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help for a confused mom
October 12, 2000
10:40 am
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morganc
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my story is to long to put here but for a short version here goes. i have been in counseling for 5 years due to depression.2 yeaars ago i found out my daughter was sexually abused, had a long hard battle with the court system he got a slap on the hands, she fell threw the cracks the courts words not mine. now at sixteen she is pregrant married and 2 months into her marriage she is getting a divorce. now the really kicker is my counslor has moved away for a year i don't fel comfortable talking with any one i have tried several. now my husband feels i am emotionally attached to my counslor and can't understand why i just won't see another doctor. please give me any insight that you may have

October 12, 2000
6:49 pm
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I have seen in my own clients attachment healthy, and dependent. It is hard to not become dependent on your personal cheerleader, but the ultimate goal is to deal with the problem, then go on with life, next crisis, go for help, get on with life. Often I get real up set with the world of mental health. Sometimes the therapy can drag on and on, due to financial gain, sorry but a fact. I would suggest that you do see another counselor, and perhaps with a new counselor new eyes and ears could find a speeder solution. Group might be the best solution for you.

October 29, 2000
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Hi,
Molly is right! maybe it makes you feel better to think that you are going to tell your new counselor that you are still attached to your old counselor? Good luck!

October 30, 2000
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Frida, I don't understand your anwser about a Morganc telling of her attachment to her counselor I have been in a the same situation and it worked out ok true it took a little work on both our parts but it was worth it to be honest to my new counslor.

October 30, 2000
6:32 pm
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It could be utilized as a distraction, to avoid the real issue. It could be that in some cases we know what we need to do, but some other issues get in the way. As humans we are real good at avoidance, a natural device to protect us from pain, even the pain of becomming healthy.

November 1, 2000
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I think that you need to slow down and take each problem separtly. You are overwhelming yourself with all your problems which leads to more problems. Stop and think then make a list of all you are dealing with and prioritize them then work on each problem one by one. By taking on such a big load you will only hurt your self in the end.

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