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HEALING THE EFFECTS OF RACISM
June 6, 2000
8:46 pm
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murmyrrh
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I am a Black African-American woman who suffers from depression. I was diagnosed over 10 years ago and have tried several treatments, therapies, and medications. But, my depression gets worse with time. I keep fighting to get over it and live a life that is bearable. The one thing that continues to really throw me into a depressive episode is racism and how it effects my life. I feel like the last ditch effort to bring my depression to a livable level is to find a therapist who can help me deal with the anger, powerlessness, and hopelessness caused by racism. I live in the San Diego area. Does anyone have any suggestions? Or, maybe someone has overcome this problem and can offer advice as to how I should proceed with treatment.

June 6, 2000
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murmyrrh, I don't have any wise words, except that I agree that a therapist who really understood what you feel and could help you live through it, even prosper, would be your best help. I just wanted to respond, and let you know that I'm sorry. Depression is enough to live with. How DOES racism affect your life? My brother who is bi-racial, growing up in a white family dealt with more than he will probably ever share with anyone. I'm sure he wonders if we would really understand. Would we? The anger is the hard part, isn't it? I hope you will find a therapist who can take it on, and lead you through. Hang in there!!!

June 7, 2000
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Hi,

I am also a black woman from another country and I can understand how racism would anger you but it should not be a reason for you to give up. Life is about overcoming obstacles. There is nothing you can do about racism. It will always be there but you can control your future by living up to your fullest potential. I have experienced some form of overt racism at one time or the other but it does not stop me froming doing anything I want to do. When one door closes, I look for a window. Get a good education, become successful and show the world that you a wonderful individual. You also need to develop a closer relationship with God. We can do all things through Jesus Christ who strengthens us. We've been made more than conquers through power of word. Please read you bible (especially Hebrews 11). Meditate on it. It doesn't matter what anyone on this planet thinks of you. Its what God and you think of yourself that matters. May God continue to meet you at your point of need.

June 7, 2000
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Racism isn't just a black or white issue, it is an issue if ignorance. When I was in elementary school, I was the minority and faced many issues of racism. I over came them by just being me. I didn't try to show them they were wrong to act the way they did, I just let them get to know me. Later on in life I had to use this knowing once again.

Ever been a teacher of the other color? The things I was called actually made me laugh out loud. Nothing like laughter to defuse a tense situation. One student, I taught adult education, had the nerve to hold a switchblade to my throat to "convince" me to change her grade. Said, since I was a whitey I had it coming either way. I didn't back down on the grade, and she picked up the pace on learning. She graduated from the class with a high grade, that she earned. Her self esteem intact.

Forget the ignorant boobs out there. Be secure in who you are, inside, and grow. Peace will come through understanding.

June 8, 2000
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murmyrrh, I can't direct you to a specific place in San Diego, but I can give you a push to the phone book. Please look in the front of the phonebook where they list emergency numbers and call the mental health hotline.

And, murmyrrh, yes, it is an emergency that you feel depressed. People sometimes think "emergency" means only life or death situations. It doesn't. It means any time you feel the need.

Tell the person who answers the same powerful statement you made here: I am depressed. I need help. I don't know where to go. I want you to tell me what to do.
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Obviously, I have a comment about your racism discussion. Racism belongs to humanity. You aren't required to solve it.

Think about this. People are entitled to hate each other. They're just not entitled to act on it in a way that deprives another person or people of their human or legal rights. There's a difference, and that difference puts all the power in your hands.

The hatred in somebody else's heart isn't your problem or your business, as long as it doesn't get directed to you. If it does get directed to you, you have the power and the right to walk out, to tell off, to tell on, to bring the law down on.

If the hatred is in your own heart, you have the power over that, too. You can talk about it until it's resolved with the person you get as a result of your phone call to the mental health hot line/crisis center.

Your life is precious.

June 8, 2000
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Contact :
YWCA of San Diego County
1012C st.
San Diego, Ca.92101 - 5544
tel :(619) 239-0355
fax :(619) 233-8545

June 8, 2000
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My mom is Vietnamese and came to this country during the lastpart of the Vietnam War. She experienced so much racism, people spat on her and refused to talk to her and sometimes even moved away so they wouldn't sit next to her. but she never even registers it. A few years ago she gave me a book called "Man's Search for Meaning" by Viktor Frankl. He was a Jewish psychiatrist who spent over 6 years in Auschwitz during WWII, who lost his whole family and his very much loved wife to the gas chambers.

What an experience of racism, right? Genocide. Yet, he bears no bitterness or anger towards the Nazis. How is that possible, when they completely took away every aspect of his life he cherished? Because, as he said, when everything is taken away from a man, the only thing left that he owns is the attitude he takes in any given situation.

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