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help please no response before
February 9, 2007
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triciaisok
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I sent a message for feedback and got none.
Is there only a certain group of people that get a response. I have given out and wanted someone to give back. That has been my problem most of my life. Give but not have it returned. I am worthy of receiving not only giving out. I am not perfect but wish to develop relationships that give also. Wow no response on my dealing with the winter blahs...... been long enough for others to respond. Was it not dysfunctional enough? Does it have to be?
I guess I am wrong to expect some feedback from cyberspace huh-pretty shallow I guess. I will try face to face help-goodbye all

February 9, 2007
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OK i found it!!!

Well the answer to me is simple. If you give to much to others, then the focus has to be turned around and focus on yourself. What good can you be if everything is all about everyone else. Pay attention to yourself. What do you need? I treat myself better these days. I make it all about myself and how I feel first. Then I feel more giving to others. I feel resentful otherwise. And also jealous too. So I try to make my own world better because the person I can depend on the most is myself. And it is me that I have to live with ALWAYS. Treat yourself the way you feel you should be treated.

February 10, 2007
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I didn't see your thread before, sorry. My work day is 12 hours and as a result keep track of just a few threads. Just a lack of time issue. Try not to take it personal. You will notice there are people who have been here for years and have built a rapport with eachother. I have felt unnoticed before as well. It is what it is! Just keep reaching out.

I also struggle with a bit of seasonal depression. I try to take care of myself and muddle through it. I prefer the sunshine, flowers, birds singing etc. Due to a lack of health insurance had to go off my Wellbutrin and that has added to the issue. I do a lot of praying that God with guide me through this bad time as he has in the past. Try to be around positive people and do things I enjoy doing. This helps alot. Treat yourself to something each day. Write a list of things you are grateful for. Spring is just around the corner.

Ali

February 10, 2007
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triciaisok don't feel that way. Sometimes people may overlook your thread because there are so many threads competing for our attention and you cannot look at them all no less answer them all. I do understand your feelings though because you feel vulnerable when you put a question out there. If there is no answer bump that baby back up.

I feel you are brave to do what you did as far as the situation with your house. Most of us only do that when we are forced to so you are to be commended.

For the winter blahs I would suggest reading things that you really like. Read things that inspire you, make you laugh, help you plan, give you a sense of adventure. I suggest you write a journal of what you are going through and let your feelings out and what plans you want to accomplish. Listen to upbeat music that always helps to elevate your mood - nothing is better than that. The library has free or near free vhs tapes and dvds that you can rent or borrow. Going for a walk the sun can usually help lift the blahs. Take a walk in the park. Go to Starbucks. Visit Meetups.com, they have groups in your area that get together and do things. Put together a scrap book of things you like. Go to a movie matinee once a month. The days are getting longer and remember no situation lasts forever.

February 10, 2007
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Thanks Ned

Yes, journaling helps me a great deal. I like the other suggestions also.

Taj64-One of my areas of growth is to ask. I learned not to ask a l-0-n-g time ago and sometimes part of the freeing is to ask. Yes, I do beleive to treat myself well but no one person is an island and I beleive in balance. My daughter has helped me to think outside the box. I use to feel I was able to do this. Maybe it is my growing older and some things I use to feel confident in, I have struggled since I have hit alot of road bumps the last couple of years. My recovery meetings and phone time with friends seem to help.
I love to scrapbook. It has been awhile-thanks for the reminder.

February 10, 2007
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Just bumping this up for you. Hope you're doing well.

February 11, 2007
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thanks serenityali

Yes, doing much better. How is everyone else doing ? What are some fun healthy things you are doing to get through the winter months?

I went to this recovery dance. It was ok but they played too much "couple" music. I love dancing and unless you had someone to dance with I sat out and visited with people. I like more upbeat music to dance too. You don't need to be a couple in order to be out dancing then and it's upbeat.

Well all have a good day!

February 11, 2007
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Good to hear you're doing better and got out around people. Music can be a great depression lifter, as well as just getting out of the house. Good for you!!

Ali

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