know, but once they are your friend, they are a friend for life. Unless, of course you betray them, then, watch out...they may forgive, but they never forget! Virgos do well with Scorpios....they are alot alike. Virgos think, "if they would only listen to me, everything would be okay." Scorpios, on the other hand, won't listen to anyone. They have to live life the hard way. That's why they go through so many transformations...into the fire and back out again. Whew, I hope this latest fire is short lived for me. However, a friend of mine said February will be a difficult month for most...because of Mercury. I'm not counting on too much for Valentines Day...looks like it will be a work night for me. I hope it's a good one for the rest of you all. Blessings.

February 4, 2001
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Looks like I'll have to wait until the right planets, stars or star signs line up before making a move. šŸ™‚

February 4, 2001
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Tez,

But don't forget, there are two of you. So, you can make a move now and if you get it wrong blame it on your evil twin. Unless, she is a Scorpio, then you would do best to wait. March is going to be a good month for Scorpios...Spring will bring many new beginnings. Hope I last that long! Between school, personality issues, and car problems, I'm ready to high-tail it out of here. Maybe, Tez, dear, you can help me find a nice place in the "outback" to hide until the planets are done getting their jollies?

February 5, 2001
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Tez,
I need to ask a man this question. Is it possible that men go through a type of menopause like women? That even tho' society tells them they have to be strong all the time, their (your) hormones affect feelings. I know that certain growth hormones drop dramatically around age 40 for men and that replacement therapy often restores vitality. And I'm not talking sexually, but emotionally. Isn't this why certain men go out and buy little sports cars? So, maybe relationships aren't so much about romance as they are about conquest? Being able to win...be like the young dogs? The reason I ask is, my bf goes through these phases where he is so work oriented he almost looks like someone is chasing him...a look of panic and fear..."gotta keep up, gotta keep up...if I don't they will take this away from me". And when he goes through this he becomes more of a problem solver in our relationship rather than a lover. It is hard for him to just relax. If I understood this male thing, I would feel better. Reading about it in books is not the same as real life. One of my male professors says this is often the case with men...but NOT the reason why he (my proff.) got his red sports car. Enlighten me, Tez, dear...

February 5, 2001
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Enlighten you or anyone else? How could I do that?

So... you're interested in why men buy red sports cars; or in my case a thundering great motorcycle with an engine in it with the same grunt a small car engine. When I was a young guy, big motorcycle engines were 650 ccs. Now I ride an 1100cc. I still ride for the same reason that I did it then. Why? Speed, power! That brings an illusory feeling of exhilaration, of being all powerful. It's all about survival drives. People who seek power, in all its forms, are in my opinion compensating for feelings of powerlessness. That's probably common to most of humanity except the very few who have had idealistic parenting.

In addition, within mankind since antiquity, there is the archetype of the power of the warhorse embedded in the depths of his psyche. The powerful motor cycle and the sports car awaken that urge to feel that warhorse under oneself yet again. It takes only a little imagination to feel the swinging broadsword high above one's head ready to do it's deadly business. Perhaps this is why there is never a problem finding young men who are ready to go to war in all sorts of armoured vehicles and fighter planes. Maybe Neitzche was right about war being the ultimate drive of humanity! We sure never stop having them.

Perhaps driving a red (blood) coloured sports car and grid-iron games(rugby in Australia) are more benign outlets for this compensatory aggression in men.

February 5, 2001
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Tez,
So, what you are saying is that as men get older they worry about the competition thing (not measuring up to their standards) and then over compensate. Combine that with a woman in their lives who might be coming into their "own" (woman get stronger as they get older), and you have a man who is a little nervous about their self-esteem? I can understand the cycle...same reason women ride horses...that feeling of oneness with a powerful "creature". The sports car I have a problem with. Perhaps it's my practical sense, but the nicest car in the world isn't going to make a little guy suddenly "big". Eh? So why do it? At some point everyone has to take off the mask. I think it funny that women as they grow, start to learn who and what they are and act upon it, but men seem to hide behind bigger and better toys. Is that why there seems to be a trend of women marrying younger men? Their levels of power and esteem are the same? Hummm? Now, you've got me thinking.

February 5, 2001
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Big, at this point, I would settle for firm. :), I do believe part of what the spouse has been going through is the menopause thing, including side effects of the meds. We were talking about how nonsensical he was last summer speaking of having or adopting a child, but both realized it was a passing machisimo thing, or ...

February 5, 2001
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Molly,
Maybe men and women are more alike than they want to believe. Perhaps we go through all the same things, just at different times. So maybe there is something to be said for this menopause thing? My bf used to say he wanted a baby, but I think it was just the romance of the idea...having a small version of oneself. When he thinks about the late night feedings, the vomit, and the screaming (and that's only in the teenage years) he comes to his senses. He's toooo old to be a dad now. I would like to do it, but my clock's batteries are about to run out. I think now is a time to be free and learn with one another: explore. By the way, Molly, did you read the posting on Molly?, yet?

February 6, 2001
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In my experience, most people, male and female, "seem to hide behind bigger and better toys." Only the "toys" vary in shape, size and in their very nature. For many women their homes, their children are their "toys". Of course, each of us subjectively thinks our "toys" have the 'real' value. I am very reluctant to pass any judgement on what is good or a bad "toy". I just enjoy my "toy" in each moment that I'm riding it. It's as close as I come to just 'being' in the 'now'.

February 6, 2001
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Yes, Mam, don't know if it makes any sense, but its there. I do think men and women are similar in lots of ways, its the way we express it, and the timing that is different. Then there are the personalities, and ignorance to make us seem more different, not that one is smarter than the other..
Having finished raising two girls, I am glad I had them, but ... I don't know if I would do it today knowing what I know, and they were good girls, but the fantasy never pans out the way you thought, its so draining, and today, everything is so out of control, and so expensive. Maybe if their father and I had not divorced I would feel different, and to have a baby at my age, hell I could barely handle the dog this year, you forget how much work it is .

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Tez,
you still out there, mate? Or have you danced away? Come back, I miss you. I need to hear a story.........

February 9, 2001
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I like the so called 'difference' between the lads and girls. I really don't want to go out with some one that reminds me of me?! Scarey!
Getting back to the top stuff, I'm a pisces what can u tell me about that?

February 9, 2001
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Yep! I'm still here, perusing, perusing... šŸ™‚

What kind of story would you like to hear?

February 9, 2001
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Tez,
perusing...where fore art thou perusing? tee hee hee
A story...well, something inspiring, exciting, real life adventure...you on your bike dashing off to save a damsel in distress (or some such thing). No, really, at the moment I'm a bit down because of all the stress and my goal seems so far away. Having been a Xena for many years I get a little tired. I'm complaining, and I don't mean to whine, but I think society expects one to always be "up" when they have done it for so long. Those around us forget to give us the much needed "atta girl" when we do something really well. Is that childish? Am I still looking for mommy's approval, or is it what we all need? Anyway, I guess I need to hear a "good" story to help me stay on track. Cause at the moment I'm ready to pack my bags and head out of town....

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