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Have I burnt my bridges?
February 27, 2006
10:59 am
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nirvana
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Help. I'm in love with someone who seems to have Narcissistic tendencies. For months now he's been stringing me along, promising to meet up 'soon' whenever I asked him for a date but never delivering. He also has a habit of not replying to messages unless he feels like it. At the weekend I was so low I sent him a text, telling him that I'm very disappointed that once again he won't make a date, that on the basis of his behaviour I had to accept that a relationship wasn't possible and that I wouldn't be chasing him anymore.

I did ask him to keep in touch and let me know how he was doing but he didn't respond. I know that in the long run I have done the right thing but in the short term it's too drastic to think he's completely out of my life, it hurts so much! Have I burn all my bridges by being so up front and showing up his failings, or will he respond after a while, if I contact him under some unconnected pretext?

February 27, 2006
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Nirvana...if he has N tendencies, then you haven't burnt any bridge, because as far as he is concerned, there was probably no bridge there to begin with....I'm sorry to sound so harsh, but I am familiar with the way N's think, he probably doesn't even really care that you don't want a relationship, and if he does, then he's certainly NOT going to tell you he does. Just leave this...if he wants to respond he will, if he doesn't, there is nothing you can do, but at least now, you can take control of your own life and stop wasting time waiting on him.

Jeez....I wish I could take my own advice! Well...I will take my own advice, cuz it sounds like a good idea!!

February 27, 2006
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I agree with Rev, Nirvana. It seems he's just not that into you (no fault of your own, it's really all about him). He sounds like the kind of guy that you would always be wondering about, emotionally, and golly, that's just not worth it, is it? We deserve nothing less than to be cherished, adored, and most of all, respected, in our lives. You're not getting that from him. Time to move on! 🙂

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