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Help with an abusive ex?
October 9, 2013
1:02 pm
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Argh so I don't know where to start! Basically to cut short a long story, me and ex together 4 years, in which time he was abusive financially, emotionally, cheated and abused drugs. We have a 2 year old son who he loves very much but on a couple of occasions since we split has not turned up for handover due to a bender. Now I kicked him out in August and he is STILL trying to get me back. I've even had a solicitors letter sent to him stating to only contact me with regards to childcare but that has gone out the window. He's been horrible since we split and now has done a complete u-turn being some partner/father sent from heaven, this is only the last couple days since his last bender and not being there again at handover. I know he's an idiot but why oh WHY am I a tiny bit imagining what life would be like if he came back, how good it could be, all id have to do is click my fingers and he'd be back! I feel lonely and in need of a bit of attention. What can I do to stop this? I feel guilty for continually rejecting him and I feel sorry for him! A small part of me wants to almost "save" him because I know deep down he is a good person! This is all driving me a bit crazy as you can probably tell! Any words of advice? Thankyou xx

October 16, 2013
8:27 pm
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A support group for people who love an addict or alcoholic such as naranon or alanon might help. Please click on these links:

1. nar-anon.org

2. al-anon.alateen.org

“You have no control over what the other guy does. You only have control over what you do.”

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