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April 16, 2004
5:18 am
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Ya know, I have random "thinkings."

I was thinking how I used to think romeo and I were happy.

Well, I know that God has someone out there for me who'll make me even more happy. I can't even begin to imagine just how things will be once I meet Mr. Right.

shrug. I don't know. Thought I'd just like to share.

April 16, 2004
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Below is an exerpt from Melody
Beattie's book "The Language of Letting Go" dated April 10.
I read it for my Saturday Coda
Using Others to Stop Our Pain

Our Happiness is not a present someone
else holds in his or her hands. Our
well-being is not held by another to
be given or withheld at whim. If we
reach out and try to force someone to
give us what we believe he or she holds, we will be disappointed. We will discover that it is an illusion.
The person didn't hold it. He or she never shall. That beautifully wrapped
box with the ribbon on it that we believed contained our happiness that
someone was holding -it's an illusion.

In those moments when we a re trying to reach out and force someone to stop our pain and create our joy, if
we can find the courage to stop flailing about and instead stand still
and deal with our issues, we will find
our happiness.

Yes, it is true that if someone steps on our foot, he or she is hurting us and therefore holds the power to stop our pain by removing his or her foot.
But the pain is still ours. And so is the responsibility to tell someone
to stop stepping on our feet.

Healing will come when we're aware of how we attempt to use others to stop our pain and create our happiness. We
will heal from the past. We will receive insights that can change the course of our relationships.

We will see that, all along, our happiness and our well-being have been in our hands. We have held that box. The contents ar ours for the opening.

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