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Help need advice
July 26, 2005
2:03 am
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I haven't been here for awhile. Things are good. My husband is in treatment. Has been for 2 months in another state. He is doing really good. He will be there for quite a few more months. Anyway he says how much he loves me and wants us to be a family ect. I love him and want us to be a family again too but i don't want him to come here we would have to move. i am going to wait and see what he is thinking. i just want to know what you guys think. I filed for divorce a little over a year ago because is was on meth for 3 years and I wanted him to get better and keep my daughter safe. Long story short, I gave him no breaks and now he is in treatment because he was ready. Our divorce never finalized. I just want to know how I will really see that he wants our family back and know that it is for real. I love him so much... I always have. Help. godsgirl

July 26, 2005
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Well, who says a family all has to live in the same place. Youhave your hands full with your kids and he needs to work on his independence without drugs. It doesn't mean you can't see him. You need to get a good support system in place to help you keep strong and with good boundaries in place.

That meth is a real bugger to get over- I feel sorry for you and your family. I hope all goes well and he gets on his feet.

The way I figured is that I could always marry my ex again if he smartened up. I even think this and he hasn't quit and he is shacked up with someone else. Well you never know.

How will I know he is ready and really wants our family back for real? He can live financially independently...he can make it a year on his own without drugs or alcohol, he explores his codependency and he gets rid of the sweet young thangs that complete him (for now, anyways lol), he gets his temper in check- joins AA or something and has a support system of his own to keep his sobriety. He pays child support...Now these are things that I want my ex to do. He has no intention of doing these things, mind you, But I made this short list, just in case. Maybe this short list can help you!!!

All the best! Sound like you are on solid ground

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