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hard time trusting hubby anyone need advice
January 15, 2006
7:17 am
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chloeysmomma
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iam having a difficult time trying to really trust my hubby it sbeen that way forever but now i cant and i want to i dont know iam scared someone help

January 15, 2006
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Hey Chloe - Have you ever considered couple counseling?

January 15, 2006
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Chloeys:

Hi, how r ya?

Trusting hubby. I may not be the one to comment on this coz after 13 years I cannot say I totally trust hubby. He lied to me about drugs and has lied to me for 12 years. He finally, 19 months ago, had a turnaround that he says he'll never smoke pot or anything again. I want desperately to believe him, but it just doesn't come, specially when he wants to go where he did his token anyway. I try really hard to trust, but it just doesn't "completely" come. It has gotten easier w/ time, but total trust is not there.

Does hubby still go to or do what he could not be trusted for? If so, it's gonna be really hard to trust. What I do is try to smile and say "see ya later" and then am sad when he walks thru that door. Sso, I guess that's the best I can offer to ya, is to do your best. It's all you can do. Maybe when the feelings come do something that will distract you from thinkin on it.

Ras' suggestion as to counseling is the best idea of you can get im to go also. My hubby and I did counseling and it was a definite plus.

Don't keep it harbored within. It will only hurt you in the long run. Vent here or to a friend you can trust to not repeat.

January 15, 2006
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Trust until they show themselves untrustworthy. Then, ask for the work to be done to rebuild bridges. Ironically, my husband used to build bridges for a living, but he doesn't know how emotionally.

LL

January 16, 2006
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chloe

Can you elaberate on why you don't trust him?

tink

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