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Has anyone ever heard of BPD or know someone suffering with it?
December 5, 2001
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My best friend in this world has just been diagnosed with this disorder. The complete name is Borderline Personality Disorder. It can rob you blind without proper help and nourishment from your greatest supporters. I am hoping to find someone who knows where I am with this.

Thanks and God bless,
Dee 🙂

December 5, 2001
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My best friend from high school has it. It is not so bad

December 5, 2001
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I think the gal in the movie "Girl Interrupted" was diagnosed with that. I think it's based on a book by the same name, which I think it an autobiography of sorts. There must be more out there about it.

December 12, 2001
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BPD: Borderine Personality Disorder is a most complicated disorder of all the mental disorders. I am BORDERLINE. And I'm not afraid to say it anymore.

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DSM-IV criteria
The DSM-IV gives these nine criteria; a diagnosis requires that the subject present with at least five of these. In I Hate You -- Don't Leave Me! Jerold Kriesman and Hal Straus refer to BPD as "emotional hemophilia; [a borderline] lacks the clotting mechanism needed to moderate his spurts of feeling. Stimulate a passion, and the borderline emotionally bleeds to death."

Traits involving emotions:
Quite frequently people with BPD have a very hard time controlling their emotions. They may feel ruled by them. One researcher (Marsha Linehan) said, "People with BPD are like people with third degree burns over 90% of their bodies. Lacking emotional skin, they feel agony at the slightest touch or movement."
1. Shifts in mood lasting only a few hours.

2. Anger that is inappropriate, intense or uncontrollable.

Traits involving behavior:
3. Self-destructive acts, such as self-mutilation or suicidal threats and gestures that happen more than once
4. Two potentially self-damaging impulsive behaviors. These could include alcohol and other drug abuse, compulsive spending, gambling, eating disorders, shoplifting, reckless driving, compulsive sexual behavior.

Traits involving identity
5. Marked, persistent identity disturbance shown by uncertainty in at least two areas. These areas can include self-image, sexual orientation, career choice or other long-term goals, friendships, values. People with BPD may not feel like they know who they are, or what they think, or what their opinions are, or what religion they should be. Instead, they may try to be what they think other people want them to be. Someone with BPD said, "I have a hard time figuring out my personality. I tend to be whomever I'm with."
6. Chronic feelings of emptiness or boredom. Someone with BPD said, "I remember describing the feeling of having a deep hole in my stomach. An emptiness that I didn't know how to fill. My therapist told me that was from almost a "lack of a life". The more things you get into your life, the more relationships you get involved in, all of that fills that hole. As a borderline, I had no life. There were times when I couldn't stay in the same room with other people. It almost felt like what I think a panic attack would feel like."

Traits involving relationships
7. Unstable, chaotic intense relationships characterized by splitting (see below).
8. Frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment

Splitting: the self and others are viewed as "all good" or "all bad." Someone with BPD said, "One day I would think my doctor was the best and I loved her, but if she challenged me in any way I hated her. There was no middle ground as in like. In my world, people were either the best or the worst. I couldn't understand the concept of middle ground."
Alternating clinging and distancing behaviors (I Hate You, Don't Leave Me). Sometimes you want to be close to someone. But when you get close it feels TOO close and you feel like you have to get some space. This happens often.
Great difficulty trusting people and themselves. Early trust may have been shattered by people who were close to you.
Sensitivity to criticism or rejection.
Feeling of "needing" someone else to survive
Heavy need for affection and reassurance
Some people with BPD may have an unusually high degree of interpersonal sensitivity, insight and empathy
9. Transient, stress-related paranoid ideation or severe dissociative symptoms

This means feeling "out of it," or not being able to remember what you said or did. This mostly happens in times of severe stress.
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Life with BPD isn't life at all. It's a living death with a constant need for help.

~Good luck~

December 12, 2001
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I hope people do not read this diagnosis, and think they too have this disorder. Cloud, I am sure you are being treated well, and have good care takers, and want to thank you for your openess in sharing.
I have real problems with this diagnosis, not the way it is printed, please do not get me wrong, but just like co-dependency, I think it is way to loose, and way to generic. Sometimes I think there is this agenda, to some how make us all controlled in the box people, true, its the degree to which the behavior is demonstrated on a scale, but in reading as I have done many a time, this BPD disorder in the general non specific outline given by the DSM would fit most of the population on any given day. I resent that, and those that profit from it. Opps, perhaps this is inappropriate anger, or perhaps I am in denial. My opinion Cloud, and I sincerely do not mean to offend you, or have you doubt the progress in your treatment. thank you for posting.

December 12, 2001
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I guess when I posted those DSM Criteria, I was only trying to give a "glimpse" into what BPD is. I just wanted to put the basics out there. It was not my intention to say that all people with BPD possess all of those traits or that non-BP's don't possess any of those traits, because the general population does possess some or even all of those traits, just to a lesser degree than a BP. I'm sorry if I shouldn't have posted them. I hope no one is mad.

December 13, 2001
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I just got out of a relationship with A BPD. in the beginning I thought of him as very passionate and very exciting. As the relationship progressed a few months he told me that he had been diagnosed with the disorder and that he felt I needed to know. I did not think it was any big deal. I did some research on the net and went to few good sites that describe what it is all about.(BPD CENTRAL is a good one) Eventually I found myself starting to "walk on eggs" around him as I did not know what kind of mood he was in or reaction I would get, but I tried to put it into perspective and not take it personally.
It was his sexual obsessions that finally brought the depth of his disorder home, and his reactions to my refusal to accept his behavior. He revealed to me some past history that was shocking. He eventually kind of cracked up and it has been over for a few months now. Maybe I thought my love (or as Blondie calls the "magic vagina") would change/help him. I feel fortunate that it is over, and I hope he gets the help he needs. He went to counselors, did the Prozac, and even entered a sexual rehab but left after a week. We all need help once in a while but I felt he was not really making the effort.gg

December 13, 2001
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Cloud, it was just a rant of mine, I do that once and a while, this information was valuable, there is no doubt, and I tried to be clear that it was a personal opinion, I have an agenda. Please never be sorry, your contribution may have helped some one, you never know.

December 13, 2001
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Ok, no prob.

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