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Help...I'm falling back in to rescue mode..revelation.
February 20, 2006
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Hi All,

He's apologised, begged me in tears to help him. "Will you come to the doctor's with me please" he said...I am so tempted to help. Already though he's copping out. I saw him on thursday and he said his sister has offered to bring him to a doctor, to get a referral to a psychiatrist. Already he is putting the onus on his sister to come forward and offer help...I am so tempted to just wade in their, tell him he's copping out and go to the doctor with him myself. He says he made a mistake, he thinks about me all the time and wishes I were there, because I always know what to do. He's depressed right now, he seems to be really positive and hopeful when I'm around, but after a few days he goes back in to negative hopeless mode. He says he feels terrible for the verbal abuse and threats, he knows that he must get help for this. How do I walk away from this? HOW?

February 20, 2006
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It won't be asy when you care as much as you do or when you feel guilty. But just remember the abuse and threats. Remind yourself of what has transpired.Be tough.

It is NOT your fight, it is his. He must take responsibility and want to help himself.

If he can't find the strenght let his sister do it. You work on yourself until YOu are healthy once again. To me it sounds like you need to concentrate on yourself some more first.

Notsure

February 23, 2006
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OK....today I had the day off. I knew he wouldn't be doing anything and I went over to ask him if he wanted to go for a walk or something....he said he was "busy" that there was "no rush" for the help he begged me for. Its like he's completely turned around on the way he was last week. He appreared to be so vulnerable to really need my help. Now he says there is no rush. I said well then will we make an arrangment to meet up later on in the week. He agreed to call on sunday. I gave him a book last week as he said he was getting in to reading, I asked if he'd started to read it...he didn't. I said to him..."T, why are you constantly trying to make a fool out of me? Don't you think I've been through enough? Why did you pull me back in last week just to shut me out now?" his answer..."that was all in your head" W.T.F??????? What should I do? Please help....whats going on in his head? Why am I getting the cold shoulder now? I am so so so so confused about this.

February 23, 2006
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Take Care of YOU!

What can you do for yourself today? How can you enjoy your day off? Your life is full of choices! Nurture yourself and focus on the things you can do for YOU. He obviously doesn't need rescuing! Love YOURSELF.

February 23, 2006
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Thanks, I am trying to take care of me...I was doing so well until he got back in touch...now I'm bck where I started...well, maybe not quite. I keep falling for the nice guy act...its very convincing. He wants to meet up on sunday. I don't know what to do.

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