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July 10, 2007
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I know I am not the only person who has been cheated on, but I would like to hear from people out there who have gone through this and decided to give their partner a second chance. If it worked out how did you accomplish that and how long did it take you to start regaining that love and trust again? Please provide me with your knowledge. Thanks

July 10, 2007
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Well,
In my heart I forgave the incident so that resentment would not build. I had to do this on a daily basis for awhile, because it hurt. I wanted to overlook the hurt, because I thought I should be strong, and I wanted to 'save' this guy, and wanted him to like me. But the bottom line for me was that, he needed to acknowlege and truthfully be sorry for hurting me and damaging the relationship. I couldn't just take him back carte blanche and pretend nothing ever happened. Anyone, anyone, who violates your trust, has to EARN it back...and they need to figure out how to do that themselves, without any prompting from you. If he really loves you, and if he really learned how it destroyed the trust, thedn he'll figure it out....otherwise, you are asking to be hurt again.

My experience involves a boyfriend, who later became my husband, many years ago. I never would have married him if I knew that he had not realized what he had done...on his own.

Good luck to you...you do not need to do anything to MAKE him love you, he either does or he doesn't.

July 10, 2007
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My evil-x cheated on me in our first marriage. Actually moved out and then wanted to come home. I forgave him. Things were never the same, to much oil and water mixed in the process of everything. He then started cheating repeatedly. Eventually we divorced.

I believe that to forgive once is ok, but if it becomes a repeat offense then it's not worth your heartache. You deserve better than that.

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