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He's always tired
January 22, 2005
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I don't know how to deal with this. The guy I'm with is always tired. Every time I see him he says he's tired out and it's getting me down. I ask if he'd like me to leave and he'll say-no not just yet then an hour later he'll ask me to leave because he's tired. He says he's always tired and doesn't sleep too well. We don't go away or do much because he's always too tired. Whenever I ask if he wants to do something, he says he'll call me later to let me know how he's feeling. I've tried to be understanding and supportive, but it's getting me down. I really like this guy, and I wan things to work but latel it feels like I'm dating a 90yr old man. I thoughyt about raising it with him, but it will sound unsupportive and selfish of me. Any advice?

January 22, 2005
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How old IS he? Why is he so tired? Work a lot, depressed, what? Could be he's just boring. Has he ever been energetic or like to do things? Maybe this is what you see is what you get. SD

January 22, 2005
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aaah Wallace...the guy i am with now too is "tired" alot too, sometimes boring....does he workout at all??? maybe he needs to take some type of vitamins to energize him more. Best thing to do is get him more motivated to get up and get moving, that usually energizes people more.

January 22, 2005
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Camer, wallace...just a thought, hope not to overstep feelings and boundaries here...
Pot makes people tired.
Wallace, what you see is what you get. I don't see how you could NOT be upset. My interpretation, but it is just me: I would think that he was trying to get me mad at him to break it off, because he didn't have what it took himself to break it off. So I would say that to him, and confront him with that. Tell him how it makes you feel that he is tired and that you don't want a relationship with someone who does not "show up" as to equal you. OR, just ignore his phone calls, etc. and move on without a word?

January 22, 2005
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thanks OMW!! now Wallace, does your bf smoke pot??? hmm, mine does and yes he is tired alot...it kinda sucks!!!

January 22, 2005
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Hi guys, I had the same situation with my ex bf! It really did make him tired, and he had/has (?) no motivation. He failed his classes and school and couldn't even find time to fix the trunk of his car, which was held closed with a bungee cord for months. I want a man that puts forth a little effort in life, in ALL areas of life, especially relationships!
(sorry for the tangent) 🙂

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January 22, 2005
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wallace,
I would bring up the situation with him and see what he has to say about it. If he does smoke pot, that could be one reason. Otherwise maybe he needs a physical with his doctor, there could be something else going on. My friend was always tired and run down, after seeing the doc they found out it was thyroid problems. There could be any number of explanations, besides some of them already stated on posts. I would bring up the situation and take it from there....

January 22, 2005
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my ex used to say that he was always tired. He teased he had titsi fly disease and that was why. Needless to say, I didn't see too much humor in it and it was eventually a factor in our breaking up. Thanks for reminding me of that - sometimes I get all maudlin that we aren't together anymore, now I remember one thing that just STUNK!

January 23, 2005
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Thanks everyone. No he doesn't smoke pot. He is ony 50!!. He works out at the gym EVERY DAY!! He loves himself. Unfortunately-I love him too. He says it's because he has a virus at the m,oment. But when it's not a virus-it's hard day at the office, hard workout down the gym-ARRRGH!!! On the weekend, I saw him Fri night-usualy story. Tired, so no sex-again. He asked me to leave so he could go to bed-again. I rang him next day-he said he was fine. I said shall we do something later-he said he'd call me later depending on how he felt. I was looking forward to a night out with him. He calls me at 6pm to say he feels lousy with sore throat and doesn't fancy any company, then he tells me he is going to a party!!! I was speechless-then I was abrupt and he said that I sounded unhappy-can you believe it???? THEN he said that I could always talk to him whatever was upsetting me. I rang his house several times and he was out 'til late. When I called him, he said he felt ill and would call me in next day. WHAT ON EARTH IS GOING ON HERE? When I first met him, it was sex nearly everytime I saw him, he was so dynamic. Could it be that he's loosing interest? Could it be that underneath all that he's a boring old f**t? Help me out here please.

January 23, 2005
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The other thing is that I put all my plans on hold in case he wants to do something. So I had nothing to do on Sat other than sit in and get mad.

January 23, 2005
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Could it be mono maybe? Does he have a sorethroat that will not go away?

January 23, 2005
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Titsi fly disease! Ah- I'll have to remember that one. Marley at least he was original! Thats my laugh of the day! SD

January 23, 2005
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Gosh, I didn't put that connection together. My hubby used to smoke pot and he was always tired. To tired to do anything w/ me but he had energy enough to go to his bro's coz that's where he got his stuff. Hmmm. Opened my eyes.

January 23, 2005
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if he was sick why did he go to the party and why didn't he take you to the party??

January 23, 2005
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Sounds to me like he's just not all that into you anymore. When I first started dating my bf it didn't matter to me what I had to do to spend time with him cause I wanted to be with him that much. He would do some cocain and literally be up all night so sometimes I went to work the next day without even sleeping and of course, he didn't have to work on Saturday so he could sleep all day!! Now I've gotten to the point where I'm pretty sick and tired of him so you can pretty much guess, I'm not willing to stay up with him all night anymore. Anyway, what I'm trying to say is that maybe he's losing interest. Maybe it's time to make your own plans without him and if he feels like coming along then cool, but if he doesn't, at least you still have plans!! That's what I started doing with my STBX because he doesn't like doing anything at all unless it's something he likes which is usually just watching tv and having sex!!

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