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Hello Zinnie from across the ocean
April 16, 2004
8:24 am
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Thought I would stay with the pseudo name, hope that's okay.(recommended the site to a few others,here at home)

My business trip went well,harsh,short and very exhausting. Got back on Wednesday evening.

As you read, I've found a comfortable phase-and practicing detachment with all my "might"
and staying in the NOW.

I am currently busy with the inner child scenario and coupled with "codependants and sex addiction"-"Boundaries and relationships". I've almost had to stop myself from obsessing over all this literature. It feels like almost equipping myself with all the tools -so as to avoid making the same mistakes. Similarly, I want to share so much however realise that I might not be able to do so simplistically,anyhow I feel I should still contribute as having gratitude to this site especially having been touched so much by your shared experiences and suggestions.

I have resolved to concentrate on my recovery and it has been F A N T A S T I C (Firstly thanks again to your initial suggestion)My bf has also grown so much in his recovery-our sharing has been awesome. His emotional honesty sometimes knocks the "wind out of my sail." I have begun to see how attracted he has become by my postive attitude and likewise.

And now dear Zinnie, please tell me how you have been? I have not read many of the threads and was honestly searching for your shares.

with love "I"

April 16, 2004
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Hi "I"

Glad to hear that your trip went well, with the exception of the exhaustion. Please be sure to rest up and continue to take care of yourself. I think sometimes we get so frazzled we forget that must care for ourselves.

I'm so pleased to hear you are doing so much better. Absolutely AWESOME! It sounds as if you are working things out with your boyfriend now? I'm glad! Good for you! He is doing well in recovery then? Now, how is his family playing into this? Are they still trying to manipulate him away from you? Is he able to stand up to them yet? Yes, strength is a powerful lure isn't it. The person who is independent and strong is to me a beautiful person.

I'm fine - actually doing quite well. Although my treatments have been extended through the end of May, I rec'd word the other day that my active cancer cell count is down by 27%. The loud yelling with joy you heard all the way around the world was me!

So, I'm preparing to celebrate my 40th birthday, and my 14th wedding anniversary in May... and meet my twin grand-babies, so I will be having a busy month! The twins are well, growing quickly and have just turned two months old last Wednesday. I have cut back to part time work for health issues, but hope to be back to full force soon. My daughter is doing wonderfully, and has been seeing a man that she met in the hospital - and Lord help me if I don't sound like the proverbial proud mother, but he is a Dr. Treats her with respect, and we are all enjoying getting to know him, and watching the two of them.

Thanks for asking, and thank you for sharing your great news. I'm so happy to hear you are doing well and continuing to grow.



April 16, 2004
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Wow!!! You are truely blessed

Sounds like your life-state has quadrupled. I sense an upliftment in you, in your share.

Awe! please give me the cure, lots of rest? prayer? all the love you are getting back in return for your efforts? You just sound fantastic!!!

Congratulations on your coming big day (very close behind you but in December), to your hubby and you (may the sun never set upon such a blessed love that it may see many more sunshines), your grandchildren (lots of play and spoiling) and your daughter's happiness.

I have found the connection in this universe absolutely awesome and so motivating.

Back home wrt the bf's family, what problem? (I'm grinning now, knowingly back then it was too painful to bare)Seriously, by both of us attaining such serenity, his attitude has been positive and he says,that he does have respect for his parents and bares the hurt that he had put them through during his addiction, however they cannot hold him emotionally hostage by it. I sat back and listened and guess what? its as if he was doing the "running after" re-affirming his feelings for me. So in a nut-shell, he is not going to allow his parents to dictate to him about our relationship. Is'nt that great? I've got to pinch myself now and then.

The difference of then and now is that the NOW is guarenteed REAL and honest. Back yonder, I never knew really where I stood because of the emotionally toxic relationship. I am definately taking it slow but hold on a second, Zinnie, don't go anywhere yet, the process is slow and I am aware I will expect obstacles-so I'll still need to share with you.

Congrats Again

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