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Harrassed and scared
January 11, 2006
3:39 am
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Hi, I used to be in a relationship with a guy who was extremely verbally abusive. Thankfully i got out! We still remained in contact, and there were occassional moments where i thought i might go back as he "seemed" to have had changed. But in the end, i realised it just wasn't worth it, got out, and told him i didnt want to even be friends anymore and wanted to send all contact. He "seemed" at the time to understand, and understand why.

Anyway to cut a lot story short, i met another man recently. When he realised this meant we were definately over, he lost it.

He called my mobile, sent messages, and even called my work place several times. Although my work mate knew my sistuation, and fended off the calls, it was still annoying. He keeps threatening to tell people all the secrets i trusted him with, and to ruin my life, and says how this other guy will never want me, and his family will hate me when they find out the "real" me. The real me is apparently someone bad etc etc according to him.

Anyway i just dont know what to do. I know i can't control him, but how do i deal with it, if he tells personal matters about me to everyone, and keeps calling my work, and mobile, and harrassing me.

For now, he has just vanished, all calls etc ceased,..... but i know him, and it wont be long before something starts up again.

I thought i had moved on from all this months ago, and now it started again. I am continue to remain "no-contact", but he still doesnt get the messages, and tells me how i am just confusing myself, i am meant to be with him etc etc.

I have spent the last 2 days with extreme anxiety, especially every time the phone rings. I also wonder what he will tell people, what he may lie about, what if this new man i met believes his lies.

He has just become obsessed, and i am scared, anxious, even sick at the thought of how i used to love this guy. I can't stand him, and i just am so thankful i saw the REAL him! But now..... how do i get rid of the REAL him.

January 11, 2006
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where are you from and how old are you

January 11, 2006
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This is harrasment and stalking - get an order of protection...shouldn't be hard, cuz you have proof.

Also - next time he calls - warn him you will do this.

January 11, 2006
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have a long talk with the new guy first and let him know what is going on. he will be supportive if he cares about you. and what this creep is doing is against the law. contact the police and give them his phone number and address. they can stop it before it becomes violent.

January 12, 2006
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I agree with lookingforwardmum - talk with this new guy, if he doesn't understand then would you want a relationship with him anyway? If the ex keeps phoning keep a whistle by the phone and just blow it when you know it's him and put the phone down. Do not under any circumstances communicate with this guy - he will interperet ANY conversation as hopeful.

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