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Heartbreak City
January 14, 2001
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Helenof Troy
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I recently posted up a topic but luckily found my own answer and am now trying to recover from a heartbreak that has happened a couple days ago. I know my topic seems almost high-school like in comparison of the more serious issues posted up here. I just HAVE to say that the physiological effects one experiences after a breakup is overwhelming at times. Sometimes I feel that I have a hard time catching my breath. The twisting knot in my solar plexis. And the nightmares that has been going on lately whether it would be about me & him in a bad situation, or just completely weird stuff that seem real upon waking. I hope all of this is over soon Once again..I know this is by far the lesser degree of tragedy but my heart doesn't feel so right now..so any words of wisdom or kindness are welcome..

January 14, 2001
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Helenof Troy, why do you think there are so many songs written about breakups? It's a heart-tearing experience to go through, so much that artists all over the world are driven to compose music about it. And yes, many people have posted threads that make a "simple" breakup appear petty, but try not to view it that way. The breakup is happening to you and is causing you very real pain.

I have heard that these things heal with time, but, since I'm going through a tough separation now myself, sometimes I lose sight of that. I have faith that things will improve and that the pain will lessen until it is gone. It shall also for you.

The important thing is to get through the shock and deep sadness that is happening to you right now, just survive. Take good care of your body... eat good food, drink plenty of water, get some fresh air at least once a day. I'm not sure about you, but I have a tendency to mope around, but feel better even after a short walk outside to the mailbox or trash chute.

It's OK, it will get better, even though it may not seem that way right now. Do you want to talk more about it or about how you are feeling?

January 14, 2001
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gingerleigh..don't you ever wish it's about a year down the road and you're all healed & recovered? Even to the point where the person who caused all of this misery is now a joke among friends and a line like.."wow..I'm so glad that's over with!" or "what a mistake" But ya know EVERYTHING happens for a reason. Just another step closer to being wiser. And funny you should mention music, I'm a singer and finally got into this band project that we finally rehearsed for the first time the night he broke up with me. That just goes to show...where one door closes. One opens. Thank god! I know the band is going to keep my soul and mind alive. It's just times when I'm alone that I feel like my HEART is being ripped out of my body. And those dreams..damn those dreams.

January 14, 2001
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Ah honey, I don't know what sort of musician you are, but I am one. Do you sing? Play guitar? Drums? Write lyrics? Write what you feel! No Doubt did that and made a pile of money! Music is my solace. I play and write what I feel, and it is beautiful and peaceful to me. Seek solace in your music and your talent, because no one and no heartbreak can take that away from you.

January 14, 2001
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Oh girl!!! can I get an amen for all that you wrote? I am a hard rock/blues singer and YES I do write alot but haven't lately. I guess now I will. I play some guitar and keyboards. The band is going to do a compilation of a WIDE variety of music. I am sure that once I'm back and performing again in full force,..all of this "heartbreak" crap will be a joke. I am just waiting for that day to happen. I hope it gets here sooner than I think.
But ya know, gingerleigh..I really do appreciate your attention & inspiration. I discovered this site accidentally looking for a counselor. So..I'm on my way to being a BETTER person for a BETTER MAN. Funny how that works?

January 14, 2001
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It seems bad now but you will find the right one soon believe me it happens to the best of us.

January 16, 2001
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Capitolize girls, while the pain is fresh, write those, 50 ways to leave your lover tunes. What about Alanis Morisette, sure I spelled the name wrong, but I remember her album, where she suggested the guy crawl back under the rock he came from. Found my song, once you were gone, learned to sing, once I tossed your cheap ring,Oh, the joy my new freedom does bring. Success is the best cure.

January 16, 2001
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I've written the best stuff under these circumstances. I am definately going thru the "ANGER" phase right now where I just can kick myself for allowing someone to bring out the worst qualities in me, when I know my heart & soul had many good intentions. Yet another lessen to be learned AGAIN. Something that Molly told me on the other thread and that is..to look inside myself. So it's back to the drawing board again but this time I've got help. Thank goodness. And coming on here was the best discovery I've made in awhile. Well..besides napster..HA HA...

January 16, 2001
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Ahhhh, anger can be such a good motivator. hehe

January 16, 2001
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Listen to Fiona Apple, "Sleep to Dream". Talk about anger. I like Alanis too, but Fiona has something more primal underneath somehow, you'll draw strength from her music too.

January 16, 2001
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I just downloaded "Sleep to Dream" from Fiona Apple. Oh yeah...she's talkin my language right now. I just want to be so on top of my world and let karma take care of people like him in the appropriate manner. Yes..I feel revenge as well.

January 16, 2001
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There...you are already on your way...

Now find you in there too.

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