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He moves in tomorrow
September 24, 2008
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Joe is moving in tomorrow. I am nervous about it all. A friend is going to drive him here. He has been texting me all day today. I think be is going crazy in his bed right now.

I am letting him move in as a friend. I am doing this all as a friend. I have a feeling I am falling for him again. That scares me a lot.

September 25, 2008
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take things slow, let things develop as they should, & wishing you the best!!!

September 25, 2008
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All the best to you...keep us posted!

September 25, 2008
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Be careful my dear...keep it friends...Maybe he is excited because he feels the same way.....Just sit back and see what he does to show you how he acts living with him on a daily basis, and if you want to be with someone of his personality type. Look at everything before you start fantasizinig on a relationship and love. Better to be careful and smart about this. We are way past the puppy love crush and wasting years.....

September 25, 2008
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I think the maine concern here should be his healthy recovery. The other can be worked out later. Just care for him as you would any friend that had been so terribly hurt.

September 26, 2008
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Wow what a day. It is so sad to see him in his state. He is trying so hard. He has his food in shakes. Slim fasts. I asked him why he wanted that. Apparently he is embarrassed to try and eat. He can not really grip anything. He can move his fingers a little, but not enough to really cut food. He is too proud to ask for the help. So now I must make mashed potatoes and bite sized food. He has already lost a lot of weight.

What gets me is he is still trying to go the extra mile. When we sat down to dinner he still pulled out my chair. He said he wants to help me with my business and cleaning around the house. I know I have to let him do something. I do not feel comfortable with the idea quiet yet. I think he deserves a break. Am I wrong?

His dog was so happy to see him. He finally went to bed. I do not think he is asleep though. I want to give him his space, yet be there. He is not the kind who wants to be babied.

I cannot sleep for the life of me. I am glad I took Thursday and Friday off. I am excited, yet scared. I want him to get better. I am willing to do what it takes. I am just worried because he is such a hard head.

September 26, 2008
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(((Confused))), Hang in there and take a breather. Try to rest because you will need it. I encourage you both to communicate through this thing, starting with the fact that, you are so happy you are able to help him but you are scared and unsure if you can do it right. I'm sure he is as scared as you are because this is a big deal. A really big deal! His family wouldn't even do it, so I'm sure he appreciated the magnitude of what you are doing for him.

Remember he is not a baby so you do not have to think of every move that has to be made alone. Let him guide and direct you to what he needs and how he needs it. Perhaps in your talk about the day to day living arrangement, you can discuss this. Also let him know what you can and cannot do. Remember to leave time for you to have a life, otherwise, he will feel really guilty. He will feel better if he knows you are able to live as close to normal a life as you were living before he came there. If you completely self-sacrifice for him, he may feel too burdened by that.

Keep posting... We are here for you!

September 27, 2008
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It is very odd to have someone here with me. I have had my own place for the longest time. I have had guest over. This time it is different. He is here for a while. Living alone is nice and all, but having someone here. It does make a difference. I can leave and no be so worried when I walk in the door. There have been times where I have made someone come over because I did not want to walk in by myself. Yet then there are the things you cannot do. I was playing with a candle for no real reason and he came up out of no where and asked me what I was doing.

His family hasn't even called. Correction his Grandparents have. His friends have called to get the real 411. In all honesty he wont tell them what is going on. Not that I want to step on his toes about that. Which the line is a bit hairy. I have an obligation to both those who need a score card and him. I do not plan to give them all information. More so the stuff that isn't to big. Which typing has got me thinking about even that.

He is really pulling his weight. I want him to take a chill pill. I think he deserves that. But nooooo he wont do that. He has been moving all day in some way. I don't want to be his mother. I am worried about his pain. He seems to be in a great deal of it today. After all he was going around in his wheelchair sweeping. Plus he was folding clothes and playing with his dog.

I am so tempted to check on him now. I do not want to be over bearing. He is too stubborn sometimes. Now being one of those times.

I heard him screaming last night. Sounded like he was in pain. I went in his bedroom. Sure enough he is trashing around. I am thinking about switching to my workout room so I can hear him better.

Then again he is a grown man. I do not think he knows what is good for him. I can tell he is thankful for not being in the hospital. Honestly, that is where he would be right now and until he was better. I worry about him. I have told him this and he gets defensive and changes the subject.

That seems to be his mechanism. He does not like to show weakness. The last time he showed it was when he had to put his dog down. He talked for months about it. Crying every night. And in the right time talking about his dog will make him cry.

I think he wants to cry now. I mean come on everyone jumped ship on him. His mother hasn't even called to ask how he was doing. It is more of a party for her. Which hey she wanted him out, and got that. I believe there should be a little more compassion on her part. Hell he was moving out in October anyways.

I am at lost. If anyone has some advice I welcome it. I would love to hear what Ma Strong has to say as well.

September 27, 2008
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Please overlook (and forgive) my ignorance, but I don't know the "history" or background on Joe, his physical condition (and its cause) or why he moved in with you. Can you give me a brief refresher? I would like to support you in any way possible.

- Ma Strong

September 27, 2008
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Ma Strong

Joe aka Mr.Amazing was running one night and a drunk ran into him. He was in the hospital for a while after that. His mother did not want to deal with him after he got out. He is a bit broken to say the least. My parents said they would pitch in and help out. So I took on the responsibility.

My parents are in the medical field and I have some experience as well. Plus there is a nurse that is coming in every couple of days to check in.

He has one badly broken side really. Meaning his left leg and arm are in casts. His right side is a little bit better. He only broke his ankle and has a hair line in his leg. He other arm has a hair line in it.

He can get around pretty well. His right arm cast should come off next week. He was in great shape so that helped him out a lot.

September 29, 2008
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Any advice?

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