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Help Lost without mom
April 24, 2001
11:15 am
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sandy edwards
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I am 39 years old and have three great sons
21,19,12,The two oldest are on there own,and doing great,I was sexuly abused by my dad for
9 years,i told but nobody believed me,finaly mom left dad when i was 15 mom hated me and so did dad.it took mom two years before i felt she was close to me again,she remarried and my stepdad was all i needed he was wounderful with us kids and our kids,21 years mom was married and did daycare at home
one day we get a phone call and find out he was messing with a few of the daycare girls and my nieces,he disapered in a matter of five munites walking .mom was mind boggled that this could be happening again,he whole world ended again,this was a year ago.now happy to say stepdad is in prissen 8 years
anyway lets see how to say this,now when i was 19 i met a man that was 32 and i thought he was real responsable and i moved in with him we were together 1 year and he was a truck driver I got pregnat and had my son and this man left when my son was three days old,never said he was leaving just was gone
so i raised my son by myself not one penny from his dad for 18 years ,but i had lots of love and support from mom,right to the point
he showed up after 18 years at my moms and started seeing mom as friend i told mom how i felt,he was no good and i found out he was in prissen 3 years for touching his daughters,And My Mother has fallen for him another child melester i an appaled and at my wits end mom has been my best friend for 20 years 8 phone calls a day,Well she married him and i have lost my mom my best friend i cant stomic even hearing his voice let alone going to her house and seeing them two together,plus im chocking with all these feelings from my dad messing with me as a child never had any help just stuffed it all down deep and i feel so lost i dont know how to let go or what to do any advice how do you fix this havent talked to mom in 5 mounths and i miss her so bad and i am so sad every day what can i do?please help me

April 24, 2001
2:57 pm
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Molly
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Please seek professional support, you have a long history of trust violations, confused love, and yea, no matter how bad our mom's are we still miss them. You have done the right thing,in severing relations, until we get educated, directions, and help, we usually somehow pick the same type of person for a mate, go figure, but get some help and support.

April 24, 2001
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Sandy,

I'm so sorry for your pain, believe me, I truly sympathize. I was molested when I was 11 by three other guys and to this day, my parents know some of the stuff that happened but they don't know it all. It's still too painful for me to recount. After years of depression, I finally decided to seek counseling and am now almost completely healed from the sessions and anti-depressants. I'm saying all this to say that you are not alone baby. You need to go through counseling and get into some support groups. Most importantly, you must pray, pray each and every day. See, for everything God has a reason, we can't always see it but there is a reason. So instead of questioning your painful past, why not just accept that it happened and while you didn't like it, u can't change it, all you can do is to confront the pain that plagues you as a result. Then after you've done all you can, you just stand and be strong because for everything there is a reason. As for your mom, cut her outta your life. what kinda mother is she to do that to u? How does it look for your son to see that grandma is dating dad? No, you deserve better. If you want, I'll be your best e-mail friend, because I hear a lot of pain that I can relate to: Anytime something bothers you, just e-mail me at [email protected] and I'll be waiting to hear from you.
Before I go remember that in the book of John, chapter 14:1, Jesus told Thomas "Let not your heart be troubled, you believe in God . . . " and that's my advice to you, you just stand strong and trust God, and I promise it'll be all right. I'll be praying 4 u.

God bless you,

PG Lova

April 25, 2001
12:41 am
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Sandy,

Please take the time to find a competent counselor in your area to discuss your problems with. You have some very serious things going on, all interconnected. Part of the reason you are having such a hard time is because your subconscious may have decided it's time to start dealing with things. There's no time like the present!

Best of luck to you!

Sincerely,

Mal

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