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Health is Attractive: Who Knew!
September 29, 2005
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Lass
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If I ever wanted validation that setting boundaries and being my own woman is attractive to men, I now have it. I scare people, I am so firm! They don't understand that this is because I am new at setting limits, and probably coming on kind of of tough and over the top. It is scary..for real. I feel selfish and off kilter sometimes. But the men in my world are completely digging me right now. I don't get it. Maybe it's because I am exuding that rare combination of vulnerable panic and f off or I'll really tell you what I think! I even asked a couple guys to explain what it is, and one said it's so natural he wouldn't want to wreck it. Another said it wasn't my vulnerability, but my loneliness showing, plus my values and strength. A wicked one - two punch. I feel different, shifting. Really like I dont' like it when you don't like me, but I also don't give a chit either. I will be me whether you agree or not. Quit shoulding on me! I trust my own take on things more than yours, but I'll check it to be safe and sure. I am very insecure and confident by turns right now.

September 29, 2005
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OMG Lass!!!! You so touched on a huge problem i have. I feel i come on too strong sometimes that i scare people away. Then once a person gets to know me, they realise i am too weak.

How do i be assertive but not scare others away. ESPECIALLY guys.

September 29, 2005
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Lass,

Way to validate the bossy terrified woman in me! Yeah, lonely and assertive was really not y best look, but throw a little scared in there, and look out HOTNESS, here I come! LOL

I like how those guys had to pull out the shown vulnerablilities in you and make THOSE the attractive points....I'm sure they meant well, but men seem to be programed to tear down/invalidate/minimize strenght! Lots to think about here, but I am in agreement, heathy is attractive! Thanks for sharing that!

Hugs, ef

September 29, 2005
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I think that men do want to be needed, even in healthy relationships. They are however, vulnerable to Knight in Shining Armor Syndrome. Rescuers end up in trouble, too. I think modern women scare men to some degree, that they are insecure but never let on. I think they are attracted to confidence in women, boundaries, self-esteem, good values, signs of health.

I don't ever want to present a false front to the world and be this squeeky mouse underneath...it's the whole package or nada.

Went to a mtg today, and didn't even try to catch ex bf's eye, and didn't look. No contact! Holding! I am strong and God loves me, and I can be weak without falling.

September 29, 2005
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And Flower...
That was hysterical...Your Hotness!

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