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Haven't posted in awhile - - CrazyPink
March 23, 2009
12:16 am
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Hi everyone!

I know, I haven't posted in awhile. I got a job promotion, so I have been extremely busy with working 11 hrs a day, and now one of my dogs has a hot spot and needs to go outside a lot so I'm busy rushing home and whatnot. But anyways...I have a problem. I could and would really appreciate some help with it.

How can I get over the past? Things of course happen, people change, and people do stupid things, careless things...how do I get over such things? I have always thought of my future. So anything and everything I have done, or will do, is to get me ready for my future. Is to prepare myself for the life that I want. I have a very hard time understanding why most people don't do this or think this way. Any clue?? Ok, example, I want to live in a white picket fenced house with a garden and rabbits. I want two kids, a loving husband who likes to be outdoors, and lots of dogs. So, I am working towards that by getting an education, regular doctor checkups, and I've already got two gorgeous dogs that will go well in my white picket fence. None of that will be given to me so I'm working for it. How do other people expect things to be handed to them? Now with the past thing, it's like ok its in the past, get over it. But how? Example. I have only slept with 2 people. Both of whom I was in a relationship with and very committed. I kept and cont to keep that number low because that action is very special, very sincere. I want my partner to feel special when I do choose to sleep with them. Make them feel like they are someone, something, that I chose to share something so delicate with them. As I want to feel when I sleep with someone that I am special to them, that I'm not just a lay, and that it means something to them as much as it does to me. Do guys not think this way? Am I a little old fashion? I know i've rambled sorry....any advice or help would be greatly appreciated.

March 23, 2009
7:15 am
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Hello and welcome back. It's good to see you post.

I read your post and my thought was, this woman is doing much better it sounds like.

There really are no easy answers when it comes to love. I think you are a very mature woman who is focused with goals and dreams. You have direction. I think the thing is that you are very young, and most people your age don't really think ahead like you, which is what is causing your frustration.

I have to be honest. When I was your age, I was engaged. I was married at 21. Looking back, it was just way too young. I know that's not what you want to hear, but really it's true. I wish I would have spent more time at 21 on myself, I would have never gotten married so young if I would have. Guys your age just want to get laid. Really Pink, I don't think there is anything wrong with that in a way. I think when you are young, tying yourself down to one person really steals a lot of growing up that a person needs to do.

I was divorced at 29. Then I followed up with 2 really bad relationships. It's taken me a long time to realize "Hey dummy, wake up before it's too late and you keep dating the wrong guy." I spent a lot of time focusing on myself after I realized that. What do I want? What do I need? When I'm alone, how do I spend my time? What is important to me in a partner? What can I tolerate, not tolerate?

You should date lots of guys pink. No, not sleep with them. Go out on dates. get to know people. have fun. walk your dogs. Hang out with friends. When you do meet the man of your dreams and have the things in life that you want, you will look back and realize that all the days of being single, were really good experiences to get you to where you want to be. It will happen. trust me.


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