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HELP!!HELP!! I AM SCARE!!!
February 21, 2005
5:47 am
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ineedtoloveme
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IN the last 2 months my boyfriend has:

1. Admitted to being a SEX ADDICT
2. Confess to all his "dirty sex affairs"
I mean really confess!!
3. Started going to SAA meetings.
4. Started going to a therapist
5. Joined church
8. Will be getting baptism on Sunday.
6. Answer all my questions honestly
7. Started coming to me when he feels "funny"
My questions-What is the likelihood he will make it?What are the chances I will be devastated again? I do see a MAJOR change in him. We have been together for 10 years.

February 21, 2005
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Ineed:

Do I remember you from before? Just curious if you had been here before. Seem to remember. If so, glad you are back; if not, welcome.

The likelihood he will make it: Once an addict most always an addict. I think few do make it, but it is an every day constant struggle of desire and will power.

The chances of you being devastated again: great. Living w/ an addict recovered or practicing is a roller coaster ride that never stops. There are good daya and bad days.

I'm glad he is going to therapy. I do feel you also will need some counseling to help you deal w/ this. The addict needs "fixing", if that's the right word, but so does the entire family as a whole. There is alot you've had to deal w/ and then there is the trust issue.

I am glad you are here. This is a great place to vent and get support. You will need support either way, so do keep coming.

February 21, 2005
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My ex HUSBAND went through rehab 12 years ago, turned to God, the whole ball of wax that yours has recently turned to and he has made it! 12 YEARS CLEAN! And though we divorced over unrelated issues, he is a great christian man of integrity. Honest and trustworthy. So YES!! He can make it!! The big thing that made it possible for my ex husband was God. Your boyfriend is making an honest and sincere effort. Have hope!! It wasnt an easy road and of course he had fall backs for the first year but Im glad we made it. Should have stayed married to him but...whole other story

February 21, 2005
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there are not guarantees in life, but if your hubby keeps working the program and sharing all thats going on with you, and getting the needed help....I think he can do this...good luck!

February 21, 2005
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Everyone can change if they really want to. I was with an alcoholic. When she got sober, we ended up splitting but I would rather have seen her sober and us apart than see her a drunk and have us stay together.

Lots of things might change. I'm glad you are staying focused on the positive and trying hard to walk this path with your partner. What is best for the both of you is what will be. Based on what you are saying about how much he is trusting you, it seems like you have a good chance of success. He must love you a great deal!

Love to you,

Ren'ai

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